Daddy's Little Girl

I couldn't handle being ignored or treated roughly. No. Just no.
Even the thought of displeasing makes me feel terrible. I'm very aware of being a good girl...because anything less would break my heart at letting Him down.

And we like calling you that... because we know it makes you feel valued and treasured and respected :)
 
Even the thought of displeasing makes me feel terrible. I'm very aware of being a good girl...because anything less would break my heart at letting Him down.

This is exactly how I feel. The mere thought of displeasing or disappointing (not to mention disobeying!) makes me feel horribly distressed. There couldn't be a punishment that would be worse than how I would feel at the knowledge that I'd failed him.
 
I couldn't handle being ignored or treated roughly. No. Just no.
Even the thought of displeasing makes me feel terrible. I'm very aware of being a good girl...because anything less would break my heart at letting Him down.[/QUOTE

OK, I totally relate to these 100%. I do. Is there anyone who is on **this** wavelength that would be willing to talk through a question I have in PM? Nothing untoward, I'm just trying to understand something about myself and sometimes I see myself most clearly in the mirror of someone who is **like me** if that makes sense?
 
OK, I totally relate to these 100%. I do. Is there anyone who is on **this** wavelength that would be willing to talk through a question I have in PM? Nothing untoward, I'm just trying to understand something about myself and sometimes I see myself most clearly in the mirror of someone who is **like me** if that makes sense?

Sending a pm now
 
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I couldn't handle being ignored or treated roughly. No. Just no.
Even the thought of displeasing makes me feel terrible. I'm very aware of being a good girl...because anything less would break my heart at letting Him down.[/QUOTE

OK, I totally relate to these 100%. I do. Is there anyone who is on **this** wavelength that would be willing to talk through a question I have in PM? Nothing untoward, I'm just trying to understand something about myself and sometimes I see myself most clearly in the mirror of someone who is **like me** if that makes sense?

All questions are welcome .
You have to discover the real answers .
At times we are so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we feel we should ask the question and the OP should give us the answers we want .
Sadly in the real world there is often a slip .
Between the Cup and the lip.
 
All questions are welcome .
You have to discover the real answers .
At times we are so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we feel we should ask the question and the OP should give us the answers we want .
Sadly in the real world there is often a slip .
Between the Cup and the lip.

You're pretty new to Lit yourself, yet seem so sure of everything and everyone. I'm not quite sure how I feel about that, except it's made me very wary of you.

Why don't you introduce yourself to our little group, so we can get to know you better.
 
I couldn't handle being ignored or treated roughly. No. Just no.
Even the thought of displeasing makes me feel terrible. I'm very aware of being a good girl...because anything less would break my heart at letting Him down.

true, likewise, but you must be sure to stand up for yourself. Too many use the dynamic as a guise for what is inherently abuse.

Ignore me, and I'll walk.
Punish me unnecessarily, you can read me my rights.

As tough as I am, I need understanding and firm, yet compassionate discipline.

I'm totally screwed, though. The memory of my father, the greatest man to ever hold a place in my heart, set a very high bar. I was indescribably blessed to have had the relationship that I did with him. So many women I meet have terrible memories.


I'm certain no man will live up to his example, and, for that reason, I shall remain single.

I'm more concerned about my boys than I am for myself, though. There's only so much a mother can teach a young man.

Time will tell if I've made the right decisions.

 
"Winnie" was based off of Winnie the black bear in the London Zoo, who had received her from a Canadian soldier...

Fun fact: Winnie is short for "Winnipeg" which was the full name of the black bear that Christopher Robin Milne wanted to take home from the zoo, prompting his father to write the books...
 
"Winnie" was based off of Winnie the black bear in the London Zoo, who had received her from a Canadian soldier...

Fun fact: Winnie is short for "Winnipeg" which was the full name of the black bear that Christopher Robin Milne wanted to take home from the zoo, prompting his father to write the books...

I love these fun facts. I should have picked up a book from the library to read tonight.
 
What is a Daddy Doms Role?


The Four P's - Protector, Penalizer, Provider, Partner.

true, likewise, but you must be sure to stand up for yourself. Too many use the dynamic as a guise for what is inherently abuse.

Ignore me, and I'll walk.
Punish me unnecessarily, you can read me my rights.

As tough as I am, I need understanding and firm, yet compassionate discipline.


Before we get too far away from our topic of conversation, let me comment on what RA brought up.

During the conversation, the subject of discipline was brought up. Please, take a moment to go back and read, so that I don't have to quote. :D

As a submissive with no idea what to look for, I unwittingly chose a domineering mate. Not a dominant. These two things are, to me, polar opposites. Domineering, narcissitic mates are people who tear you down, not build you up. Emotional abuse is just as devasting as physical. You can't see the bruises on the inside. I know I'm not the only one, and I want any submissive reading this to know you aren't alone.

For some of us, any PYL who doesn't have the understanding that RA spoke of may do more harm emotionally to us. It's hard to stand up for ourselves because we need building up.

That's where the firm, compassionate discipline is imperative. Each of us has different needs. Take the time to get to know each other, ask the questions you need to ask... it's okay to say "no more" if the type of discipline you get hurts you rather than builds you up, causing you to feel safe and loved.

Thank you, RA, for posting this. I told you I was going to comment, because I loved what you said. In my opinion, your boys will do just fine as you teach them to respect any young lady they have an interest in. (Good girl, mama) :rose:
 
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Before we get too far away from our topic of conversation, let me comment on what RA brought up.

During the conversation, the subject of discipline was brought up. Please, take a moment to go back and read, so that I don't have to quote. :D

As a submissive with no idea what to look for, I unwittingly chose a domineering mate. Not a dominant. These two things are, to me, polar opposites. Domineering, narcissitic mates are people who tear you down, not build you up. Emotional abuse is just as devasting as physical. You can't see the bruises on the inside. I know I'm not the only one, and I want any submissive reading this to know you aren't alone.

For some of us, any PYL who doesn't have the understanding that RA spoke of may do more harm emotionally to us. It's hard to stand up for ourselves because we need building up.

That's where the firm, compassionate discipline is imperative. Each of us has different needs. Take the time to get to know each other, ask the questions you need to ask... it's okay to say "no more" if the type of discipline you get hurts you rather than builds you up, causing you to feel safe and loved.

Thank you, RA, for posting this. I told you I was going to comment, because I loved what you said. In my opinion, your boys will do just fine as you teach them to respect any young lady they have an interest in. (Good girl, mama) :rose:

:rose:
 
Before we get too far away from our topic of conversation, let me comment on what RA brought up.

During the conversation, the subject of discipline was brought up. Please, take a moment to go back and read, so that I don't have to quote. :D

As a submissive with no idea what to look for, I unwittingly chose a domineering mate. Not a dominant. These two things are, to me, polar opposites. Domineering, narcissitic mates are people who tear you down, not build you up. Emotional abuse is just as devasting as physical. You can't see the bruises on the inside. I know I'm not the only one, and I want any submissive reading this to know you aren't alone.

For some of us, any PYL who doesn't have the understanding that RA spoke of may do more harm emotionally to us. It's hard to stand up for ourselves because we need building up.

That's where the firm, compassionate discipline is imperative. Each of us has different needs. Take the time to get to know each other, ask the questions you need to ask... it's okay to say "no more" if the type of discipline you get hurts you rather than builds you up, causing you to feel safe and loved.

Thank you, RA, for posting this. I told you I was going to comment, because I loved what you said. In my opinion, your boys will do just fine as you teach them to respect any young lady they have an interest in. (Good girl, mama) :rose:

Such an important distinction and warning! I hope you were able to escape from your domineering mate. I see this happening with my former baby girl. Her current daddy is an insecure, narcissistic, controlling, abusive bastard. He didn't show his true colors for a while, but now she is feeling trapped as he cut her off from her family and friends, made her financially dependent, and threatens her with exposing her previous relationships (including informing my wife).

We are able to chat now and then, but rarely as he keeps such a close tab on her. I am beside myself trying to think of ways of helping her beyond just being their to listen to her and remind her how special, capable, and beautiful she actually is. I wish there was an easy solution for her to get away from his abuse...
 
Goodbye Christopher Robin

Got to watch it on a very long flight recently. Disturbing insights actually into the reality of life for Christopher Robin...

I will have to add that to my list of things I want to see.
So far, all I have is Paddington 2 and this. I'm not hard to please. :D

Such an important distinction and warning! I hope you were able to escape from your domineering mate. I see this happening with my former baby girl. Her current daddy is an insecure, narcissistic, controlling, abusive bastard. He didn't show his true colors for a while, but now she is feeling trapped as he cut her off from her family and friends, made her financially dependent, and threatens her with exposing her previous relationships (including informing my wife).

We are able to chat now and then, but rarely as he keeps such a close tab on her. I am beside myself trying to think of ways of helping her beyond just being their to listen to her and remind her how special, capable, and beautiful she actually is. I wish there was an easy solution for her to get away from his abuse...

Yes, I did, thank you.

I don't envy your friend's position, those things are hard to break free of, but I'm glad that she has you to talk to. There's not much anyone can do for her until she's ready to walk away. That's when all the friendships will become more helpful to her. :rose:
 
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