cum faster?

[Berno_85]

me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time the other night she was alittle up set she couldnt get me to cum from giving me head. and when we did have sex i lasted a short time. but a few hours later we went again i lasted so long that she got tired. she thinks she dont turn me on. i was thinking if i quit masterbating i would start to be able to cum more easiler.

 

[Wilde1701]

As for the blow job bit thats very comon. there's an active thread about it here http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=645654 . As for the other bit that is also common. You only have so much cum in your body and after cumming you have to produce more so it is harder to cum the second time. while not mastrabating will help a bit it will also mean that you might come alot quicker the first time.

 

[WriterDom]

Your body doesn't need to make more cum for you to cum. I can cum up to five times in a row. Once I did have five in a row without getting out of bed. All you need to cum is an erection.

 

[Berno_85]

could also me thinking while we are going at it also wanting her to get off more then me

 

[PoeticMusings53]

me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time the other night she was alittle up set she couldnt get me to cum from giving me head. and when we did have sex i lasted a short time. but a few hours later we went again i lasted so long that she got tired. she thinks she dont turn me on. i was thinking if i quit masterbating i would start to be able to cum more easiler.

What medications are you on? There are many that will cause orgasm to become extremely difficult, and some that make orgasm near-impossible. Celexa is infamous for this, and most antidepressants will slow sexual response times generally.

 

[SweetErika]

How much do you masturbate? Have you tried cutting it out for a while?

If not, I'd try that first. Depending on how often you're with your partner and feel the need to masturbate, hold off for a period of time and see if that helps you get closer or achieve orgasm w/ oral+manual stimulation. If it does help, start adding masturbation back slowly, using lots of lube and a light touch. It might not work at first, but eventually your body should adjust to receiving less stimulation.

Where your thoughts are could definitely make coming difficult or impossible. Make sure you're relaxed, not on a schedule and have orgasm-inducing thoughts to help you get over the edge. If you need to get her off first to relax and come yourself, do so. Maybe read a couple of great stories and/or watch some hot porn without letting yourself come before you get together with your partner, then focus on the sexy ideas/images as you get close to orgasm with her.

If you feel distracted or the need to take a short break at any time, do so. It's tempting to keep going to see if you'll come, but a quick break can help you refocus your mind and resensitize your body so the stimulation gets you closer when you resume play.

You might also try adding other types of physical stimulation to the blowjob. A lot of men enjoy mixing it up with stimulation from vibrators, anal/prostate toys, ball stroking, pressure on the perineum, nipple stimulation, etc. Experiment to see what adds to your pleasure.

Make sure you reassure your gf that it's not her fault in any way and you get a ton of pleasure out of your time together, regardless of whether or not you come. Tell her you're going to try altering your masturbation habits and some other things to see if that's the problem.

Relax, try new things and communicate, and you'll be fine.

 

[Wilde1701]

Your body doesn't need to make more cum for you to cum. I can cum up to five times in a row. Once I did have five in a row without getting out of bed. All you need to cum is an erection.

You don't NEED it but it does make it easier. And I'm not just talking sperm as that makes up about 5% of cum. It's a simple biological fact. Cumming is about reproduction and your reproductive system is built up around that function.

 

[Berno_85]

How much do you masturbate? Have you tried cutting it out for a while?

If not, I'd try that first. Depending on how often you're with your partner and feel the need to masturbate, hold off for a period of time and see if that helps you get closer or achieve orgasm w/ oral+manual stimulation. If it does help, start adding masturbation back slowly, using lots of lube and a light touch. It might not work at first, but eventually your body should adjust to receiving less stimulation.

Where your thoughts are could definitely make coming difficult or impossible. Make sure you're relaxed, not on a schedule and have orgasm-inducing thoughts to help you get over the edge. If you need to get her off first to relax and come yourself, do so. Maybe read a couple of great stories and/or watch some hot porn without letting yourself come before you get together with your partner, then focus on the sexy ideas/images as you get close to orgasm with her.

If you feel distracted or the need to take a short break at any time, do so. It's tempting to keep going to see if you'll come, but a quick break can help you refocus your mind and resensitize your body so the stimulation gets you closer when you resume play.

You might also try adding other types of physical stimulation to the blowjob. A lot of men enjoy mixing it up with stimulation from vibrators, anal/prostate toys, ball stroking, pressure on the perineum, nipple stimulation, etc. Experiment to see what adds to your pleasure.

Make sure you reassure your gf that it's not her fault in any way and you get a ton of pleasure out of your time together, regardless of whether or not you come. Tell her you're going to try altering your masturbation habits and some other things to see if that's the problem.

Relax, try new things and communicate, and you'll be fine.

Thanks Erika this was a big help

 

[shiny5437]

Finger up the bum

 

[anoncuriousm]

i can tell you from experience that masurbating has nothing to do with the sex with your partner UNLESS you are talking about masturbating very close to the time you are having sex with her. and yea it is true if you havent masturbated for a long time you will cum quick first time you put it in her (considering nothing else is a factor, like medication or health, etc). i masturbate a lot, and i can cum five or six times in a night with my girlfriend. for as long as i have been masturbating, it definitely has not decreased my sex drive nor my cum (again unless you're talking about like an hour before having sex with your partner). i would look at other factors (connection you have with your girl; health issues; etc) and not focus on the masturbating.

 

[SweetErika]

i can tell you from experience that masurbating has nothing to do with the sex with your partner UNLESS you are talking about masturbating very close to the time you are having sex with her. and yea it is true if you havent masturbated for a long time you will cum quick first time you put it in her (considering nothing else is a factor, like medication or health, etc). i masturbate a lot, and i can cum five or six times in a night with my girlfriend. for as long as i have been masturbating, it definitely has not decreased my sex drive nor my cum (again unless you're talking about like an hour before having sex with your partner). i would look at other factors (connection you have with your girl; health issues; etc) and not focus on the masturbating.

Just because masturbation isn't a factor for you doesn't mean it's not a factor for anyone else.

A lot of men find they've gotten used to a certain amount of stimulation from their hand and masturbation routine in general. When it comes time to have oral or vaginal sex, they can find it difficult or impossible to come because the mouth and vagina don't provide as much friction as the hand or the same sensations they've gotten used to via masturbation. Wearing a condom can make a difference, too.

The same goes for many women - if we get too used to our own hands, toys or masturbation routines (positions, etc.), it can be difficult or impossible for us to orgasm with our partners or in different ways.

 

[CWatson]

A lot of men find they've gotten used to a certain amount of stimulation from their hand and masturbation routine in general. When it comes time to have oral or vaginal sex, they can find it difficult or impossible to come because the mouth and vagina don't provide as much friction as the hand or the same sensations they've gotten used to via masturbation.

Oh good, so there's hope for me and my horrific stamina.

~CWatson
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