Curious Female: Questions for Other Females

[Emmanuelle]

Hi All,

I'm 34 and I have been straight all of my life and rather shy, but curious about being with another woman. I may be very close to getting that first experience.

Can you tell me what emotions you experienced leading up to it as well as during and after? I'm get more nervous about it the closer to reality it becomes.

Which role did you play -- take-charge or follow the lead?

What did you do in either role? Describe the event.

If you tasted pussy, what did it taste like? Salty, tart, what?

All insight/advice is welcome.

 

[Sweetevil]

Well I'm surely not an expert but I can tell you that I had just turned 27 when I had my first experience. I knew I was attracted to females, but never did anything sexual with one. I fantasized about it a lot. So I decided to go on bi and lesbian singles sites looking for a female in my area. I ended up meeting my first experience on Lit.. We talked for a cpl weeks/months. We were attracted to each others personalities pretty much immediately. Talked on the phone etc...then decided for my 27th b-day we were going to meet in a hotel. Well we were both pretty attracted to each other from pics and such, and when we seen each other it was even better in rl. It took us about an hour and a half to 2 hrs to finally get the nerve up, and she finally kissed me. That first kiss is what told me I definately wanted to experience more. I am sure there are women who after having that kiss decided it didn't feel right or made them uncomfortable, but for us we both wanted more. We spent the next 5 hrs exploring and anything else you can think of. After we both went home I think both of us experienced a difference in oour feelings for each other. Being intimate for me(others may feel differently) with someone makes me feel immediately closer to that person.


As far as your question to what it tastes like...well have you tasted yourelf? In my opinion they all pretty much taste the same. Maybe some differences in how a woman cum's etc...some women may only get a lil wet, some squirt, etc...

But I will say I am very glad I finally experienced it. Even if I wouldn't have liked it, at least I know.

One other bit of advice...in my own experiences, the sex is better once you have gotten to know the person, and you feel comfortable with the person.

Well I hope maybe I helped you a lil. If you have any other questions feel free to PM me.. And good luck in whatever choices u make..

Sweet

 

[Emmanuelle]

Thank You

Sweetevil,

I appreciate your sharing your experience and advice with me. It helps a lot! I thought maybe I had something wrong since no one has responded yet. It really took a lot for me to even ask. And thank you for your offer to PM you. I will certainly do that.

 

[serpentofthefog]

I just had my first experience with another woman a few months ago. And I can tell you something, you have a lot to look forward too!!!
When it comes to taking control if the woman that you are with has more experence, then it seems logical that she would be more in control, knowing more moves, and what feels good and all. But if she is in the same postion that you are, just explore and have fun! I cant say that I think that either one of us was in more control than the other. How would I say pussy tasted? Well, I can say that it tastes much better than a guy! But, just to get yourself more comfortable do what Sweetevil said and taste yourself.

Dont be nervous, be excieted!

 

[CharleyH]

OMG - it is way to long ago to decribe my first experience, though I do try sometimes to articulate it. I do actually sleep with a lot of inexperienced souls . . . and so:

At least from my p.o.v. No need to worry. Shower play will get the day off. Each woman is a different taste and texture. What you like, try to play, she will direct you experienced or not. Be open, the kiss is much softer than a man . . . and, in the words of my Mother, "Never put out for anything but lobster."

 

[Sweetevil]

Re: Thank You

Sweetevil,

I appreciate your sharing your experience and advice with me. It helps a lot! I thought maybe I had something wrong since no one has responded yet. It really took a lot for me to even ask. And thank you for your offer to PM you. I will certainly do that.

It is no problem hun. Like Charley said, a womans kiss is definately softer than a mans....everything is softer with a woman...the touch of her hands, her lips, her face, and they smell so much more sexy than a man...lol It's a lot different. And yes a lot to look forward to! And yes don't waste time like I did being nervous...be excited and just go for it...
Looking forward to talking again.

Sweet

 

[Emmanuelle]

Charley, Serpent, (and Sweetevil)

Thanks for chiming in. I'm really looking forward to my first time. From what you've said so far, I can feel my nervousness being replaced with excitement. I'll be sure to let you all know afterwards how it went.

You're all wonderful and I feel like I have made some friends here at Lit.




Anyone else who wants to add their advice or experience, please do so. The more encouragement I get, the better.

Thanks!

 

[Etoile]

Are you only looking for reactions from other bi-curious women? As someone who's been a dyke for most of her sexually aware life, I find your questions difficult to answer.

 

[Mrs.H]

A friend and I emailed for quite a while. It was very comfortable that way. She'd send pictures and sites to me........... we'd discuss in detail via IM.

Never did cyber.......... so it led up to so much excitement.

I took a picture of toys I bought (strap on and double ended dildo) and sent them to her. She called immediately and said, GET OVER HERE NOW!!!!!!

We each took turns. Our main goal in pleasuring each other.

The one in "control" was never an issue. We wanted to please each other.

 

[Emmanuelle]

To Etoile

How do I answer that question? hmmm. Well, I'm not an expert, obviously, on this topic. And being that this is something that I have struggled with, then I guess it would probably be for those who are bi-curious, and those who for whatever reason realized and accepted later that they were lesbian or bi-sexual. I may be wrong, but I would guess that some of these women at some point were uncomfortable with the realization that they wanted to experience being with a woman. So, I'm just trying to get a sense of what they felt leading up to the experience and how it was when they finally got it.

However, I'm not counting out women like you who have been aware most of their lives. You still had to have a first experience. Were you nervous leading up to it? Was she a friend or a stranger? Was she more experienced and able to teach you a lot or did you both learn together?

 

[Emmanuelle]

To MrsH

Thanks Mrs.H

 

[Etoile]

Re: To Etoile

How do I answer that question? hmmm. Well, I'm not an expert, obviously, on this topic. And being that this is something that I have struggled with, then I guess it would probably be for those who are bi-curious, and those who for whatever reason realized and accepted later that they were lesbian or bi-sexual. I may be wrong, but I would guess that some of these women at some point were uncomfortable with the realization that they wanted to experience being with a woman. So, I'm just trying to get a sense of what they felt leading up to the experience and how it was when they finally got it.

However, I'm not counting out women like you who have been aware most of their lives. You still had to have a first experience. Were you nervous leading up to it? Was she a friend or a stranger? Was she more experienced and able to teach you a lot or did you both learn together?

Thanks for offering some questions I (and other lesbians) can answer, too!

I was probably nervous in the same way that most girls and guys are nervous in their first time with each other - it wasn't "oh wow, I'm with a woman" but more like "oh wow, I hope she likes me, do I have anything in my teeth, I hope everything is perfect" nervousness. My girlfriend (yes, my first is still my partner after six years!) is more than 10 years older than me and has had considerably more experience, so while she did teach me a lot it wasn't as much learning about woman/woman love as it was just learning about pleasing a partner, being pleased myself, things like that. Instead of learning blowjobs, I learned to give a girl head. There was definitely a learning curve but it wasn't any more difficult than it is for young het couples.

 

[hotncmom]

I believe there is a difference between being curious and ready to make the step towards sexual exploration vs. struggling or discovering an alternative permanent sexual preference, don't you think?

Afterall, just because you are considering a sexual experience with a woman doesn't necessarily make you bisexual. It may be a once in a lifetime event. Be fair warned though...you might like it!!!

My experiences with a female were so long ago and I too am ready to re-discover such pleasure, but I would rather wait for the right person. In addition, I was seduced and couldn't bring myself to reciprocate but certainly look forward to it now.

I don't believe there is gonna be much of a learning curve for me for I have a tendency to initiate sex anyway.

Mrs. H's story is how I met and had a great encounter with a young virgin man last year. We emailed, chatted and spoke on the phone for almost a year before we met and did the deed. Now we are great close friends and I am so glad he chose me to be his first.


Perhaps I will be so lucky with a woman as well.

Good luck in your search!

 

[deezire1900]

I always say...if you want to know what Pussy tastes like...taste your own.

I had a woman tell me the idea was gross....my answer was...if she thought her own pussy was gross, why the hell would anyone else want to go there!

I love being with women, love it, love it, love it!

 

[hotncmom]

she thought her own pussy was gross, why the hell would anyone else want to go there!

Mayber her pussy is gross. I had a lesbian friend tell me she has smelled some nasty women in her days.
I like how I taste. But I know that not everyone tastes the same guys or gals.
So ladies, listen up!!
Watch ur diet (cuz it affects taste) and BE CLEAN!!

 

[Bitchslapper]

Uh...I don't suppose a guy could comment on any of this?

 

[Bitchslapper]

Okaaay, I'll take that as a thread-killing No.

 

[Etoile]

I don't see any reason why you can't comment. Input is good.

 

[Mary Hall]

Makes me want to experience it even more...

 

[Ladybatt]

Taste & Diet

Mayber her pussy is gross. I had a lesbian friend tell me she has smelled some nasty women in her days.
I like how I taste. But I know that not everyone tastes the same guys or gals.
So ladies, listen up!!
Watch ur diet (cuz it affects taste) and BE CLEAN!!

Hi Ladies. Being bi I was attracted to this thread and read this intriguing post. Now, I'm pretty certain it's true but I was wondering if you had any ideas on what foods to avoid?

As for Emanuelle, most of what I can tell you has already been said. Relax, go slow, don't be nervous, just enjoy. It's softer and slower paced than with men and very enjoyable. I've loved my experiences and have never regretted being brave enough to experiment with "new things".

Good luck

 

[Bitchslapper]

Re: Taste & Diet

Hi Ladies. Being bi I was attracted to this thread and read this intriguing post. Now, I'm pretty certain it's true but I was wondering if you had any ideas on what foods to avoid?

Just about anything that is strong in flavor and/or would give you bad breath, like garlic or pickles, stuff like that. Things that improve the smell/taste would be sweeter things. I've been told that powdered sugar is quite effective.

 

[Debbie]

Re: Taste & Diet

A link for Ladybatt.


http://www.dailycal.org/article.php?id=4058

 

[Etoile]

Great link, Debbie, thanks!

I've heard pineapple is supposed to make a man's ejaculate sweeter; I don't know if it works on a woman's secretions.

 

[Ladybatt]

Reiet

Great link Thanks Debbie. Better reply than I ever expected.

 

[Bitchslapper]

Great link, Debbie, thanks!

I've heard pineapple is supposed to make a man's ejaculate sweeter; I don't know if it works on a woman's secretions.

Supposedly any intake of fluid is supposed to improve the taste of semen, but mby my esitmation it would have to be a massive intake. But anyway, I don't know what people are complaining about, it's just a little salty is all.