D/s as a Lifestyle

[TigerClaw]

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[Krinaia]

I have been talking to a Domme for sometime now. She has been teaching me quite a bit. Now, I feel I need more advice from some Dom's and female subs.

I had originally expected this to be in the Bedroom with some few agreed things outside of the bedroom. It has grown into something evern greater and broader then I had first imagined.

One thing that I like is the touching and affection. Is this a need a female sub has?

Cock worship / Cock petting. How prevailent is the need for a sub to touch her Dom.

Water sports. Peeing for or in front of your Dom. Pee Denial as punishment or a turn on. Being parted and held as you pee. What are your thoughts?

Okay - the peeing thing, not a turn on but its something I am willing to try if it turns on any dominant I'm with. Personally, I prefer privacy in the bathroom - to pluck my eyebrows, go potty, even to floss - but I completely understand that he may want to take away these needs of privacy.

As to the touching thing - every touch helps in building the relationship. If I'm yelled at everytime I touch him without permission - then I'm going to feel like crap, and I'm going to feel used in a way that is not good. I do need to be able to touch him, to go to him. And I'd hate to be denied touching his cock on the sly. I think as long as I never did it in such a way that was obviously out of place, or not at a good time - say at dinner with his parents. And I would agree that while we were sceneing I would need permission. But if we're cuddling on the couch... well I suppose it wouldn't matter if I just reached over and touched him or if I asked permission - point would be that I did and he enjoyed it and I enjoyed it and we felt closer for that contact.

I need to be touched too. Once upon a time I was scared I wouldn't like being touched. But I do. I love being cuddled. I love when we're lying in bed and my leg touches his or I can curl up to his back and smell him. (all these hims being some hypothetical him).... I will admit to one thing. I REALLY dislike when people come up behind me unawares. I have a real problem with that - it makes me jump. And I hate being jumpy. I usually work with my back to a wall so that people can't do that. So for instance if I was cooking and he came up behind me and put his arms around me... if he doesn't make a nose or say something to warn me he's behind me first... well I cannot be responsible for my reaction (which might include, jumping, spilling things, screaming or just yelling)

 

[lark sparrow]

Touching/affection is a need, yes... but not always. A bit more formality is also appreciated at times here.

Nope, can't say I have a need for cock worship/petting, but I'd bet the straight female subs may share a difference of need.

I tend towards a little privacy unless it's a scene involving pee play, but I have been "relieved" of that privilege in a 'no closed doors' rule and it definitely has it's own merits.

 

[TigerClaw]

touching is important to me. I met many a woman when I was younger that didnt like the touching. I know now it is something I just do, I like to sleep next to my woman, caress and hold.

Being that it was such a problem when I was younger I do look for women that like to be touched.