MMM_wms
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- Dec 4, 2019
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Heureka! I am finally beginning to understand my needs and desires better than before, I mean the essence of them. Of course the term boring needs some deliberation and a careful definition too.
When I write down “boring” now, the main connotations coming to mind are reliability and an absence of upset & unpredictability. Also implied in boring is some basic fairness and civility. The kind of boundary conditions that help positive developments flourish. Or traits, which allow one to suspect a maximum of outcomes for a minimum of effort. No wonder that I got to like the word first related to investing.
So come to think of it: I look at the “boring” part of a relationship I am after, as its foundational boundary conditions, which allow it to flourish, and certainly not as its desired outcome for you and me. And the same applies to all your “boring” traits, and mine. Underneath those, you and I are (or want to be or become again) people full of passion and excitement. Able to incite passion and excitement in another person. Like you in me and I in you.
I see boring boundary conditions as a necessary prerequisite for two people achieving happiness together. … And WHY such a paradox? I figure because you and I are not capable of “taming” the side effect of non-boredom – of chaos. So for me, “boring” is the anti-thesis of chaos, and not of curiosity and soul-searching. And not of excitement either.
The way I see it, two people of the right kind can be the most passionate lovers, and make love in the most imaginative kind of way, and still possess a highly boring essence.
Some time ago, I had experienced heavenly bliss with a non-boring and hence highly chaotic sweet (and rather young still) woman, but we broke up with each other all the time. The bliss felt great but not our break-ups. And we never figured out, how to “reign in” the chaos in our – very deep for sure – relationship together. Perhaps that makes it understandable that I thought of the term boring as an ideal to aspire.
Now in case you find my way of thinkig agreeable, and in case you are a woman who has acquired some maturity, and you are longing deeply for a relationship by mail with a man with somewhat “weird” ideas in his head often, a relationship meant to bring out the best in us – and one to counter the same basic deep void I feel inside myself – I urge you to respond back to this ad of mine. Because in that case I figure you are so unique and rare, that we deserve to meet one another.
When I write down “boring” now, the main connotations coming to mind are reliability and an absence of upset & unpredictability. Also implied in boring is some basic fairness and civility. The kind of boundary conditions that help positive developments flourish. Or traits, which allow one to suspect a maximum of outcomes for a minimum of effort. No wonder that I got to like the word first related to investing.
So come to think of it: I look at the “boring” part of a relationship I am after, as its foundational boundary conditions, which allow it to flourish, and certainly not as its desired outcome for you and me. And the same applies to all your “boring” traits, and mine. Underneath those, you and I are (or want to be or become again) people full of passion and excitement. Able to incite passion and excitement in another person. Like you in me and I in you.
I see boring boundary conditions as a necessary prerequisite for two people achieving happiness together. … And WHY such a paradox? I figure because you and I are not capable of “taming” the side effect of non-boredom – of chaos. So for me, “boring” is the anti-thesis of chaos, and not of curiosity and soul-searching. And not of excitement either.
The way I see it, two people of the right kind can be the most passionate lovers, and make love in the most imaginative kind of way, and still possess a highly boring essence.
Some time ago, I had experienced heavenly bliss with a non-boring and hence highly chaotic sweet (and rather young still) woman, but we broke up with each other all the time. The bliss felt great but not our break-ups. And we never figured out, how to “reign in” the chaos in our – very deep for sure – relationship together. Perhaps that makes it understandable that I thought of the term boring as an ideal to aspire.
Now in case you find my way of thinkig agreeable, and in case you are a woman who has acquired some maturity, and you are longing deeply for a relationship by mail with a man with somewhat “weird” ideas in his head often, a relationship meant to bring out the best in us – and one to counter the same basic deep void I feel inside myself – I urge you to respond back to this ad of mine. Because in that case I figure you are so unique and rare, that we deserve to meet one another.
