D/s Question...

[*bratcat*]

 

[Guest]

MHO...

BDSM is not about abuse. Many people have that misconception. I was not abused as a child. I was not molested as a child. Yes, I was sexually playful as I grew up (as I am sure most people out there were). D/s is something I crave. I love it, I enjoy it. The lifestyle is a part of my life. And, in crude terms, I cannot cum from 'nilla sex. I need BDSM in my life. It is something that I happened to discover more and more as time went on. As I aged more, I learned more about the lifestyle and my needs in it.

 

[*bratcat*]

so "nilla" sex is

 

[Guest]

My Man and I are equals. Hell, I'm prolly one of the biggest bitches I know outside of the "bedroom". And, I sure as hell speak my mind. And, I am not a domestic slave. I am a sexual submissive. And, yes, I do happen to like mild pain sexually. (Meaning I don't "get off" when I stub my toe.) It enhanses the experience for me and makes sex much better.

 

[*bratcat*]

I hope noone is taking offence to this...

 

[Guest]

To someone who doesn't understand, it's hard to explain. (And, no, I'm not being a bitch.) I don't know how to explain the feeling. For me, to have my ass spanked, nipples tugged on, tits slapped, pussy slapped, candle wax poured on my body, etc, is a wonderful feeling and experience and I love it greatly.

 

[Mr.curious]

I was a late bloomer. When my sweety asked me if I'd like to learn more about it, I found it's more about Love than anything else. We haven't played too many times yet, But keep our fantasies and games fresh in out minds.
The one thing to remember that it has to be SAFE.
There are many different ways of lifestyle, It all depends on the people participating. It need to be something both people want.
And always discuss it with your partner.
I love my lady very much and would never do anything she didn't agree with. As far as I'm conserned it's all about Love. Pure and simple Love. Sorry didn't mean to ramble on so much.
Just remember if your going to try it learn about it first, and always play safe.
(honey I got the toys oiled)

 

[Demian]

Tiggs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GET OVER HERE, NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!How do you like that by the Hair? Huh?!!!!!

SAWY? DID YOU SAY SAWY?

[mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, Tiggs]

I'm into Tiggs Spirit in this World

 

[WriterDom]

There are survivors of abuse that are into bdsm, but I've known too many women who had wonderful childhoods and no abuse that enjoy power exchange to say there is any correlation. Often these submissive feelings manifest very early. I had one friend who used to steal her brother's GI Joe and have him tie up Barbie.

BDSM couples do everything sexually that vanillas do, but we get just as much rush from the scenes. (or, in the case of some, more) It's almost like a change of consciousness- you'll hear subs speak of going into sub-space.

And if you aren't interested, we aren't out to recruit you. We just want to be left to our fun