dealing with people in this area fine. if you do not, i would not take on such a challenge. there can be a relapse at anytime, and do you want your kids exposed to it?
My half-brother was, actually still in this situation. In our situation we tried to help him by letting him stay with us but he ended up taking off, but not before stealing money from me and my sister. He is now in prison and I think my parents are trying to get him into a rehab clinic. My suggestion is do not let he/she stay with you. But thats cause I've been burned once.
My uncle had a major problem with it and has made a pretty good recovery. It's been a few years and as far as I know he's never had a relapse. Physically and mentally he's not the same person as he was before the problem but he seems to be getting by OK. So it is possible to conquer it, if the person is willing.
The mental state of the person is going to determine what is to come, but honestly these people arn't victims, they choose to remain addicts. Don't let them make you think they have been victimized by this drug. They are trying to get your sympathy and then they will take you for all you are worth.
You are best to ask them to seek refuge in a rehab, and not your home. It is best for you. The same applies to heroin addicts.
I have tons of experiance with dealing with these people. Three people I know have died from o.d.s and they lied their way to the end. They plainly cannot be trusted.
Spare yourself the pain. Life is hard enough as it is and sometimes tough love is what these selfish, apathetic people need.
When I was in law enforcement, I remember a woman coming to our office crying. She gave me a teary story about how she is addicted to crack and want help. She swore that she wanted to get off of it. We sat her down, fed her, and I even gave her a ride home. We became friends and stayed in touch with one another. About 2 weeks later, she came into $10 and left her house, never to be seen for almost a week. With a simple ten dollar bill, she went on a crack binge. I never met a crack head who really wanted to end their addiction, to this date.
My ex is addicted to the painkiller oxycontin. He has been in rehab twice, only to get out and 3 days later get high again. He breaks open the capsule and inhales the contents. He pays $60 for and 80mg capsule, and generally needs 3 of these a day. If he can't get the oxy, he tries to mimic his high using cocaine and sometimes herion.
Does he care that his girls suffer from his absence and lack of support? No. He thinks he is above crack addicts. Like he is a new-wave yuppie addict. He has ruined what was once a good career in computers.
I tried to help him. I let him stay w/ me. I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he said he wanted to quit. He stole some checks and overdrew my account. He sold my VCR and nearly all our movies.
Like Starfish said, he is not a victim. He has been given all the help and oppurtunities to quit. He chooses not to.
I pray everyday that he will get clean. But I no longer place any priority in helping him.
Now I hear about all the oxy-related deaths, but do I worry? No. I worry more about my girls who are disappointed everytime he chooses the drug over them.