cymbidia?

[Cath!]

I had to leave for a couple of hours to cool off and look at things as you may have seen them.

I am sorry if you misinterpreted two emails. One - the first one - I sent only as a light way to offer a bit of support...nothing was meant in seriousness...he is not/never was my kind of lifestyle person AND most importantly....he always was/always will be....YOURS!

The second one was sent as a Happy Birthday line...I have that copy as you sent it to me.

I am sorry that you took both of those to be a poke at you as a person or with any disrespect to you.

I realize that you are furious with me and have said things that both of us will remember for a long time.

I have not/nor ever will "approach" anyone that is attached in any way to someone else. There are many names that I could direct you to with that proof...but that is not for this post.

This is not a post to prove me innocent. It is not a post to continue the drama. It is a post to offer sincere apologies for having hurt you inadvertantly. That is all I can offer. It is up to you to do what you wish with the apology.

Also, I am sorry for having started the other thread...but it was not a direct poke at you...it was truly a curiousity to see who shared passwords. I know you knew where I got the idea but I had chosen not to drag you into it.

Thank you again for editing that other post in Gilly's thread.
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Disclaimer: This thread was started so that my other thread would hopefully die in order to allow cymbidia and myself any time needed to sort through things. I would hope that if you (meaning all of the bb that has been watching) have anything to add...out of respect for cymbidia...you would do it here rather than there.

 

[cymbidia]

Apology accepted

...with a piece of advice:

Don't email warm, sweet hugs and kisses, and caring ears, and little coy winks about the email NOT being a come-on to someone who has just torn the fucking heart out of someone to whom you're publicly professing friendship.

Don't do it two weeks after the heart-wrench.
Don't do it at all.

If, however, you must do it for some unfathomable reason, at least have the deceny to tell the one who's been hurt that you've done so.

It's just not fucking believable that it wasn't meant as something underhandedly slutty when -if- that other woman sees it.

And if he doesn't respond to you, Cath?
Don't fucking email him again a while later to wish him a Happy Birthday. That's just one more step over the line of what is acceptable behavior with regard to situations like this one.

 

[Cath!]

as I said above...

your points are noted.

And I thank you for responding.

 

[Cheyenne]

*bump*

Battle is over between the participants. Maybe it can be over for the rest of us?

 

[Rambling Rose]

MY father has a saying..."Not every day is Yom Kippur".

This apology, while handled 'nicely', reads like another ass-kissing attempt to maintian your 'sweet and innocent' status on the board, Cath!. You and I have had very little to do with one another and after today that will continue to be the case. I don't trust you, I don't like you, and I don't want you to have any reason to think otherwise.

And it did not escape me that you chose to title your thread with the one person's name who has professed over and over her self consciousness and dislike for seeing a thread on the board with her name in the title. Jesus, woman...you can't win for losing.

 

[estevie]

MY father has a saying..."Not every day is Yom Kippur".

This apology, while handled 'nicely', reads like another ass-kissing attempt to maintian your 'sweet and innocent' status on the board, Cath!. You and I have had very little to do with one another and after today that will continue to be the case. I don't trust you, I don't like you, and I don't want you to have any reason to think otherwise.

And it did not escape me that you chose to title your thread with the one person's name who has professed over and over her self consciousness and dislike for seeing a thread on the board with her name in the title. Jesus, woman...you can't win for losing.

wtf?????? was this necessary??? Nice!

 

[Rambling Rose]

estevie?

a)I never said I was always nice. I can be compassionate, loyal, kind, temperate...many things, but I am not always nice and I don't need to apologize for that. I'm fine with me.

b)I know you and Cath! are friends and have been for a long time. I don't hold this against you. You are not responsible for her behaviour, but don't attempt to chastise me and sit in mock surprise because I think her apology rings hollow. It is my opinion and only that. Why does it bother you that I shared it with her?

 

[BratCath!]

 

[BratCath!]

I would like this to stay on the first page.

Please help me make this possible!

 

[Svedish_Chef]

Because its bullshit?

 

[cymbidia]

I would like this whole shameful affair to disappear into our collective unconcious.

I didn't behave in a way that makes me very proud of myself, to be honest. No matter the provocation, i should have handled this differently.

Let it go.
Don't post here again.
Please.

Paraphrasing both the Beatles and the Great and Powerful Oz (Dahlgren):
instant karma's gonna get... uh... whomever deserves it.

 

[BratCath!]