Dad and the kids are dead. The fighting ends.

[FlamingoBlue]

I was scheduled to start a child custody trial next week in a very high conflict divorce case. I received a telehone call today that changed all that.

You see, Mom and Dad have been fighting about who was the better parent for the past 1 1/2 years. The children, were ages 3, 5 and 7. I believe that they loved both of their parents. Each of the parents believed themselves right and each had expert testimony to back them up. Now, none of that matters.

Over the weekend, Dad was driving with the children when his car was struck head on by another car. Dad and the 3 children were killed. The divorce and the custody dispute are over,forever.

Mom was my client. She is beside herself with grief. I can't tell you how many times she told me that she wished Dad was dead. She got her wish.

And so it goes....

blue

 

[*bratcat*]

OMG, blue...

 

[Merelan]

The poor woman, those words will haunt her forever. She never really meant them, but will take a long time to understand she did not bring it about.
And as for you. What a tragic end to an alreayd tragic situation.

I need to go hug my Mom now... see you later.

 

[OUTSIDER]

Be very careful what you wish for folk's.

very sad indeed.

 

[Beebeeblue]

That is... in my words...FUCKED UP!


I would go crazy with guilt ove that one.

 

[shadowsource]

I wouldn't!

Words don't kill. That's why we still have the First Amendment. No one should feel guilty for saying that, even if it comes true.

 

[Chuckus]

Sorry to hear that Blue...........that is a tough situation. I cannot even imagine the grief the ex-wife is feeling or that pain.

As it was said earlier in this thread, Be Careful what you wish for ~ You just might get it (and with other consequences also......)

 

[Always]

be careful what you say, you may regret it
careful what you wish you just might get it...

this (kid of) happened to a friend of mine - the first time in her life she wished her mother would die, she did, four days later. she's still on a guilt trip.

 

[pabloback]

life is strange
reminds me of that song
isnt it ironic

 

[Cheyenne]

Funny, there is a bitter divorce I am close to right now. I just said today I would pray for the death of the husband. Out of character for me, I know, but the truth. I'll add an amendment to my prayer to spare the child if God is good enough to take the husband. And if he actually does die? I'll dance on his grave. No guilt for the wish.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

More bad news....

I just got a call. Mom tried to kill herself. She's been hospitalized. Fuck. Just Fuck!!!

blue

 

[p_p_man]

Things like that told to us by someone...

we know makes the whole thing personal.

Puts everything else into perspective doesn't it?

 

[FlamingoBlue]

My professional life is all about....

perspective. I often compare what I do to being a funeral director. I try to bury dead marriages with dignity.The parties rarely let it happen. And what happens is that I get dragged into the grave with them.

And you say, "Be aloof. It's just a job." Well let me tell you that I am not so well insulated that this kinda stuff doesn't take it's toll on me. That's why I only handle 10-12 clients each year.

Think about this. no one that comes to me is happy. Not one single person.

Fuck. Just fuck!!!

blue

 

[Ksss]

Blue...


You have a sensitive side to you which makes you vulnerable to each of your cases. And when you have a week/month as you have had, it's understandable to feel the tragedy. (((((Blue))))

 

[thumbs2_ca]

I just want to add my condolences too Blue.
It is so special to go through life actually caring about the people you handle. I hope if I ever need another lawyer I am lucky enough to find someone like you.