Cuckold

[Pliantjoed]

I've never really been the sharing type, but I do have a great pleasure in being the man that gets to fuck someone's wife. I've never done it in a way that destroyed someone's relationship though. I'm curious, what is it that makes men feel so excited to see their wife fuck someone else?

For me, my wife and I dated in college, she was a summer camp counselor so every summer she was fairly unreachable, no cell phones then. After the second summer she broke up with me, said something about how we were just different. Found out that right after she broke up with me one of the male counselors she worked with visited her in college for the weekend. Stayed in her dorm with her.

She swears nothing happened between them. Hard to believe two college kids sharing a bed only slept beside eachother.

So for me it’s a couple things. The deep feeling of someone desiring my wife, and her returning the admiration. The humiliation of me not being enough for her. My mind being able to reconcile a story that to this point has not been resolved (at least in my mind it hasn’t, she feels she told me the whole story though.

 

[TryingTooHard]

For me, my wife and I dated in college, she was a summer camp counselor so every summer she was fairly unreachable, no cell phones then. After the second summer she broke up with me, said something about how we were just different. Found out that right after she broke up with me one of the male counselors she worked with visited her in college for the weekend. Stayed in her dorm with her.

She swears nothing happened between them. Hard to believe two college kids sharing a bed only slept beside eachother.

So for me it’s a couple things. The deep feeling of someone desiring my wife, and her returning the admiration. The humiliation of me not being enough for her. My mind being able to reconcile a story that to this point has not been resolved (at least in my mind it hasn’t, she feels she told me the whole story though.

Do you bring this episode up with her now?

 

[Pliantjoed]

Do you bring this episode up with her now?

Not specifically, but he occasionally shows up on her feed and she will like or love one of his posts. Then daydreaming the rest of the day

 

[TryingTooHard]

Do you think this might evolve into something? Would you like that to happen? Would you encourage it?

 

[TryingTooHard]

Not specifically, but he occasionally shows up on her feed and she will like or love one of his posts. Then daydreaming the rest of the day

Do you think this might evolve into something? Would you like that to happen? Would you encourage it?

 

[Pliantjoed]

Do you think this might evolve into something? Would you like that to happen? Would you encourage it?

I’m not sure. I have played the fantasy in my head a million times. One morning I even role played it with her. Not him specifically but in my mind it as him. And I’m sure in hers too because I described him exactly. She was in to it. But any other time I bring it up, she doesn’t seem all that interested.

 

[liqueur]

I've never really been the sharing type, but I do have a great pleasure in being the man that gets to fuck someone's wife.... I'm curious, what is it that makes men feel so excited to see their wife fuck someone else?

The mistake most people make when they ask this question is in thinking there will be one single and simple answer. The reality is not only that it's different for everyone, but also that for any one cuckold, there can be a whole cluster of interwoven factors.

For me, the one central fetish that underlies almost all my other kinks is humiliation. In a culture that pretends to be built on monogamous family units— monogamous on the part of the woman, at least, dating back thousands of years— the willful betrayal of the husband by the wife has incredible cultural baggage attached to it, and all of it involves humiliation of the husband.

• He is humiliated by the man, who is co-opting his rightful place in his wife's vagina (and maybe places the husband has never been allowed—mouth? ass?) if not his actual marriage bed.
• He is humiliated by his wife, whom his culture says he is supposed to “control”, but who instead goes out and gets what she wants, when she wants, from whoever she wants it.
• He is humiliated in front of his friends and neighbors, who can witness that other (presumably more virile) men are able to give her what he apparently can't.

Of course some of these things sound outdated, but bear in mind that cuckolding is as old as marriage itself, and cuckolding as a source of erotic amusement dates back 1000 years at the very least. Ideas like “controlling the wife” may have fallen by the wayside, but the erotic and emotional baggage in this ancient pasttime will be with us for a long time to come.

There are more elements I could describe, but this is getting long.

 

[TryingTooHard]

I’m not sure. I have played the fantasy in my head a million times. One morning I even role played it with her. Not him specifically but in my mind it as him. And I’m sure in hers too because I described him exactly. She was in to it. But any other time I bring it up, she doesn’t seem all that interested.

Do you want it to happen? Do you think that if you continue with gentle persuasion and encouragement, she might agree to meet him? With you?

 

[TryingTooHard]

The mistake most people make when they ask this question is in thinking there will be one single and simple answer. The reality is not only that it's different for everyone, but also that for any one cuckold, there can be a whole cluster of interwoven factors.

For me, the one central fetish that underlies almost all my other kinks is humiliation. In a culture that pretends to be built on monogamous family units— monogamous on the part of the woman, at least, dating back thousands of years— the willful betrayal of the husband by the wife has incredible cultural baggage attached to it, and all of it involves humiliation of the husband.

• He is humiliated by the man, who is co-opting his rightful place in his wife's vagina (and maybe places the husband has never been allowed—mouth? ass?) if not his actual marriage bed.
• He is humiliated by his wife, whom his culture says he is supposed to “control”, but who instead goes out and gets what she wants, when she wants, from whoever she wants it.
• He is humiliated in front of his friends and neighbors, who can witness that other (presumably more virile) men are able to give her what he apparently can't.

Of course some of these things sound outdated, but bear in mind that cuckolding is as old as marriage itself, and cuckolding as a source of erotic amusement dates back 1000 years at the very least. Ideas like “controlling the wife” may have fallen by the wayside, but the erotic and emotional baggage in this ancient part-time will be with us for a long time to come.

There are more elements I could describe, but this is getting long.

You correct. The central ingredient IS humiliation. This is the catalyst for sexual arousal.