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first of all i dont think you are a fuckwit , but i did want to draw you in here to read this
many people admire and respect you on this board for your views insight and the help and advice you have given to others . while your lifestyle maynot suit everybody we all respect your right and desire to live that way . but recently you have become defensive and abusive to the point of paranoia and all over one word and its alleged insulting/non insulting status . nobody would argue that to use the word nigger towards black people would /could be accused of being offensive even if we know that balck people may use the word in their own peer groups if a racist were to use it on this board he would be flamed and rightly so. the fact is that a few individuals have decided that even though they have been informed by others that a word they use to describe people not into their way of life can be seen as inflamative and derogatory they have decided that this is an afront to them and their way of life. the openness and willingness and acceptance of their lifestyle shown to them by other members of lit is being flaunted and they have become arrogant and insulting . the bdsmers ask for people to accept them for who they are yet reject to show the same common courtesy they demand and expect from others.
it is not the word ,it is not any word , it is the context in which it is used that can be insulting , all people are asking is that you respect their views in the same way that they respect yours .
take a step back and look at the greater picture ,we are your friends and friends should be able to point out the error in each others ways without falling out
many people admire and respect you on this board for your views insight and the help and advice you have given to others . while your lifestyle maynot suit everybody we all respect your right and desire to live that way . but recently you have become defensive and abusive to the point of paranoia and all over one word and its alleged insulting/non insulting status . nobody would argue that to use the word nigger towards black people would /could be accused of being offensive even if we know that balck people may use the word in their own peer groups if a racist were to use it on this board he would be flamed and rightly so. the fact is that a few individuals have decided that even though they have been informed by others that a word they use to describe people not into their way of life can be seen as inflamative and derogatory they have decided that this is an afront to them and their way of life. the openness and willingness and acceptance of their lifestyle shown to them by other members of lit is being flaunted and they have become arrogant and insulting . the bdsmers ask for people to accept them for who they are yet reject to show the same common courtesy they demand and expect from others.
it is not the word ,it is not any word , it is the context in which it is used that can be insulting , all people are asking is that you respect their views in the same way that they respect yours .
take a step back and look at the greater picture ,we are your friends and friends should be able to point out the error in each others ways without falling out