Cuckolds and Hotwife Hubbies - How quickly did she do it?

[betamale30]

Your situation is very similiar to mine the first time my wife stepped out on me. It had only been a handful of years into our relationship too. Mrs. Screwher had only known him a few weeks. Our wives were X years older with more life experience. A better idea of what they want. And more confidence. So it's no surprise these guys got into their panties much quicker.

I actually never thought of It that way that they had more experience thats why It was so easy for the guys.. I always credited the guy for being smooth and good with the ladies and her being very turned on by him as the reason he got her so quick

 

[screwher]

I actually never thought of It that way that they had more experience thats why It was so easy for the guys.. I always credited the guy for being smooth and good with the ladies and her being very turned on by him as the reason he got her so quick

I'm sure it's a combination. I know my wife developed an attraction to him. He obviously said something right to talk her out of her pants.

 

[screwher]

I actually never thought of It that way that they had more experience thats why It was so easy for the guys.. I always credited the guy for being smooth and good with the ladies and her being very turned on by him as the reason he got her so quick

Actually now you've got me thinking. All of my wife's lovers in our hotwifing she met on her own accord. Now I'm thinking how hot it would be to introduce Mrs. Screwher to a smooth talking Ladies Man. After the introduction I find a reason to step back. Watch him work in on her. Hopefully before too long he's got my wife naked in his bedroom!

 

[policywank]

I actually never thought of It that way that they had more experience thats why It was so easy for the guys.. I always credited the guy for being smooth and good with the ladies and her being very turned on by him as the reason he got her so quick

Gentlemen I understand where you are coming from, but It think that there is an intrinsic bias (perhaps sexism) in assuming a guy has the right moves to talk a woman into bed. The chances that he said something magical that made her spread her legs are very small. If she fucked him it was because she wanted to fuck him.

Ya maybe it was her greater maturity if it wasn't his smoothness. But maybe she just wanted to fuck him and that is all there is to it. I met lots of guys in my life who wanted it to be one way or another. And just like guys wanting girls some times it was 'take me on a date to the movies' and some times it was 'fuck me in your car behind the move theatre'. I dated both - on the same night.

You guys don’t decide with your "game" which guy gets fucked. We mostly just let you believe that.

 

[Smallchange4]

Long story short my wife had a one night fling with another guy in our social circle about 3 years into our marriage. My wife was always very flirtatious with other guys mostly at parties when she'd had a few drinks. I was never jealous though because I didn't feel threatened as we had a very strong relationship and saw it as her just having a bit of teasing banter. However it turns out she had never been greatly satisfied with the sexual part of our relationship and ended up in a hotel one night when I was out of town. I found out about it some time after the fact and she confessed that she had become too desperate for a good fuck as in a non masturbatory orgasm. She said that my penis was always too small for her and one of the reasons she ended up fucking this other guy was because she knew he had a particularly large cock and through the social grapevine it was apparent that he knew how to use it. Surprisingly are marriage actually got better after this and lasted a few more years.

 

[policywank]

Long story short my wife had a one night fling with another guy in our social circle about 3 years into our marriage. My wife was always very flirtatious with other guys mostly at parties when she'd had a few drinks. I was never jealous though because I didn't feel threatened as we had a very strong relationship and saw it as her just having a bit of teasing banter. However it turns out she had never been greatly satisfied with the sexual part of our relationship and ended up in a hotel one night when I was out of town. I found out about it some time after the fact and she confessed that she had become too desperate for a good fuck as in a non masturbatory orgasm. She said that my penis was always too small for her and one of the reasons she ended up fucking this other guy was because she knew he had a particularly large cock and through the social grapevine it was apparent that he knew how to use it. Surprisingly are marriage actually got better after this and lasted a few more years.

I think that guys spend a lot of time trying to imagine the complexities of female desire maybe in part to deny their own shortcomings. Sometimes it is just like this - she wants something you don’t have and another guy does. You know how guys think of some women for marrying and others for fucking. It can be the same for us. Women choose husbands for lots of reasons and sometimes sex isn’t on the top of that list then later on we realize how much we miss a good fuck so we go get one.

I remember a bf back in the day who I didn’t fuck until we dated a month or so then not much after that. A month later we broke up and I started dating a guy he knew - fucked him on the first date. The first guy sort of confronted me about it like I owed him something. I told him I just wanted to fuck the other guy more.

It’s funny how guys think of the “marrying kind” as a woman they didn’t fuck on the first date. But almost all those women fucked some guy on the first date - just not the ones they married.

 

[nfrrdscnnr1]

well

I think that guys spend a lot of time trying to imagine the complexities of female desire maybe in part to deny their own shortcomings. Sometimes it is just like this - she wants something you don’t have and another guy does. You know how guys think of some women for marrying and others for fucking. It can be the same for us. Women choose husbands for lots of reasons and sometimes sex isn’t on the top of that list then later on we realize how much we miss a good fuck so we go get one.

I remember a bf back in the day who I didn’t fuck until we dated a month or so then not much after that. A month later we broke up and I started dating a guy he knew - fucked him on the first date. The first guy sort of confronted me about it like I owed him something. I told him I just wanted to fuck the other guy more.

It’s funny how guys think of the “marrying kind” as a woman they didn’t fuck on the first date. But almost all those women fucked some guy on the first date - just not the ones they married.

Well said, Policy. Nice handle, BTW.

 

[Scareltt]

You didn’t ask women to comment... haha

When you’re already married things tend to move quicker. That being said quicker doesn’t mean easer.

I started dating outside my marriage for a few reasons. A big one was my husband, he didn’t beg me to Cuckold him. He has a degenerative illness and he was/is worried about me and my life after he gets sick. It will happen and it saddens me to no end that this sweet man will have to go through this.. sorry

Me and tangents...

Don’t get me wrong, my husband suggested me dating and to be honest after almost 17 years with the same man I was in a rut physically, mentally, and sexually. It was hard for me to go on a date, and it took months to get my head there. It was some really good advice from a friend here on Lit. Yes I do count some of the friends I have made here as real friends.

My first “date” was Drinks at a bar after work with a man I met at another bar. I say date because we met somewhere together. We had a few drinks and a few shots. Then the bar was closing. He invited me to have a drink at his place. I said yes.. the whole time I was following him, I thought about just turning off and going home. I didn’t and because I didn’t my life totally changed. When we got into his apartment there were no drinks. We were animalistic, we just went after it, it was good. It was very good for me.

Now comes the part I didn’t share. The first three times we did that I cried. Once in his arms and twice on the drive home. I had broken a vow. Even though it was done with my husbands complete knowledge and support it stil wasn’t easy. I don’t think it should have been.

When I got home I took a long shower. Then slipped into bed where my husband waited eagerly to hear all the details. This is where I made the mistake of holding back. I tried to convince myself I didn’t have feeling for my lover it was just animalistic sex. I lied to my husband and told him I didn’t cum with him. The fact was I came three times. He could tell I was holding back. Maybe not the first time, but he knew I was not sharing everything. It’s hard to tell the man you love and who loves you what you should sometimes. You want to protect their feelings. Finally he called me out on it and he told me he understood why I was holding back. It was truly a lesson in communication for me and listening for him.

It’s still odd some of the feelings that come up. Like going to a movie with a lover that I know my husband really wants to see. When I’m there I feel like I shouldn’t be there. The thing is I am and I’m there with another man, and he’s holding my hand, or stealing kisses, or pushing his hand up my skirt (well on of the younger guys I see likes to do that.)

The answer to the question is. The first date, if I have agreed to meet you, in my mind I have already agreed to sex. Unless you totally blow it...

I dated me husband for 2 months before we had sex.

 

[timreh]

It was truly a lesson in communication for me and listening for him.

(((girlie hugs)))

 

[WillJ8787]

I think that guys spend a lot of time trying to imagine the complexities of female desire maybe in part to deny their own shortcomings. Sometimes it is just like this - she wants something you don’t have and another guy does. You know how guys think of some women for marrying and others for fucking. It can be the same for us. Women choose husbands for lots of reasons and sometimes sex isn’t on the top of that list then later on we realize how much we miss a good fuck so we go get one.

I remember a bf back in the day who I didn’t fuck until we dated a month or so then not much after that. A month later we broke up and I started dating a guy he knew - fucked him on the first date. The first guy sort of confronted me about it like I owed him something. I told him I just wanted to fuck the other guy more.

It’s funny how guys think of the “marrying kind” as a woman they didn’t fuck on the first date. But almost all those women fucked some guy on the first date - just not the ones they married.

Very wise words indeed!

 

[WillJ8787]

When you’re already married things tend to move quicker. That being said quicker doesn’t mean easer.

I started dating outside my marriage for a few reasons. A big one was my husband, he didn’t beg me to Cuckold him. He has a degenerative illness and he was/is worried about me and my life after he gets sick. It will happen and it saddens me to no end that this sweet man will have to go through this.. sorry

Me and tangents...

Don’t get me wrong, my husband suggested me dating and to be honest after almost 17 years with the same man I was in a rut physically, mentally, and sexually. It was hard for me to go on a date, and it took months to get my head there. It was some really good advice from a friend here on Lit. Yes I do count some of the friends I have made here as real friends.

My first “date” was Drinks at a bar after work with a man I met at another bar. I say date because we met somewhere together. We had a few drinks and a few shots. Then the bar was closing. He invited me to have a drink at his place. I said yes.. the whole time I was following him, I thought about just turning off and going home. I didn’t and because I didn’t my life totally changed. When we got into his apartment there were no drinks. We were animalistic, we just went after it, it was good. It was very good for me.

Now comes the part I didn’t share. The first three times we did that I cried. Once in his arms and twice on the drive home. I had broken a vow. Even though it was done with my husbands complete knowledge and support it stil wasn’t easy. I don’t think it should have been.

When I got home I took a long shower. Then slipped into bed where my husband waited eagerly to hear all the details. This is where I made the mistake of holding back. I tried to convince myself I didn’t have feeling for my lover it was just animalistic sex. I lied to my husband and told him I didn’t cum with him. The fact was I came three times. He could tell I was holding back. Maybe not the first time, but he knew I was not sharing everything. It’s hard to tell the man you love and who loves you what you should sometimes. You want to protect their feelings. Finally he called me out on it and he told me he understood why I was holding back. It was truly a lesson in communication for me and listening for him.

It’s still odd some of the feelings that come up. Like going to a movie with a lover that I know my husband really wants to see. When I’m there I feel like I shouldn’t be there. The thing is I am and I’m there with another man, and he’s holding my hand, or stealing kisses, or pushing his hand up my skirt (well on of the younger guys I see likes to do that.)

The answer to the question is. The first date, if I have agreed to meet you, in my mind I have already agreed to sex. Unless you totally blow it...

I dated me husband for 2 months before we had sex.

Everything in life is complicated, such a mixed bag, and it can be such a long life. I really appreciate you sharing your experiences.

 

[policywank]

For the record I dated my husband several times before he got to third base and a while after that before he fucked me. He was just so gentle and loving that going slow felt like the way to go. And he lingered at 3rd base so long because he had a talented tongue.

When I cheated on him it was with a colleague from work. We knew each other but had previously had no romantic involvement. We were out of town this together for one night. One thing led to another and I fucked him that night.

That was technically the only time I cheated because after that we opened up our marriage then ultimately became a hot wife/cuckold couple.

Now it varies depending on the guy. I don’t (or rarely) have one night stands. All my lovers are “regulars”. Most I met through other people or work so they are total strangers when I start fucking then. But once I decide to go for it I don’t delay. I can’t think of any that waited as long as my husband did to get into my panties.

 

[Justfantasies]

For the record I dated my husband several times before he got to third base and a while after that before he fucked me. He was just so gentle and loving that going slow felt like the way to go. And he lingered at 3rd base so long because he had a talented tongue.

When I cheated on him it was with a colleague from work. We knew each other but had previously had no romantic involvement. We were out of town this together for one night. One thing led to another and I fucked him that night.

That was technically the only time I cheated because after that we opened up our marriage then ultimately became a hot wife/cuckold couple.

Now it varies depending on the guy. I don’t (or rarely) have one night stands. All my lovers are “regulars”. Most I met through other people or work so they are total strangers when I start fucking then. But once I decide to go for it I don’t delay. I can’t think of any that waited as long as my husband did to get into my panties.

So the fact that you waited longer with your husband to be indicated somehow that he potentially meant more to you than the others?

 

[Justfantasies]

Bump -- this thread deserves it

 

[lynn-23]

From the time I brought up the fantasy of wanting to watch her with another man until it happened was about 2 years. So role-play and her dressing sexy in front of friends in between.

How did she react when you first brought up the subject of wanting to see her with another man? Was she shocked?

 

[Justfantasies]

Your situation is very similiar to mine the first time my wife stepped out on me. It had only been a handful of years into our relationship too. Mrs. Screwher had only known him a few weeks. Our wives were X years older with more life experience. A better idea of what they want. And more confidence. So it's no surprise these guys got into their panties much quicker.

On the other hand much younger women often have weaker senses of commitment. I had a GF when I was in my early 29s who went on a vacation without me and cheated shamelessly

She had only been with one guy before me but on this particular vacation, she and the friend she was traveling with met this Spanish man and stayed with him for a few days and he fucked them both

 

[policywank]

So the fact that you waited longer with your husband to be indicated somehow that he potentially meant more to you than the others?

I guess it depends on what you mean. I had a greater connection with him than most other guys. So there were more facets to the relationship which arguably led to it evolving and just a greater range of ways to spend our time together beyond sex. But I don't think there was any real sense that sex too early would ruin things and certainly no notion that I needed to make him wait so he would think I was sufficiently pious (even at that time I would not have accepted that proposition).

It is sort of a challenging territory in some ways. There is no doubt that he had a broader appeal to me than the other guys. So was the sex just as good but he had a whole lot more as well....or did I sacrifice something on the sexual side of things for the rest of the package? I think that is difficult to answer. But I think the truth lies in the way people answer. It is kind of like "does size matter" - if the answer was unequivocally no, people would just say no. The fact that they don't suggests some element of truth to the proposition that it matters.

Or looked at another way. If all I wanted was a want one-night stand of hot passionate sex, would I choose my husband out of all the guys I have known. No I probably would not. And quite a few wives would say the same if they were being completely honest.

This is one of those things where guys want to believe something that they readily acknowledge is not true when the roles are reversed. Look at someone like JFK. He married Jackie and he was banging Marilyn Monroe on the side. Most guys look at that and think, well ya sure if you could you would. Jackie is the complete wife but ya Marilyn is a better fuck. Should he have resisted for the sake of his marriage and respect for Jackie? Sure he should have. But is he wrong for wanting to bang Marilyn? No that is like saying the cat is wrong for wanting to eat the canary. You know it is in his nature.

Bottom line is that most of us choose our mates on a variety of criteria. Love and respect and common interests/goals in life rate higher on the list than sex for many of us. And each potential partner ranks higher on some things than others. So it is quite possible that your chosen spouse is not your best lover - or maybe they are. But if you need to hear them say that they are the best of everything there is a pretty good chance that isn't entirely honest. I think that fairy tale and the lies required to support it are the source of a lot of relationship problems.

So in one way, yes the fact that we waited longer was directly related to the fact that we connected on the levels that were most important to me in a long-term partner. So in that sense we waited because he was more important to me than the others. But did those factors crowd out sex or did he just not get my libido going the same way some other guys did - that is difficult to unpack but a bit of both is probably the most honest answer.

Either way I don't think there was any deliberate effort to hold off to satisfy some notion of propriety. If anything as we got more serious I wanted him to know of my sexual proclivities and accept me in spite of them. At that time I fully intended to become and remain monogamous but I did not and do not have regrets about my degree of sexual activity prior to that point (and now subsequent).

 

[Scareltt]

Perfect...

I guess it depends on what you mean. I had a greater connection with him than most other guys. So there were more facets to the relationship which arguably led to it evolving and just a greater range of ways to spend our time together beyond sex. But I don't think there was any real sense that sex too early would ruin things and certainly no notion that I needed to make him wait so he would think I was sufficiently pious (even at that time I would not have accepted that proposition).

It is sort of a challenging territory in some ways. There is no doubt that he had a broader appeal to me than the other guys. So was the sex just as good but he had a whole lot more as well....or did I sacrifice something on the sexual side of things for the rest of the package? I think that is difficult to answer. But I think the truth lies in the way people answer. It is kind of like "does size matter" - if the answer was unequivocally no, people would just say no. The fact that they don't suggests some element of truth to the proposition that it matters.

Or looked at another way. If all I wanted was a want one-night stand of hot passionate sex, would I choose my husband out of all the guys I have known. No I probably would not. And quite a few wives would say the same if they were being completely honest.

This is one of those things where guys want to believe something that they readily acknowledge is not true when the roles are reversed. Look at someone like JFK. He married Jackie and he was banging Marilyn Monroe on the side. Most guys look at that and think, well ya sure if you could you would. Jackie is the complete wife but ya Marilyn is a better fuck. Should he have resisted for the sake of his marriage and respect for Jackie? Sure he should have. But is he wrong for wanting to bang Marilyn? No that is like saying the cat is wrong for wanting to eat the canary. You know it is in his nature.

Bottom line is that most of us choose our mates on a variety of criteria. Love and respect and common interests/goals in life rate higher on the list than sex for many of us. And each potential partner ranks higher on some things than others. So it is quite possible that your chosen spouse is not your best lover - or maybe they are. But if you need to hear them say that they are the best of everything there is a pretty good chance that isn't entirely honest. I think that fairy tale and the lies required to support it are the source of a lot of relationship problems.

So in one way, yes the fact that we waited longer was directly related to the fact that we connected on the levels that were most important to me in a long-term partner. So in that sense we waited because he was more important to me than the others. But did those factors crowd out sex or did he just not get my libido going the same way some other guys did - that is difficult to unpack but a bit of both is probably the most honest answer.

Either way I don't think there was any deliberate effort to hold off to satisfy some notion of propriety. If anything as we got more serious I wanted him to know of my sexual proclivities and accept me in spite of them. At that time I fully intended to become and remain monogamous but I did not and do not have regrets about my degree of sexual activity prior to that point (and now subsequent).

I really like how you said all of that..

When I started dating my husband it was him who had been the player. He was dating 2 other women. I didn’t want serious, I had just gotten out of a long term thing and I wanted fun. He was lots of fun, our first night out he tried the, “I’m too drunk to drive can I crash at your place?” Haha he slept on the couch with Daisy the Dalmatian.

As I got to know him I found an amazing person, so sweet and compassionate, a gentle soul. The first time we had sex he was more interested in what he needed to do to get me to orgasm. NO ONE had ever shown me and my body that type of concern. I loved everything about him. As everyone knows that whole new Love and sex partner thing goes. Soon he was ending relationships and we were renting an apartment...

Now it’s different I get to have the variety, I get the excitement of a first date, of being courted, of being desired.

The rush of a different lovers touch. The goosebumps the raw sexual energy. When I’m on a date I’m not Mom, or someone’s wife. I’m a different version of myself. My husband is a great man, a wonderful father, and gentle force who makes me a better person. However he’s not the type to take me. The raw animalistic sex I crave has left our relationship. I used the roller coasters example here somewhere. He’s the classic wooden coaster. Comfortable, always there waiting. I still enjoy the ride. However I want to try the new metal coaster, the ones with the loop deloops, or the one that starts backwards, the one that goes straight up and back down, the one what the whole car turns as you go... we all need some type of variety, I grew up on a cattle farm but that dosent me I don’t like chicken or pork..

My husband is a great husband, a perfect father, a smart business man. A gentle sweet man. He’s perfect in those regards...

My lovers are all very different and fill different needs. They fill my need to ride different roller coasters, or in some cases totally different types of rides. Things I had never thought of..

 

[Justfantasies]

No doubt about it monogamy is boring and most couples who try it -- which is most couples -- end up having mechanical sex or no sex at all.

Having an open relationship of some kind is a big improvement and a hot wife relationship perhaps the best of all -- for both partners I expect. At least that's what I have found. But I wonder how many couples can handle something like this? Most of my relationships have been polyamorous since my earliest days and I have never felt much jealous. But can most husbands deal with that?

 

[RipRespon]

I married my much younger wife (18 at the time), she was totally hot and a nymphomaniac. I knew it was only a matter of time before I would share her.

The first time she cheated on me was when I was at my bachelor party 4 days before our wedding. She got drunk (something that always released her inner nympho) at a small gathering with her old boyfriend. He convinced her I was getting a BJ from a stripper so she should also have a last fling with him. At the time I was told they had a quickie in the bathroom, however, a few years later I was told that's where they started. He then pulled her into the living room and they fucked for a long time in many positions while several of his buddies hung out and watched (apparently like old times). She stayed naked while they took a break and, because of her ex's encouragement, she let most of the guys grope her before he fucked every hole several more times. All of them came to the wedding and I knew deep down we were going to have an exciting marriage.

It was a year and a half before I shared her for the first time, and, another 18 before she really cheated on me.

 

[Mystories189]

]It took me 2 years.
I was pretty promiscuous in college, but tried to settle down one I git married. I met with an old highschool friend. We flirted, cybered, and then finally he fucked me in public and I loved it. When my husband found out about it, he asked if I would let his friend and him double team me and noticed that he enjoyed watch me with his friend. Then I met my neighbor who I fell in love with and , I decided that I can sleep with who ever I wanted to.[

 

[cuckoldbill]

Great thread. Will add my story shortly

 

[Justfantasies]

]It took me 2 years.
I was pretty promiscuous in college, but tried to settle down one I git married. I met with an old highschool friend. We flirted, cybered, and then finally he fucked me in public and I loved it. When my husband found out about it, he asked if I would let his friend and him double team me and noticed that he enjoyed watch me with his friend. Then I met my neighbor who I fell in love with and , I decided that I can sleep with who ever I wanted to.[

It takes a special sort of woman to understand her real needs sexually and special sort of husband to let her do what she wants and enjoy other men As you describe here the husbands can get pleasure out of it too.

 

[jd_sw]

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[cuck72]

did it for me

My wife was a good girl when we married , was a virgin. Although she did admit to giving a few blow jobs in HS to help keep her virginity. We were together 2 months before she gave up her pussy hole to me. We married a year and a half later. THEN! with all my talk with her about my fantasies of other guys we knew fucking her, she did it. 7 years after our marriage she gave into it with a co-worker of mine. WOW! we had some nice 3sums, loved the sloppy seconds.