Curious, Shy, Nervous....HELP!!!

[SuperDot69]

My partner of 3 yrs has this fantasy of seeing me and another woman together while he watches. He mentions it every now and again...but not like on a constant basis. I know it would thrill him to no end for it to actually happen, and have actually thought "WHAT IF....."

I'm curious to know what it would be like, but I'm shy and nervous too. As my profile will tell you, I'm not skinny and I have inhibitions about my body...BIG TIME! I don't know what to do about it....I mean, it's not as if he's forcing the issue, he wouldn't do that to me. I love him with all my heart and I don't know how things would be if I could even ever bring myself to do it. HELP!!!!

 

[circe!]

Come on!

Someone answer this woman.

 

[Mistress]

Wish my man had fantasies like that...

 

[BiBabe:)]

Well, I'm bi, so my opinion is somewhat biased. But I say do it. I think you should try it.

There's no better lover than a woman. He'll definitely enjoy it, and, well, you might like it too.

And even if you don't like it, sometimes it's nice to do something for other people.

I say try it. What've you got to lose?

 

[Adoratrice]

Find someone who is built like you and go for it.


Otherwise just turn out the lights.

Either way ....it's worth it.

 

[Starfish]

Wish my man had fantasies like that...

You Bitch! What Man????????



Grabs Mistress and snuggles her close!


Superdot..I think you should really wait untill you have it all figured out to a tee. If you don't get totally wet and hot thinking about it...then it isn't for you...and you shouldn't do it. Don't do it just because you want to make him happy....Your life will become completely fucked up if you don't consider your needs first.

As far as your body is concerned...I can totally relate, but after long hard self abuse...I came to realize that good sex is usually not physically based. Besides I bet you are beautiful.

 

[CreamyLady]

That is a fairly common fantasy.

If you aren't comfortable with the idea, and it doesn't become more appealing as you think about it and talk about it with him, don't do it. I can't think of anything more uncomfortable and painful than doing something that you aren't ready for, and may never be ready for, just to please another person.

Would that really make your partner feel good? If he is as caring as he sounds, I don't think so.

 

[Mistress]

Uh..did I say man...umm...uh...


Laughs and snuggles G.R. tight!

 

[Kuddles]

JMHO....if you aren't comfortable with it then I don't think you should do it. From what you say he wouldn't force you to do it...but...if you think you would like to do it to make him happy...maybe you two should get some videos regarding this subject matter and watch and try to put yourself in that role while watching it and see if that helps you feel whether you would be comfortable to give it a shot. But, if you have reservations I think it should be shelved.

 

[Mr.curious]

We would like to try this too. But the logistics of the whole thing could be a big problem. With 3 kids to get rid of for a few hours is so hard to do.
And as far as looks go don't let the outer you give you hang ups. It's whats inside that matters, so if another woman is willing to join there is no worries.
Go for it and enjoy the new experiance.

 

[Merelan]

Dreamweaver had an excellent suggestion. Watch some videos, read some stories... hellonurse has some incredible ones here on Lit. If they get you excited super, if not, he isn't going to want it. I have fantasies too, but know they on't ever, ever be real. And that's okay. Fantasies don't always have to come true. It is wonderful you have a man who is open enough to talk to you about them, who loves you enough to be sure of your love for him. Damn. You are lucky.

 

[SuperDot69]

Damn! I forgot to mention that we're gonna be married in a little less than a month....

BTW--We've watched a few videos that have had girl/girl action in them....that's when he first brought it up, and I do admit to being turned on by it(we were hot-n-heavy even before the video ended). But, then again....most erotic videos or stories turn me on to some degree.....

 

[Bob Peale]

It Sounds Like...

...deep down inside you are a little adventurous.

As to the body thing, that trancends being with another woman. It sounds like your (pre)marital relations are fine, so relax! Sex is a lot more mental/emotional than physical, otherwise none of us writers would be here!

I can only echo some of the sentiments that some of the others have expressed: If it is something that you think might be fun to try, go for it. I think the operational term, though, is think. If you knew, you wouldn't be suffering through all of our blatherings, so the key is to determine if you suspect that you might enjoy. I had no idea that jumping off a bridge with a rubber band attached to my ankles would be as much fun as it is, but I had an idea that I might like it.

I do have one piece of advice, though. If you are about to get married, let the dust settle on that first. I'm not talking years, but give yourself a few months. I am consistently amazed at how absolutely bizarre people begin to behave six weeks on either side of a wedding (even a civil ceremony); it's like all of their synapses temporarily fuse. Hey, this might even be a cool way to celebrate your 3 month anniversary!