Cybersex

[lovetoread]

I want to know a few things, if ya'll dont mind.

I searched for this question before I asked,so if its been asked before forgive me and go on...

Why do it?

No I dont mean all the morality kind of why,but do you do it to get off right then, or is it to get you extremely excited to be finished at a later time?

Are there fast and hard rules that you should know before you begin?

How much is talk is too much? Meaning when you do this,is it like sex in real life- beginning middle and end? Or is it a jump in and fuck me type deal?

Can you cyber too much with too many people?

Does anyone do it the same?

About the actual sex talk...how do you start and end it?

Do you just up and leave when it is over?

How do you start or end a relationship like this?

Can you get jealous if the other is cybering elsewhere?

Do you tell your cyber partner that you are doing it with others?

What if you are not turned on by your partner? Is it okay to tell that person?



Thanks everyone.

 

[ProSkater]

Cyber

The cybersex I know of is where you go into the really hot and horny chatrooms and ask someone for cybersex. It's all just fun and far as I know, each person gets the other off talking as though they were havin sex I guess. Just saying what they'd do during sex, just talkin really dirty, makin each other horny!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Most people have a different reason to cyber.

Some to find something they don't have at home...bj's etc.

Some are bi so like something their partner can't give them.

I think it would depend where you meet the person how much chitter chatter happens before getting down to it.

Depends if you are single or in a RT relationship what you expect or want from cybering past the sex thing.

Some just want to link up for sex and no on going thing with the person. Some like to chat with the same person sometimes without cyber... but not really expecting to form a realtionship... just a friendship.

 

[Savage Kitten]

memoirs of an ex-cyber slut

To me "cyber-sex" is intercourse of the minds. The fantasy begins and continues to weave as each person adds their desires. Mere words typed on a screen igniting physical reactions. Cyber-sex is safe sex. You can expierment with different partners and different scenerios. You can do things, say things, be things, that you would never dream of doing in real life. Exploring your "cyber" sexuality helps you realize your real sexuality.

Before I knew I was a writer and a poet, I was totally in awe of the effect my imagination had on men. It was a challenge to me. To see how vivid I could make the story, to see what character I could create. The more I did it the more addicted I became. Addicted to the power it gave me. Just knowing that I could actually bring someone to orgasm with just my words, the images in my head, was so awesome!

I use the term cyber slut with all sincerity. I never had one specific "cyber" lover. No one ever claimed me as their own. I flitted about like a bumble bee pollinating flowers.

After a while, the challenge deminished. So, I had to make it bigger and better. I would only cyber with those that would do it in the open room. I wanted a show. I wanted an audience. Then one night, a guy friend of mine, asked me to weave him a story in the open room. It was the first time I ever had to do it on my own.... to hold the weight of the whole fantasy alone. As I began, very few people paid attention. Some even told me to get my own room. But, my friend was entranced and begged me to continue, so I did. I barely noticed that in a room of 25 people, I was the only one typing as my fingers flew across the keyboard. It was like a movie playing in my head and I typed what I saw. It was awesome, romantic, erotic, and it came from me.

I did that a couple more times until once someone asked me if I wrote my stories down. If I ever told the same one twice. It occurred to me that I had never even thought to save the stories I was telling. So, that is when I started writing stories and about the same time I got into poetry.

You can call me pathetic if you want but, cyber-sex opened the doors of my own sexuality. I also learned a lot about men and their sexuality in the process!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Thanks for posting that Savage Kitten.

Enjoy your writing and poetry.... it's good to have a release or passion that can be taken from the mind and put into words.

 

[Sienna]

two things.

Cybersex or cybering is two things:

(1) Mutual masturbation over the internet.

(2) It is a growing art-form now since the internet began like many new electronic arts. The use of script and actions makes it into a on-line interactive role-play and if done properly, can be very enjoyable both aesthetically and erotically. I have a name for my study of cybersex at the moment:

CYBEROTICA.

TY

 

[scubasteve]

I agree!

Sienna darling,
I totaly agree with you! I know for me, it takes detail and is slow and tender. I have had females come and ask for cyber and when we go private, all the say is fuck me now. Like come on, I still enjoy good foreplay.
yes I would say that seeing someone you have "done" in the past with someone else can make you a bit jealous but unless you have been colard, you are open to new ppl. You should repect your partners wishes though. for example, if I asked my partner to only do me and she agrees, I would of course only do her! I treat it as if it were real. Like Sie said, mutual masterbation. respect is still key.

 

[djacq]

CyberHealthy

When I use to be on AOL, cybersex was a great and safe way to release some tension. It's the same as looking at an adult magazine, film, or even reading the stories on this web site. All the same except that it's more interactive.

You're just a character entering a chat room on faith that you are engaging in imaginary sex with the other person. Sometimes you may get off sitting right there at the keyboard or take the experiance with you to bed. It can be fun and addicting at times but the keyword is "safe" with no strings attached. You even develop relationships while doing it.

I suggest that you give it a try just once for the experiance. One very memorable cybersex episode I had once was a foursome (MMFF) in a private room. Let's say that it was very intense.

I hope to write about it sometime.

 

[Sienna]

Cyber-Lover

Ok........

check out my story:

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=25315

Its a twist in the tale worth thinking about.....(*smiles*)???

 

[TigerClaw]

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[lovetoread]

Re: Cyber-Lover

Ok........

check out my story:

http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=25315

Its a twist in the tale worth thinking about.....(*smiles*)???

Oh my, that was a good story.

Voted and sent feedback to ya!

 

[juicylips]

Juicy's thoughts...

First of all, I like all of your questions, ltr.....very thought provoking and made me think of what my true motives are behind cybering.

What prompted me into cybering was lack of fulfillment at home. In rising frustration, I posted on the Lit personals and was bombed with responses. Luckily for me, there was one that got my attention right off and we have been cybering from day one. Later, after talking with other people, I realized that some people chat for long periods of time before heading in that direction, but there is no way we could have waited. Passion and intensity was so intense that we got off together over and over again. Still do, but not on such regular occasions. Do I cyber with other guys? Yes, I do. No online jealousy here. I have a husband in real life and don't want another one online

In all truth, there are men that I adore sharing just hot emails with, some I chat with - no sex, and some I do both. I have been extremely fortunate to have found men who are witty, charming, sexy, and intelligent.

Cassidy,
self confessed cyber addict

 

[lovetoread]

I want to thank you all for these answers and for the one who sent me the PM, thanks that was exactly what I was looking for.

And Mr Tiger....

Yahoo me anytime....

 

[Guest]

newbie

I'm new, just about a week at this point since I lost my cyber-virginity. So I'll answer from my experience so far and maybe in a few months come back with more observations.

Since you ask a bunch of questions, I'll just go through those instead of waxing poetic....

> Why do it?

Partly to satisfy curiosity. Partly to get off just as I would with pornography, erotica, or a real life encounter.

> do it to get off right then, or is it to
> get you extremely excited to be finished
> at a later time?

Yes, I get off right then if possible and like to finish it off for both of us before saying goodbye.


> Are there fast and hard rules that you
> should know before you begin?

If there are I've been lucky in spite of not knowing them. Every contact seems different, though I do see some patterns fuzzily. Some women already know what they want, some are shy, some are flexible, some assertive, some want to be lead. Some even want to be "forced."

> How much is talk is too much? Meaning
> when you do this,is it like sex in real
> life- beginning middle and end? Or is it
> a jump in and fuck me type deal?

I wish I could say since I do worry about that, but with so little experience I don't know. It does seem different than real life, however, in that talk IS the medium for the sex and not just a part of it. So far, except with some experienced women who seem very certain about what they want, most of my partners seem to want me to talk a lot, and not just about ourselves or our fantasy. They also seem to like to hear about my past life experiences or others' erotic stories I've either heard or lived.


> Can you cyber too much with too many people?

Again, too soon to say, but I think so. I do feel like I've just spent a week in a bathhouse. I'm sure this pace would be quite distructive if it presisted.

> Does anyone do it the same?

Not sure what this means. Do cyber the same way? If so, yes there are patterns and types that I can already see.

> About the actual sex talk...how do you
> start and end it?

I start by trying to get a feel for what my partner wants, who she is, how confortable and experience she might be. Then I try to do what I would do if I were on a date or seducing somebody, which is be sensitive and make sure we were on the same wavelength. Often it ends with each of us pausing to come and telling each other about it.

> Do you just up and leave when it is over?

Never. That would be very rude. I also try to send an email with thanks if it seem not indiscreet to do so.

> How do you start or end a relationship
> like this?

Too soon to say. Too soon to have formed a "relationship" yet.

> Can you get jealous if the other is
> cybering elsewhere?

Yes. I don't like if that seems to happen. I have gotten the feeling that some will play the field for awhile with multiple windows. I won't do this. On the other hand, I have helped a woman get men into a privat room so she could have a gang bang. That was fine.

> What if you are not turned on by your
> partner? Is it okay to tell that person?

I haven't had to do that yet, but I think some honesty is required, though it should be a graceful exit.

 

[KMann]

newbie

My session timed out, that newbie above be me!

-Karl

 

[Sienna]

Why Do It?

WHY DO IT?

Good question. Why watch tv or go to a movie? Why play games between you and your partner or even a total stranger?

Yes, you can fall into some heady affair with someone, just by writing to someone far far away and falling maddly in love with them. People used to rely on writing erotic letters to and from each other when they were hundreds or thousands of miles away. Today people do phone-sex and of course cybersex.

The human condition and the way the mind is set out. Strange but true..........sex is all in the mind and we like to play with our imaginations almost believing in it, getting off on it. Another aspect of fantasy in general. Yes, we humans certainly are strange creatures.

(*smiles*)

 

[MizTabby]

Re: memoirs of an ex-cyber slut

To me "cyber-sex" is intercourse of the minds. The fantasy begins and continues to weave as each person adds their desires. Mere words typed on a screen igniting physical reactions. Cyber-sex is safe sex. You can expierment with different partners and different scenerios. You can do things, say things, be things, that you would never dream of doing in real life. Exploring your "cyber" sexuality helps you realize your real sexuality.

That's about the size of it for me too Kitten.

I have discovered that I can act on many deep feelings which
I've never been totally comfortable with in real life, and having
a passionate cyberpartner makes all the difference. I've had but
a few experiences, all good so far, and I especially like when
we have a conversation, getting to know something about each other and our likes, a slow build up to the pleasure that awaits.
I've never been with more than one partner at a time, I still feel
the need to maintain some semblance of loyalty with my cyber lover, never needing to know if he's involved with others.
On the whole, cybering has been a welcome outlet for me, on
occasion, and very satisfying.

Now Tiger, about going insane with desire, oh, never mind

 

[TigerClaw]

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[sudsy]

I'm so glad someone asked these questions! I'm new, and well, uh, it's kinda embarassing to have to stop someone in a chat room and ask for more information. Yikes, yikes yikes! Or am I being too sensitive and nobody would care if I didn't know anything?

S.

 

[Rothgar]

Re: two things.

I have a name for my study of cybersex at the moment:

CYBEROTICA.

TY [/B]

Sienna,

When you open up your CYBEROTICA INSTITUTE OF HIGHER LEARNING, I'd like to be the first to enrole.



Rothgar

 

[Cotedebeaune]

Sienna,

when you need subjects for your next thesis let me know

David

 

[MizTabby]

Re: desire

GRRRRRrrrrrr

Tiger, are you still growling about that milk thing??? *lol*

 

[Guest]

I'm so glad someone asked these questions! I'm new, and well, uh, it's kinda embarassing to have to stop someone in a chat room and ask for more information. Yikes, yikes yikes! Or am I being too sensitive and nobody would care if I didn't know anything?

S.

Its nice to know that I am not the only one that is new to cyber, well not only new I guess you could say that I am a cyber virgin! I have only just discovered this site and am interested in the erotic chat section but whenever someone tries to 'private message' me I 'chicken out' because I don't know what is expected of me? Are we 'virgins' expected to say that it is our first time? I want to try it because I don't feel that I am able to let my inhibitions go with my boyfriend so I am hoping that cyber sex will fufill my fantasys. How do we tell this to prospective cyber partners without ruining the mood so to speak?

 

[Rothgar]

...but whenever someone tries to 'private message' me I 'chicken out' because I don't know what is expected of me? Are we 'virgins' expected to say that it is our first time?
How do we tell this to prospective cyber partners without ruining the mood so to speak?

As shocking as it may sound, I'd advise you to be honest about it. HONESTY???!!! ON THE INTERNET???!!! DURING CYBERSEX???!!!

Well, yes. Too many people don't understand the concept of "fantasy." They think that to endulge in fantasy, they must be deceitful. Not so! Now be warned, most likely you will encounter some people like this in chatrooms. All they REALLY care about is getting their own rocks off...you may have even met such people in real life. But as in real life, you will also meet some very considerate chatters. Some who might enjoy being your first cybersex partner. And don't worry about "ruining the mood." Mood can be quickly regained.
Have fun, and remember...

...it's all just FANTASY.

Rothgar

 

[lovetoread]

Hello rothgar,

Fancy seeing you here........

Great advice, I believe in honesty during this,no matter if it is a cyberspace thing,it is still an intimate act.

Since my original post, I've learned a bit and appreciate the advice given.

I say jump in,ask questions and enjoy the person you are with.

I do enjoy the person I am with and that matters more than the sex part.