Cuckold but wife hiding few things

[Myuniversewithin]

Hi.. I am cuck for few years and met few single guys. And enjoyed watching wife romancing with other guys.

She had a crush with one of my friend and she took a lead to foreplay with my friend when I was in a business trip. She told me about it as soon as I came. Told wife not to proceed further with that guy and she stopped it.

Later after couple of years, Cuck inside me took initiative and invited friend for dinner home and later went out crating privacy between my friend and wife.

It was very anxious moment and I know strong romance happened between them when I was not there. Once I am back home, that night wife told me about kiss, hugs etc but she lied with me about intercourse.

Later I came to know that they had intercourse which excited me more. Anyone went through situation where woman lied about sexual activities with other guys and later when you came to know about it.. it aroused you more.

i keep asking her about those moments and she hiding about intercourse and that discussion makes me more erotic and intense.

 

[gtnlynn]

We were in different colleges and I only saw her once or twice a month, so she was free to date others. I knew she was having fun with them, but she swore she was not having sex. I heard otherwise from others, but I didn't press her on it. After we had been married a few years, I asked and she told me that she had lots of sex with several guys in college before we became engaged. It all stopped then. It totally turned me on as she told me about screwing in the back seat or other places. I'm glad I didn't know at the time it was happening.

 

[Islander55]

I think once you enter the cuck or hotwife lifestyle, you need to let the woman take the lead. It is natural to develop feelings for a guy you are having sex with. The man needs to feel confident that she will not run off and leave him but also needs to give her room to deal with her feelings. She may not want to tell you everything about some guys she has fucked and that should be her call. You need to discuss issues before getting started. Personally I do not like rules. Either you let her do her thing or don't do the open marriage. It certainly is not a lifestyle to enter if you are not secure in your marriage.

 

[angela40]

My second husband was cuck and could only get hard seeing me with others. Often he set up group sex that absolutely had him in a state of raging hard ons. I then took care of him.

 

[pixie07]

In a cuckold relationship the wife should always be in charge I know my wife is. i have complete confidence that she will make the right decisions for us so I never question her on anything. As for being with friends she knows how much i get off on being humiliated so she has definitely been with our friends , she will tell me about her encounters if she want me to know.

 

[Islander55]

In a cuckold relationship the wife should always be in charge I know my wife is. i have complete confidence that she will make the right decisions for us so I never question her on anything. As for being with friends she knows how much i get off on being humiliated so she has definitely been with our friends , she will tell me about her encounters if she want me to know.

I suppose the exception would be if the woman is a sub and wants to be controlled. My husband and I started with trying to swap but found it much easier for me to find lovers. He really loved to watch me or even just hear about. Their was not humiliation involved just him enjoying the show and me enjoying some different cocks.

 

[SlutAddicted]

It isn't surprising that you find something that was previously hidden from you to be extra stimulating. It is new exciting information and evidence of the strength of her sexual desire which is something that sets hot wives apart.

As other have said do not expect to control or direct your wife's feelings for other men. It won't work and those efforts will dampen her enthusiasm and discourage her from being forthcoming. Her discretion will add to the titillating mystery of it for you. Embrace that.

 

[policywank]

I suppose the exception would be if the woman is a sub and wants to be controlled. My husband and I started with trying to swap but found it much easier for me to find lovers. He really loved to watch me or even just hear about. Their was not humiliation involved just him enjoying the show and me enjoying some different cocks.

I think that is true - if she really want to be a Sub and her husband is suited to the role of Dom. In some ways the latter seems to be more rare than the former. There are lots of guys who think they are suited to the role, but it is really all about feeding their egos and/or mitigating any threat to their egos from the sexual pleasure their wives find with other men.

 

[policywank]

For me it could never work if I didn't have pretty much complete latitude. I take my husbands feelings and perspective into account, but he isn't permitted to set constraints or extract information by peppering me with questions. Accepting that role and the fact that there is a certain amount of the unknown is very titillating for him. I will often drop a nugget of information from a past experience on him knowing it will excite him. It is part of the fun once a cuckold properly cedes the lead to his wife.

Part of my discretion is the result of me having a genuine personal relationship with my lovers that I don't feel obliged to share with others. I think we all have that with people in our lives. Even in a devoted monogamous relationship we don't necessarily tell our spouse about every little thing about our relationship with other people in our lives. But part of it is also about deciding when I share things based both on my mood and my husband's. I won't have that dictated to me by his impatience. Again we see this in more traditional relationships as well - if a friend or relative drops some sensitive new information on me that I need to share with my husband I still take the latitude to pick the time and place based upon the relevant factors at play.

Sometimes there is a question of honesty or hiding things from your spouse. In many ways that comes down to whether they have the right to know. If the arrangement is like mine where I have wide latitude to have sex with other men my husband doesn't have the right to know every last detail. If he seeks to extract that information anyway by peppering me with questions, that creates a conundrum. If he asks if I did X and I say none of your business or I am not telling you it may well be that that answer telegraphs a yes because if the answer was no I would have said so. In that scenario he has effectively created a trap wherein I am obliged to lie or divulge personal information that he has no right to know. I'd rather not lie, but I won't accept being put into that trap.

The issue of what you have a right to know is especially sensitive in the hot wife/cuckold dynamic. There is a very high onus on me to make good judgments and be fair and balanced. Shutting my husband out just so that I don't have to face anything uncomfortable isn't acceptable. If we were visiting a friend of his and I ended up fucking the guy and giving him some information on our marital sexual arrangements I think that it would be unfair of me to not let my husband know that. And there would be some legitimate questions of what I should or shouldn't have let the friend know and whether I was adequately confident that he could handle the situation before I had sex with him. But if my husband and I were both fully aware of and supportive of my plan to hook-up with his friend and my husband made a point of making himself scarce to facilitate that connection chances are that I would not feel obliged to tell him exactly what happened and would view any intensive questioning as the trap I described above - if I had to tell him that it didn't happen just to get him to back off I might well do that. I would also use it as an example of the kind of behaviour that I don't want to see repeated if he wants any insight into my actual sexual interactions with other men.

 

[Islander55]

I think that is true - if she really want to be a Sub and her husband is suited to the role of Dom. In some ways the latter seems to be more rare than the former. There are lots of guys who think they are suited to the role, but it is really all about feeding their egos and/or mitigating any threat to their egos from the sexual pleasure their wives find with other men.

Perhaps if the husband is primarily a voyeur and the wife a sub, they might find a Dom that would fulfill her needs.

 

[policywank]

Perhaps if the husband is primarily a voyeur and the wife a sub, they might find a Dom that would fulfill her needs.

That certainly works if that suits everyone preference. I personally worry about finding the "right" Dom because the 3rd party doesn't have as much at stake as the couple so it really needs to be someone with the right empathy and connection. But if you can find that I think it would be quite incredible.

 

[Islander55]

That certainly works if that suits everyone preference. I personally worry about finding the "right" Dom because the 3rd party doesn't have as much at stake as the couple so it really needs to be someone with the right empathy and connection. But if you can find that I think it would be quite incredible.

I do not really know enough about the Dom/sub dynamic. It seems like it is difficult to find the right pairing in a simple couple relationship so I would guess that would be really difficult in a 3 way relationship.

 

[Wife4MMF]

My second husband was cuck and could only get hard seeing me with others. Often he set up group sex that absolutely had him in a state of raging hard ons. I then took care of him.

I can understand that.

 

[policywank]

I do not really know enough about the Dom/sub dynamic. It seems like it is difficult to find the right pairing in a simple couple relationship so I would guess that would be really difficult in a 3 way relationship.

I think that I am a bit biased because I have found that most guys who claim to be dominant are posers. Maybe that isn't fair. In my view men aren't notably more or less suitable to the role than women, but they have been told that they are and are more incline to identify as such. So a lot of time guys who claim to be Dom are just overbearing wanna-be's. That makes it hard to find one who is legitimate. Then layer on the need to make sure he understands the hotwife/cuckold dynamic and can be trusted to play the right role for both partners. It just seems like too much to expect.

 

[Islander55]

I think that I am a bit biased because I have found that most guys who claim to be dominant are posers. Maybe that isn't fair. In my view men aren't notably more or less suitable to the role than women, but they have been told that they are and are more incline to identify as such. So a lot of time guys who claim to be Dom are just overbearing wanna-be's. That makes it hard to find one who is legitimate. Then layer on the need to make sure he understands the hotwife/cuckold dynamic and can be trusted to play the right role for both partners. It just seems like too much to expect.

You are probably right. I am just theorizing. No real experience.

 

[SlutAddicted]

I think that I am a bit biased because I have found that most guys who claim to be dominant are posers. Maybe that isn't fair. In my view men aren't notably more or less suitable to the role than women, but they have been told that they are and are more incline to identify as such. So a lot of time guys who claim to be Dom are just overbearing wanna-be's. That makes it hard to find one who is legitimate. Then layer on the need to make sure he understands the hotwife/cuckold dynamic and can be trusted to play the right role for both partners. It just seems like too much to expect.

I love being submissive to my wife. I would embrace being submissive to one of her lovers as well, but most just don't have what it takes.

 

[muycurioso]

I suppose the exception would be if the woman is a sub and wants to be controlled. My husband and I started with trying to swap but found it much easier for me to find lovers. He really loved to watch me or even just hear about. Their was not humiliation involved just him enjoying the show and me enjoying some different cocks.

 

[muycurioso]

I would not like humiliation. let it be fun for all. each their own

 

[Islander55]

I would not like humiliation. let it be fun for all. each their own

I gather that there are people who do like the humiliation aspect but I agree with you. Let everyone have fun.

 

[Sassyunicorn]

I've had a couple of girlfriend's cheat on me. I suspected the first one and caught her. It was driving me crazy wondering what she was doing when she was out with other guys. I hated it at the time, but now I look back on it and love it.

I suspected another girlfriend of the same thing. I never caught her, but long after we broke up I found out. I really enjoyed hearing about the things she was doing behind my back.

I suspect my ex-wife did, too, but I still don't have definitive proof. I fantasize about her telling me everything she did with other men while we were married.

My current wife gave me that familiar feeling of jealousy while we were dating. I loved the feeling of thinking she was doing something without really knowing. I believe her when she tells me nothing happened. She felt bad for putting herself in situations that made me wonder what she was up to. I encourage her to have her fun, but she is a one man woman. It's funny how our feelings about monogamy can change as we get older!

 

[djrip]

For me it could never work if I didn't have pretty much complete latitude. I take my husbands feelings and perspective into account, but he isn't permitted to set constraints or extract information by peppering me with questions. Accepting that role and the fact that there is a certain amount of the unknown is very titillating for him. I will often drop a nugget of information from a past experience on him knowing it will excite him. It is part of the fun once a cuckold properly cedes the lead to his wife.

Part of my discretion is the result of me having a genuine personal relationship with my lovers that I don't feel obliged to share with others. I think we all have that with people in our lives. Even in a devoted monogamous relationship we don't necessarily tell our spouse about every little thing about our relationship with other people in our lives. But part of it is also about deciding when I share things based both on my mood and my husband's. I won't have that dictated to me by his impatience. Again we see this in more traditional relationships as well - if a friend or relative drops some sensitive new information on me that I need to share with my husband I still take the latitude to pick the time and place based upon the relevant factors at play.

Sometimes there is a question of honesty or hiding things from your spouse. In many ways that comes down to whether they have the right to know. If the arrangement is like mine where I have wide latitude to have sex with other men my husband doesn't have the right to know every last detail. If he seeks to extract that information anyway by peppering me with questions, that creates a conundrum. If he asks if I did X and I say none of your business or I am not telling you it may well be that that answer telegraphs a yes because if the answer was no I would have said so. In that scenario he has effectively created a trap wherein I am obliged to lie or divulge personal information that he has no right to know. I'd rather not lie, but I won't accept being put into that trap.

The issue of what you have a right to know is especially sensitive in the hot wife/cuckold dynamic. There is a very high onus on me to make good judgments and be fair and balanced. Shutting my husband out just so that I don't have to face anything uncomfortable isn't acceptable. If we were visiting a friend of his and I ended up fucking the guy and giving him some information on our marital sexual arrangements I think that it would be unfair of me to not let my husband know that. And there would be some legitimate questions of what I should or shouldn't have let the friend know and whether I was adequately confident that he could handle the situation before I had sex with him. But if my husband and I were both fully aware of and supportive of my plan to hook-up with his friend and my husband made a point of making himself scarce to facilitate that connection chances are that I would not feel obliged to tell him exactly what happened and would view any intensive questioning as the trap I described above - if I had to tell him that it didn't happen just to get him to back off I might well do that. I would also use it as an example of the kind of behaviour that I don't want to see repeated if he wants any insight into my actual sexual interactions with other men.

This is a very interesting perspective. I see and understand you are speaking about a cuckold relationship specifically, not an open or swinging one. The dynamic you describe sounds fine, to me, if it's agreed to by all parties first. But if a couple are figuring out how they want to open their relationship, one partner could certainly specify, I'm not comfortable with this happening if we don't share all relevant information. At that point it seems the other partner would have a choice - agree to share the information, or say that doesn't work for them. If the latter, first partner would then have the choice - accept an open relationship without the information sharing, or say *that* doesn't work for *them*, and the open relationship probably won't work out either. Going outside the relationship in a way that hasn't been agreed upon prior strikes me as a breach of trust and thus unethical. I assume your arrangement is agreed upon prior. But the whole 'right to know' thing, I think, in my inexperienced opinion, depends on the nature of the agreement.

 

[policywank]

This is a very interesting perspective. I see and understand you are speaking about a cuckold relationship specifically, not an open or swinging one. The dynamic you describe sounds fine, to me, if it's agreed to by all parties first. But if a couple are figuring out how they want to open their relationship, one partner could certainly specify, I'm not comfortable with this happening if we don't share all relevant information. At that point it seems the other partner would have a choice - agree to share the information, or say that doesn't work for them. If the latter, first partner would then have the choice - accept an open relationship without the information sharing, or say *that* doesn't work for *them*, and the open relationship probably won't work out either. Going outside the relationship in a way that hasn't been agreed upon prior strikes me as a breach of trust and thus unethical. I assume your arrangement is agreed upon prior. But the whole 'right to know' thing, I think, in my inexperienced opinion, depends on the nature of the agreement.

Agreed. More broadly speaking it is my view that the "contract" between husband and wife is entirely based upon their mutual agreement. Some of that will be explicit details. Sometimes of it comes down to implicit agreement based upon something like cultural context. But in either case it is - in my view - solely between man and wife. As soon as we bring in views based upon what other people or society think that can be problematic.

As an example I was reading a thread online where people were debating whether it was cheating for a man to subscribe to a woman's OnlyFans page. Personally, I think it is fine. Other people felt differently. But what was striking was how many people present their views stridently and as objectively true without any reference point to the relationship agreement. Some people thinking chatting like this online is cheating. I don't. My husband agrees. But if we had never covered this before and he tried to assert that it was wrong I would adopt the view that we should talk about it, but he does not have the right to unilaterally impose that view. And what others think is of no consequence.

 

[SurferBoy9044]

I can understand that.

My favorite thing to do is make my girlfriend now my wife have sex with my friends in front of me. She is very submissive and really likes that I make her expose herself and strip naked in front of my friends. I like to make her masterbate in front of them with a large glass dildo in her pussy. I even have had her do anal masterbating shows in front of them. I like to have her lay over my lap and pull down her panties and have my friends stand behind her as I spread her ass cheeks apart and finger her asshole. I then have each one of my friends fuck her in her ass one after another.

 

[FantasySharer1]

I want my wife to cuckold me with her brother.
Outside of that restriction (that it is only him) - I fantasize about her having absolute latitude to do whatever she wants with him, whenever, however, and as often as she wants. She would have no duty to report back. No duty to share. I just want to know she is enjoying herself with him to her utmost ability.

I enjoy the idea of being surprised at her cum-filled pussy when we have sex and she hasn't told me that he has just fucked her.

I love the idea of being surprised at how shes shaved for him, bought lingerie only for him, spend time with him. It would turn me on to know details but I love the idea that it's really just about her pleasure.

 

[Wife4MMF]

My favorite thing to do is make my girlfriend now my wife have sex with my friends in front of me. She is very submissive and really likes that I make her expose herself and strip naked in front of my friends. I like to make her masterbate in front of them with a large glass dildo in her pussy. I even have had her do anal masterbating shows in front of them. I like to have her lay over my lap and pull down her panties and have my friends stand behind her as I spread her ass cheeks apart and finger her asshole. I then have each one of my friends fuck her in her ass one after another.

Does she enjoy this?