Cyber sex, dead and dieing?

[Gabe619]

I certainly hope not Reason I ask is that I have PM'ed several women to ask if they would enjoy some internet sex, email or IM, and had no answer from any of them. Now is this my incredibly bad typing, LOL, or is it really losing its popularity?

From reading other threads I think phone sex has taken over a lot, but some internet sex must still take place. Anyone else out there finding it hard to meet up with their perfect fuck partner online? Or are there any lonely women out there who would take me up on my offer of some IM sex

 

[Pyro Paul]

People dont answer my PM's either. but its whatever. keep at it and eventualy some one will answer i suppose. presistance is the key to victory in most cases.

asides from that your only looking at a very very small sample of people (those on literotica) cyber sex spans across multiple online things. from aol to yahoo. its not like people that cybersexor have a very sepcific forum saying (Cyber sex Here! post now and get some!) they find it by getting out and talking a little put a little of that charm on all that stuff.

 

[babydoll2u]

well, here's the word from one gal....

not interested... cyber sex has lost its appeal to alot of us... the novelty wore off long ago. Want to know a couple of reasons?

#1) I know, from talking to alot of ladies on here, that we receive dozens of im's a day, asking for cyber, either via pm, IM, whatever.

#2) Most men assume that just because we post to an adult site, means we're automatically willing, even hot, to cyber. Not true

I don't give my im out to someone I don't know. When I receive a pm asking for cyber right off.. I don't even reply... it gets deleted.
And I know I'm not the only one

Hey I wouldn't have sex in r/l with someone I don't know. To most of us online sex is as real and personal as it is offline. So what makes you guys think we'd want to do it online with someone we don't know ?

To YOU, it might be all fun 'n' games... to most of US, it's a bit more personal

 

[curiousinmich]

I dont know if to some degree it isnt fun and games for us all....still pretty new here.

The key is remembering that although this is an adult site, there are real people behind the posts here.

I tend to respond to those that say something pretty meaningful in their first PM to me.

Flirting is good fun, but just messaging someone "I have AIM, YAHOO, etc, lets cyber" I would think would not get you a response.

Cybering can happen...but think of it like talking to a girl at a club you like...you dont approach her and shove your dick into her, you talk to her, flirt a bit, then whatever happens...happens.

 

[Pyro Paul]

Cybering can happen...but think of it like talking to a girl at a club you like...you dont approach her and shove your dick into her, you talk to her, flirt a bit, then whatever happens...happens.

i dont know, some people here are brazen enough to try to... actualy i had a co-worker like that, even went to a club and tried it... helarious. even though he did it as a joke.

asides, i cant answer in every pm i make sincere often (as a male) my mind drifts as my mood changes. in one post i could post a 12 page romantic poem and another i could post a 2 word sentence being 'lets fuck'.

 

[Gabe619]

true words

I see what you are saying ladies and I try to be the gentleman when PM'ing, but maybe there just isn't the interest in it anymore. I will give Yahoo a go, but also see if there are any women that maybe answer this thread.

Thanks for your interest though girls, its much apprieciated

 

[Gabe619]

Same problem

Yeah Paul, thats my problem to pal, LOL

 

[xxfactor]

I agree with babydoll on this one. It's the same thing as approaching a woman in the bar or in public, you can't (well you can try) just say hey, let's fuck and then be shocked when she doesn't respond or slaps you. My advice, actually talk to her first, find out likes dislikes and let if flow. Oh and one more item of note, have a profile, something that explains who you are outside of the random I'm a horny guy thing...

 

[babydoll2u]

i dont know, some people here are brazen enough to try to... actualy i had a co-worker like that, even went to a club and tried it... helarious. even though he did it as a joke.

asides, i cant answer in every pm i make sincere often (as a male) my mind drifts as my mood changes. in one post i could post a 12 page romantic poem and another i could post a 2 word sentence being 'lets fuck'.

LOL.. and it's the second one that would get your pm deleted

 

[babydoll2u]

I dont know if to some degree it isnt fun and games for us all....still pretty new here.

The key is remembering that although this is an adult site, there are real people behind the posts here.

I tend to respond to those that say something pretty meaningful in their first PM to me.

Flirting is good fun, but just messaging someone "I have AIM, YAHOO, etc, lets cyber" I would think would not get you a response.

Cybering can happen...but think of it like talking to a girl at a club you like...you dont approach her and shove your dick into her, you talk to her, flirt a bit, then whatever happens...happens.

EXACTLY... I think alot of people... women as well as men... make the mistake of forgetting that, just because they're looking at a monitor and typing on a keyboard, we are real people, with real feelings.

I agree also that to some degree it IS fun and games for us all... that's why I said to some of us, it's a bit more personal.

If you want to take the time to get to know me, then if something happens, fine. But if ALL you want is a cyber fuck... forget it. I wouldn't do it with someone I don't know offline, and the same holds true, for me anyway, for online

 

[babydoll2u]

I agree with babydoll on this one. It's the same thing as approaching a woman in the bar or in public, you can't (well you can try) just say hey, let's fuck and then be shocked when she doesn't respond or slaps you. My advice, actually talk to her first, find out likes dislikes and let if flow. Oh and one more item of note, have a profile, something that explains who you are outside of the random I'm a horny guy thing...

xx... you are exactly right. If there's no profile, I don't reply either.

 

[curiousinmich]

Please don't misunderstand, I get extremely horny just like everyone else. I mean, shiiit, see my post in personals about being new and horny. But if you read the board, there is some conversation going on in there.

The men that PM'd me with something more than, "I bet you are hot, lets fuck" tended to receive a response in return.

As much as I usually hate the asl stuff in most chat forums, I find that information particularly useful in LIT. I am 27, and have specific turn ons. I like to know a little about someone, and am more than willing to share what turns me on as well. But conversation is a must. Online and offline, my biggest turn on is a man with substantial intelligence. We all have fantasies...but there is more to us, then just sex...sometimes.

 

[wtf????]

Please don't misunderstand, I get extremely horny just like everyone else. I mean, shiiit, see my post in personals about being new and horny. But if you read the board, there is some conversation going on in there.

The men that PM'd me with something more than, "I bet you are hot, lets fuck" tended to receive a response in return.

As much as I usually hate the asl stuff in most chat forums, I find that information particularly useful in LIT. I am 27, and have specific turn ons. I like to know a little about someone, and am more than willing to share what turns me on as well. But conversation is a must. Online and offline, my biggest turn on is a man with substantial intelligence. We all have fantasies...but there is more to us, then just sex...sometimes.

I agree, The best Cyber I ever had, was with a women that I met, and we chatted for days before anything happened. It's to easy to fake being interested during cyber sex.

 

[curiousinmich]

I agree, The best Cyber I ever had, was with a women that I met, and we chatted for days before anything happened. It's to easy to fake being interested during cyber sex.

Hahaha, so true. Unless you are watching them on cam, you have no idea if they are just kind of responding with an "mmmm, yea baby" or if they are really masturbating.

But, I will say, the best cyber I have ever had was with a boyfriend. He was away on business, so we cybered. It was fabulous and really opened up a lot in our relationship.

 

[wtf????]

Hahaha, so true. Unless you are watching them on cam, you have no idea if they are just kind of responding with an "mmmm, yea baby" or if they are really masturbating.

But, I will say, the best cyber I have ever had was with a boyfriend. He was away on business, so we cybered. It was fabulous and really opened up a lot in our relationship.

Thats the best way, feel each other out, so you can pick up on little hints here and there.

 

[curiousinmich]

Thats the best way, feel each other out, so you can pick up on little hints here and there.

Absolutely. Also, just like offline, when you have somewhat of an emotional connection to someone, the sex is usually better.

 

[wtf????]

Absolutely. Also, just like offline, when you have somewhat of an emotional connection to someone, the sex is usually better.

I agree, an emotinal connection is a must on-line or off-line. Without it, I'm better off reading the stories.

 

[Gabe619]

Profile added

Well I took your advise people and amended my profile some. I would be more than happy to get to know some of your lovely ladies and chat. Please don't think this thread was created simply for sex and sex alone. It was in repsonse to lack of replys across the boards from several women who I didn't even mention cybersex to in my initial PM, LOL I'm glad so many people took the time to help me out on this one though, and all your advise is being taken on board if either of you ladies would like to chat with me then please PM me

 

[sexpert05]

I used to really enjoy online sex (once I knew a little about the guy), but almost every single time he would start talking about how much better it would be if he could see my picture, or watch me on cam, or talk to me on the phone -- things I wasn't comfortable with.

So I ended up giving up altogether.

 

[OceanGoddess]

I agree with Babydoll2U.

I'm actually looking for someone to email and/or chat with . ..but I'm not interested in just fucking. (Now, eventually . . .)

Intelligence is the most important thing, online or IRL. Well, that and a great sense of humor.

I actually met someone a few months ago who PMd me . . .I replied. He was very charming, he was Swedish . . .(I have a huge thing for Swedish men, can't help it, lol) and we started to chat . . .I actually thought there was some emotional connection there but I now realize it was a game to him and I stopped contacting him after I realized that. And you know what? It kind of hurt to realize I was opening myself to him that way, and there wasn't the same going on for him. Oh well.

BTW that was my first and *only* sexual online/chat "relationship" and I wasn't too happy with it in the end, so I'm even more cautious now.

Even if it's "only" online, I think it's far better when there is a connection; intellectual, emotional, etc. Doesn't mean it has to lead to meeting IRL, either. I think it would just be much more intense with someone with whom you feel some connection.

 

[MoonLyt]

Even if it's "only" online, I think it's far better when there is a connection; intellectual, emotional, etc. Doesn't mean it has to lead to meeting IRL, either. I think it would just be much more intense with someone with whom you feel some connection.[/QUOTE]

Even as a male I feel this way.
I have cybered with one friend now for close to two years.
We first met in an on-line-game.
We exchanged e-mails and chatted for months, then exchanges phone numbers.
We got into cyber just by flirting, and teasing.
After we had done she asked if we had really done it.

So Ilike to get to know a person before even thinking of cybering.

 

[OceanGoddess]

Moonlyt . . .

I agree with you.

Funny you said she asked if you had "done it". I really felt that I had really been intimate with the person I used to chat with. I guess that's why it hurt when I could tell he was not at all invested. Again, oh well, live and learn.

 

[Gabe619]

Agree

I have to agree with all the above, especially Goddess. You just need to look at the amount of threads started by people looking for straight sex and the lack of replies to see how the idea or fasination for cyber has died off. People want to get to know people first rather than just a quick fix, or would rather meet in person. I've noticed a lot of threads for guys and girls wanting to meet up for sex rather than just having fun over the internet. Now one on one physical is always going to beat typing on a keyboard, LOL

 

[Jaded1]

This is just my opion..........


Having been involved with Lit for numerous years. Then cyber was still in it's infant stags. The thought of having verbal sex with a complete stranger very exciting. A ruler to measure are ablity to seduce a lover. Much like any new interest it grows old.

For me the fantasy of have sex with a woman I knew nothing about became boring. To me cyber is a way of arousing a lover. Teasing her until she has to have me... Cyber to me has to be re enforced with actual contact! It is very difficult for me to remain interested in her if I haven't in real life explored her naked body. I want to combined cyber with physical to take her to extreme orgasms. I want to feel her body trembling after I have teased her about the pleasure I have promised her... As her lover I want to take her over that edge and keep her there. I want to take her from one orgasm to the next until they become one and she can stop. I want her to orgasm like it's that last few hours on earth. Wether orally, vaginally, or anally. I want her clinging to me like she was drowning. I want to feel he body spasming after were down as we hold each other tightly. It is all this that is missing from just cyber.

I need the whole picture to be completely aroused....

But, once again this is only my opion...

So ladys knowing what you know now! Who wants to cyber with me? Remember, I want it all or I'm gone....

 

[MoonLyt]

I agree with you.

Funny you said she asked if you had "done it". I really felt that I had really been intimate with the person I used to chat with. I guess that's why it hurt when I could tell he was not at all invested. Again, oh well, live and learn.

Well she asked that question after we ad finished cybering.
She was shocked that we had done it and how good it had felt.
It was unplanned and just happened out of the blue.
That started a wonderfull relationship, we still cyber in chat and when we can over the phone as we both love to hear each others voices.