Cybersex

[sarah555]

I never knew what cyber sex was until i did it. It was just after i got my first computer and i was just lingering about. I was engaged in a chat by another women and something most unexpected happened. She literally swept me off my feet. Before i knew exactly how we were cybering. The oddest thing happened. She described kissing me on the abdomin were the ribs meet the soft skin of the belly and i felt it. It was bizarre and wonderful and as intense as i could ever what. Naturally we continued. The day after i had this very ambivilent feeling about what had transpired. I thought it odd to feel so much from this interaction. I did however come back the next day and the next and for several months after.

I continue to meet people and cyber from time to time. It is not often as intense and very often just plain boring. Once in a while though, someone with originality and wit and tenderness will come along and though the emotional attachment is not there the physical excitment is.

Sex is truely a product of the mind. I think when we are on line many of us reveal places in ourselves we seldom if ever reveal in our day to day lives. That is exciting in and of itself.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[lovetoread]

I agree totally,but then thats no surprise.

But is there a danger to caring too much? What happens then?

 

[TigerClaw]

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[sarah555]

There is always a danger of caring too much. There is also risk in not truely knowing who is on the other end of the story. My fear is that i will hurt someone without actually intending too.

Once, when i first came on line, i was in a room where everyone seemed to know each other and i felt very free. I was playing and cybeing broke out in the open room between myself and two other women. I was really, very honestly, playing my part for laughs.

The next day one of the women im'ed me and seemed very attached and seemed to be looking to start some sort of relationship with me. I was stunned. I was kind and tried to just be friendly and leave the door open to a possible friendship. Once she felt my initial rejection it got very very strange. I was very nervous and felt that i was possibly dealing with someone whose pain and lonliness were a bit too much for her to handle. I have learned to be very careful since that time.

 

[StevenWill]

wonderful thread

This is such a great thread. I have had cyber sex with a few people and found that I like the same things I like in real time encounters. I like to get to know the person, have good humor, flirt and tease and be comfortable. When I know the person a little as a person, it intensifies the encounter more so than just jumping in and "talking dirty."

I am one of the slow typers unfortunately, and being aroused doesn't make it any better, lol. I have had some nice e-mail exchanges with women where we wrote short fantasies or talked about how we felt when we were talking online. That was nice too. A couple of women who I have really enjoyed chatting with, I have talked with on the phone. And the talk was not just sexual but friendly conversation.

I guess the beauty of cyber, phone and e-mail sex is that it provides the saftey of distance and allows some to be more open and forthcoming about their fantasies and feelings. It has a confessional quality that I really like, sharing dark secrets and naughty ideas. Many people have partners that it is hard to be that open with, partners that may react negatively or simply have no interest in a sexual dialog. Online partners can be more accepting and nurturing and open. Of course, it would be ideal to have real time partners who were supportive and unconditionally accepting and wanted to create progressive and open sexual relationships.

I must say I have a soft spot in my heart for those people who I have shared intensely personal and sexual things with. I don't think of them as tools for my own satisfaction, but as kind souls who have provided me with moments of sexual santurary where I could express myself without fear of rejection or judjment.

I think cyber relationships and pen pal relationships can be very healthy. We live in the computer age. I think there is a place for electronic friendships. I think the success of literotica says there is too. In a repressed society, a sexual friend is a real treasure.

Steve

 

[juicylips]

Re: wonderful thread

A couple of women who I have really enjoyed chatting with, I have talked with on the phone. And the talk was not just sexual but friendly conversation.

I guess the beauty of cyber, phone and e-mail sex is that it provides the saftey of distance and allows some to be more open and forthcoming about their fantasies and feelings.
Steve

I hated to edit your comments. I agreed with everything in your original post.

But I was curious as to how difficult or was it, to go from cyber to phone sex. I have only done that once and loved it. But it was after cybering for a couple months and lots of emails and messages.

Cassidy

 

[marduk]

I love to cyber with my girl online ..we start off nice and slow sorta making up a story as we go along then it just starts to get hotter and hotter as we go ..the only problem i have had is trying to type with one hand

 

[StevenWill]

Not easy, Cassidy

Cassidy,

It was not that easy for me to go from cyber to phone. I am pretty private and that was really inviting someone into my home so to speak, giving out my phone number and all. I had talked to the two women on line quite a bit and felt comfortable with them.
When we talked first, we just got to know each other and got comfortable. With one, we had a number of phone calls that were not sexual at all. But I must say that hearing someone be sexual on the phone is very powerful and I realize they are sharing something personal. I respect that and respect their wishes and limitations and expect the same in return. I think it's like any other relationship--getting to know each other and feeling safe and comfortable is what it's all about. I think you should be cautious and wait until it's right for you. And even if the sex part is not what you thought, you might meet a very nice person who you enjoy talking with.

Steve

 

[lovetoread]

Re: Re: wonderful thread

But I was curious as to how difficult or was it, to go from cyber to phone sex. I have only done that once and loved it. But it was after cybering for a couple months and lots of emails and messages.

Cassidy

Phone sex for me was the hardest thing to do. And in fact I probably am not doing it right, but he doesnt seem to mind.

The typing was easy,the actually speaking was scary. Totally. but with each time, its easier to respond.

 

[jinnysub]

For me, casual sex is rarely casual.

Hard, very hard, to just disengage mind and body.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Not easy, Cassidy

Cassidy,

. I think it's like any other relationship--getting to know each other and feeling safe and comfortable is what it's all about. I think you should be cautious and wait until it's right for you.
Steve

Again, I apologize for the editing. You are right on the mark in your post. But if I am anything it is NOT cautious. I speak before I think and say yes, when I should say no. lol... These are not good qualities to have if you want a "safe and comfortable" cyberlife. I am working on saying no. I practice in the mirror

LTR, I can't imagine you not getting something sexual right I am sure your beloved is very happy with your responses. You two inspire me.
Cassidy

 

[midas2001]

It is real - Isn't it ???

Originally posted by ScubaSteve

Sienna darling,

I totaly agree with you! I know for me, it takes detail and is slow and tender. I have had females come and ask for cyber and when we go private, all the say is fuck me now. Like come on, I still enjoy good foreplay.

yes I would say that seeing someone you have "done" in the past with someone else can make you a bit jealous but unless you have been colard, you are open to new ppl. You should repect your partners wishes though. for example, if I asked my partner to only do me and she agrees, I would of course only do her! I treat it as if it were real. Like Sie said, mutual masterbation. respect is still key.
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Scuba

Hi Scuba bro'...

Like everything else in this life, "Cyberotica" caresses your imagination and your soul via sensory inputs that are linked to the brain. In your 'Minds Eye' you can actually be there with your loved one and even 'FEEL' each others passion.

I do have to disagree about casual cybersex... I think (and this is just my opinion) that really good cybering can only happen by knowing the other person and understanding what it is that turns them on.

I've been asked on several ocassions to 'cyber' other ladies but have refused point blank for the following reasons: -

1. Something my golden princess brought up earlier..."Gender Swapping"! Sienna's point that you can't even be sure of the sex of the person on the other keyboard is valid. How could I tell that some lady calling herself 'Davina'... isn't infact actually called 'David' for example? Ewwwwwwww even the thought makes me cringe!
2. Who are they... what do they like? I guess most people could take a guess and know that some oral etc is liked by most of us, but true cybering has got to be more than just a quick virtual 'one off the wrist'.
3. In a strange way it would (for me) feel like I was being unfaithful. My lady knows my views on this side of the subject and recently saw evidence of my fidelity to her. (BUT... lol... the 3-some was evocative eh Sie? WEG)
4. If you really just need to release some sexual frustration - just read some of the excellent stories here at Lit.
5. If you are happy with your partner and you both continue to make it interesting and varied... why run the risk of possibly being caught out and hurting their feelings?
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   Trust plays a big part in this too. feel free to have a bit of 'open' flirting in chat rooms etc... you know the one's (good friends) who are just playing and teasing for entertainment, as opposed to some who either just drop in for a quickie (usually with a purile nick like 10"BigBoy and repeat "Any ladies wanna pvt"...lol) - or even others that appear to be friends... but get a little too friendly with you or your partner (but these people actually mean it). So always have fun, and always trust them if you have a close relationship as well.
   
   I think that Tiger_n_NJ summed up one important point. He said: -
   

   Not if it is meant to be...
   Sometimes we are lucky enough to meet very special people. Very very special people. I believe you have to enjoy them when they are here and in your life. You never know when they will dissappear from your life.
   
   Enjoy the time you have at the present and let the future take care of itself. If it is meant to be it will be!
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   Cool buddy... couldn't have put it better myself.
   
   So, for me it is 'REAL' and enjoyable... each time is slightly new and exciting due to the interaction and the settings that we make up between us. Be adventurous with the surroundings and feel free to bring in 'virtual' toys, styles of dress (Uniforms) etc - BUT always keep it sensuous and respond to your partners actions and requests.
   
   By the way Sie... Cool new AV sweetheart
   (Hugzzzzzz and licks my baby)
   
   Midas2001

 

[Rick2002]

Re: memoirs of an ex-cyber slut

To me "cyber-sex" is intercourse of the minds. The fantasy begins and continues to weave as each person adds their desires. Mere words typed on a screen igniting physical reactions. Cyber-sex is safe sex. You can expierment with different partners and different scenerios. You can do things, say things, be things, that you would never dream of doing in real life. Exploring your "cyber" sexuality helps you realize your real sexuality.

Before I knew I was a writer and a poet, I was totally in awe of the effect my imagination had on men. It was a challenge to me. To see how vivid I could make the story, to see what character I could create. The more I did it the more addicted I became. Addicted to the power it gave me. Just knowing that I could actually bring someone to orgasm with just my words, the images in my head, was so awesome!

I use the term cyber slut with all sincerity. I never had one specific "cyber" lover. No one ever claimed me as their own. I flitted about like a bumble bee pollinating flowers.

After a while, the challenge deminished. So, I had to make it bigger and better. I would only cyber with those that would do it in the open room. I wanted a show. I wanted an audience. Then one night, a guy friend of mine, asked me to weave him a story in the open room. It was the first time I ever had to do it on my own.... to hold the weight of the whole fantasy alone. As I began, very few people paid attention. Some even told me to get my own room. But, my friend was entranced and begged me to continue, so I did. I barely noticed that in a room of 25 people, I was the only one typing as my fingers flew across the keyboard. It was like a movie playing in my head and I typed what I saw. It was awesome, romantic, erotic, and it came from me.

I did that a couple more times until once someone asked me if I wrote my stories down. If I ever told the same one twice. It occurred to me that I had never even thought to save the stories I was telling. So, that is when I started writing stories and about the same time I got into poetry.

You can call me pathetic if you want but, cyber-sex opened the doors of my own sexuality. I also learned a lot about men and their sexuality in the process!

WOW! that is an awesome story in it'self. It's very interesting how you evolved. I would love to be artound when you tell some of those stories ) I think you have described the cyber thing better than anyone I've ever heard.
You're great! Keep up the good work.

 

[English Lady]

Yes cybersex is safe sex...its all about fantasy and it is only hampered by the limits of your imagination!

I am a cyber slut. yup and i love it. I am totally faithful to my husband in the real world but online I am a slut (and to be fair so is he)