Couples Who Post Pictures

[Dana Gallagher]

I made this thread because I wanted feedback from couples who post pictures.

I suppose couples that have open relationships can comment, but really I want to hear from those in a closed/monogamous relationships, no others are allowed in your bed and you don't venture into bed with anyone else... but you both post pictures up here.

I used to have a thread. I had it deleted over a year ago, when I lost interest. I actually went through a personal crisis and I deleted the thread as well as most of my pictures on my harddrive. Well, the X-rated ones anyways. I still have some that are some where between PG-13 and R ratings.

I had told my boyfriend about the fact I used to have a thread, but I don't think he realized the depth of it. Until that was I read an email to him from one of my 'fans'.

The guy I've talked to ever since I posted my first story, emailed me a detailed letter. He asked about my life and how my kids were doing, then he proceeded to tell me about his entire computer crashing and losing all files on his computer.

He asked if I wouldn't send him some pictures, especially the X-rated ones. He also asked for a video I'd made of my squirting talent. Then he proceeded to tell me about how he'd watch this and look at my pictures and masturbate.

Yes, I read this all to my boyfriend. I suppose I didn't realize what I was getting into when I began reading.

My boyfriend told me that he'd be mad if I sent this dude or any dude pictures of myself and especially a video. I asked him about a thread. I told him that I had the urge before, and while I didn't especially have it right now, but I could have the urg in the future.

He just wasn't sure. He is bi-polar and has a jealous streak in him, so he just avoids all things in which may inact his jealousy. I told him about having a thread together and that he could be my photographer (which is a fun job). He says it sounds fun, but he doesn't know.

The reason I want people that post pictures but are in monogamous relationships, is because his ex-wife is a swinger and he totally disagrees with that relationship. It is not for me either. And he says that he's never had a girlfriend that wanted to post pictures and in a slight way it's like his ex-wife and her lifestyle.

Sorry for the long post, I know, I know... can't help it!

I just want to hear from those that post pictures and are in monogamous relationships, how do you handle it all? What about the jealousy? Do you have cybersex with other people? What do you do when someone offers sex to your SO and she/he tells you about it?

Where is the line drawn? What do you get mad about? Does you or your SO ever go off and do things alone? Has it brought your relationship closer?

Anything that you think would be helpful... Thanks!

Oh and you can provide links to yours and your SO's thread if you want to!!

 

[fenderman68]

I know this isn't what you're looking for, since my wife and I do swing. But we started posting pics before we were in the lifestyle, so maybe this will have some validity.

We both got a huge thrill when we started posting pics. We loved all the great comments and suggestions. We'd talk about it in the bedroom.....try to think of new ideas for pics etc.. It actually made our sex life more exciting, and I guess that was the catalyst to try swinging.

The down-side was the private messagers, both on here and on our MSN. Horny guys constantly asking for pics...wanting to cam. It was ridiculous really. Since we haven't posted pics in a long time...the messaging has stopped, though we have thought about posting again.

So, I guess if you're interested on starting a pic thread, just realize what you're in for and discuss if you can handle it. There are a lot of nice people on this site...and it can be a thrill.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

I know this isn't what you're looking for, since my wife and I do swing. But we started posting pics before we were in the lifestyle, so maybe this will have some validity.

We both got a huge thrill when we started posting pics. We loved all the great comments and suggestions. We'd talk about it in the bedroom.....try to think of new ideas for pics etc.. It actually made our sex life more exciting, and I guess that was the catalyst to try swinging.

The down-side was the private messagers, both on here and on our MSN. Horny guys constantly asking for pics...wanting to cam. It was ridiculous really. Since we haven't posted pics in a long time...the messaging has stopped, though we have thought about posting again.

So, I guess if you're interested on starting a pic thread, just realize what you're in for and discuss if you can handle it. There are a lot of nice people on this site...and it can be a thrill.

I do slightly realize what I'm in for. I did have my own thread a while back. I had the same problem too the private messagers and with me it was yahoo. I finally had to take my yahoo id off of here. It is ridiculous. I still sometimes get it, just because I'm on here, even though I don't have a picture thread. It's like if someone wants to chat so badly why don't they just try posting or something. *sigh* That part of it I don't know if my BF would be able to deal with... hopefully but I don't know.

Were you ever worried that some one you know might come across your pictures?

Yes, I know about the nice people, but I did warn him about the occasional ass.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

Probably whenever I have a place of my own. Staying with parents (still) due to divorce... I may get back into taking pictures, or when BF gets his house squared away... if he's into it.

I'd love to do it this time the 'tasteful' way. Before I did it mostly the porno way, hanging it all out. I'd love to be able to buy all kinds of lingeray and pose in a sexy fashion. Attempt to be more erotic than porno...

My boyfriend is convinced that my pictures were tasteful, because he hasn't seen me do anything untasteful as of yet... I don't know about that...

 

[jason_jenn]

I suppose couples that have open relationships can comment, but really I want to hear from those in a closed/monogamous relationships, no others are allowed in your bed and you don't venture into bed with anyone else... but you both post pictures up here.

I guess Jenn and I fit nicely into that category.

What about the jealousy?

As my ex-wife is a swinger and I had bad experiences from that lifestyle, I had a hard time coming to terms with my jealousy. I had to ask myself "What is it that makes me jealous?" After I had thought it over, I realized that I cannot hold Jenn accountable for my ex-wife's transgressions. And there was an air of excitement that I craved. So having full trust in Jenn, we dove in. I still have twinges of jealousy from time to time, but I remind myself that I love and trust Jenn with everything I have, and so the jealousy subsides. Jenn says that she feels no jealousy whatsoever. We trust each other implicitly and don't mind if one were to message others because we know each of us are able to use our own discretion in what is appropriate to us as a couple.

Do you have cybersex with other people?

No.

What do you do when someone offers sex to your SO and she/he tells you about it?

We politely respond to others' offers, but decline. So this is never an issue.

Where is the line drawn?

Our line is drawn when we place ourselves in the other's shoes and think of how we would feel if it were the other way around.

What do you get mad about?

We never get angry. It does get frustrating at times when things aren't clearly defined, so a misunderstanding ensues. Misunderstandings are a common occurrence, however, we're sure that our temporary long distance situation has a lot to do with that.

Does you or your SO ever go off and do things alone?

We do PM, chat, and trade pics with others frequently. But again, we trust each other's discretions and that no lines would be crossed where we would do something that we know would hurt the other.

Has it brought your relationship closer?

We are constantly growing together as our relationship continues to develop. Posting on Lit has certainly had a role in that; however it is not the driving force of our growth.

Anything that you think would be helpful... Thanks!

Anything you can think of that we can help with, just ask. You're welcome.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

jason_jenn-- Thanks very much for your very informative reply! Great!

I've check out your pictures and you both are just amazing...

I wonder if you ever fear someone else coming across your thread, like someone you know personally. Like say for Jason if a best male friend came across the thread and saw pictures of Jenn, would this be a worry?

 

[jason_jenn]

jason_jenn-- Thanks very much for your very informative reply! Great!

I've check out your pictures and you both are just amazing...

I wonder if you ever fear someone else coming across your thread, like someone you know personally. Like say for Jason if a best male friend came across the thread and saw pictures of Jenn, would this be a worry?

Thank you so much! Jenn is the amazing one... I just take pictures and sometimes get in the way of the lense... LOL

I would be lying to say it never crosses my mind. And Jenn added that it's not a great worry to her because....

It is a controlled form of exhibitionism (ie. We're not posing ourselves in a picture window on a busy street). Also, if anyone we knew saw us here, they must be here for some reason as well, no?

 

[Anne Waters]

I think I fit your profile. I am in a monogamous relationship with my husband, and I post here with his knowladge and agreement (note I don't say consent). He's my photographer.

For us it's a shared thing. He likes taking pictures of me and I like posing. Posting them is part of the thrill. I've never done anything here he doesn't know about nor would I. He posts occasionally but more often he looks over my shoulder and we do it together.

He's said a few times he'd be OK with opening things up, but I wouldn't. He's offered for something to happen with just me only being the receipiant but again, if I'm not willing to share him, it isn't fair for him to have to share me. He may not see it that way but I do and there isn't really anything rational about love, sex and jelousy anyway

So we post photos and I flirt occasionally. It spices up our sex life.

 

[exhi2]

We post on here together. For us, its testing out a fantasy we have. If we like it a lot here, maybe we can try it in RL at some point (this is all in the first post of our thread).
I, the guy, do most of the actual writing, with my wife's approval, because she is at a computer all day and doesn't usually want to be on one when she's at home. I also modify what comes out of the camera to suit both our tastes.
Haven't had any rude or over the line remarks from people looking at us. Meaning, we haven't been asked to cyber or for RL sex. I think we both could lean towards the jealous type a bit, but (lame sounding line coming up) our trust in each other overrides that.
It's an ego boost to both of us when someone pays us a compliment. A nice turn on. It gets us thinking about each other in a fun way.

Sorry if that's all incoherent. And, hope it helps.

 

[AnzaManiac]

response

it is really very simple if you both love eachother, both want the same thing for the other, and are very open minded and creative people. Just because my husband make think another is pretty, is not an offense to me. I know that ultimately he will be with me. I do not get jealous, rather, it is an enhancement to our already colorful love life!

Anza

 

[Dana Gallagher]

Thanks a bunch

Wonderful responses all of you.... this has been great!

With my relationship I've only been dating my boyfriend for almost two months. So, perhaps it's not something we are ready to bring into the relationship.

We talked a bit about posting the pictures just tonight. He mentioned having an ex-girlfriend from way back when that was a stripper. He said he even went down to the club and saw her giving men lap dances and such things.

Now I called him on that, I said you had a girlfriend who was a stripper, which you didn't have a problem with, but you would have a problem with me posting pictures on the internet.

He said that the difference was one was for a job and the other was for my own enjoyment. He also added that the ex-girlfriend couldn't do anything other than stripping to afford the hotel room she was staying in...

I said that things can be cut back if one wants to live off of minimum wage, there's not really a situation of 'having to strip' it's a choice. I suppose I can understand if someone does it because they are paying for medicial school or such things.... but just doing it to survive I think that they could get a job at Wal-mart and survive just fine, especially if they have no dependants.

He said she couldn't have survived without stripping... I call bullshit... but still we go on.... You can find another place to live!

He also said that with my picture there is one guy beating off while thinking about me.... well if he thought that those dudes at the strip club weren't thinking about the ex-girlfriend when they went home and beat off, then he was just fooling himself.

I know they might not have been looking at her goods while they were beating off, as they might with a website... but I'm sure they were thinking about them when they got home to have sex with the wife or beat off.... in that it is the same difference.

I said, that so if I had a paid for website in which I showed pictures and this is what paid my bills, then he wouldn't have a problem with it... he said that if I was completely naked he'd have a problem with it...

He said that the stripper ex only was topless, he would have had a problem had she been totally naked. Now I couldn't argue with this, because in my past thread, I showed it all and in detail as a lot do around here.

He said he felt that when in a relationship the area from the waist down is for the partners eyes only... he did say that he has a picture of his pecker up on a random group website, in which he took down.

I do have some pictures on this friends website, but they don't show much. They are pictures of me in some lingeray and others that show the most are just of my ass... the ass shot happens to be his favorite. But those don't bug him.

Really it's stupid, I don't have much desire to make another thread, maybe if I was skinnier at this moment I would, but really I don't. I'd rather wait until I have a place of my own and my own little photography corner. That way I could do more tasteful stuff... but the fact of him telling me he wouldn't like it, makes me want to do it more!

He says that perhaps if I'd gotten with him when he was much younger (in his whoring days) that he'd probably would be all about taking some pictures and he'd be right there in the picture with me.... but now he's all about figuring out what keeps a relationship working.

He says that he is jealous, sometimes rediculously(sp?) so... and I can be myself.

I was all out of my head when his ex-girlfriend was emailing (not the stripper, but an ex he had a child with)....

I have gotten on to him because not all of his internet profiles list him as 'in a relationship' instead they some are still set to single... this bugs me even if within the profile he has a blog or some statement (like in an 'about me' section) that he has a girlfriend. It's like I think that people that see his profile and even if it says he has a girlfriend down somewhere else they see the single status and they will think we are not that serious and they can worm their way in there or something.

I do find myself wondering if he talks to his 'internet friends' that are female... and what they might talk about... so I'll sometimes go (not all the times because a lot of times they add me first) and add his female friends to my friends space, just so they see my profile and know I have him... (I know you think I'm crazy now).

I do try to put myself in his shoes. What would the crazy bitch in my head (the lovely jealous person in your head the talks trash to you and throws out lovely little scenerios) be saying if he had a thread and women were talking about how they'd love to feel his nice long pecker up inside of them...and I really don't know how I'd take it....

Though I will say that I when I did have my thread I did post a picture of a guy (a picture that was from his waist to his thigh... if you get my drift) I was dating (with his permission) up on a thread. I told everyone that this was my man. The ladies were nice, they said he was impressive and that I was a lucky girl... and they went on to say that if had access to that, that I should just stay in bed all day.

I do find that when a couple is in a thread together, that the people making comments tend to be a little vanilla with their comments being considerate of the spouse and such things, rather than when a person has a thread all their own. In other words they don't comment imaginning some how some guys wife would feel inside.. and such things. At least I think! Hell at this point I'm not even sure I'm making much sense.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

Thank you so much! Jenn is the amazing one... I just take pictures and sometimes get in the way of the lense... LOL

I would be lying to say it never crosses my mind. And Jenn added that it's not a great worry to her because....

It is a controlled form of exhibitionism (ie. We're not posing ourselves in a picture window on a busy street). Also, if anyone we knew saw us here, they must be here for some reason as well, no?

Well to clairfy my guy is afraid of say his ex-wife who is a swinger and her husband seeing our thread. He says that there would be no hiding who we are because he said his ex would know his pecker anywhere... (I don't know about that... a pecker is a pecker is a pecker.. but still)

My guy does not agree with their arrangement at all and he's said as much. So he's afraid that say they find our thread (if we have one) and they say, "Look you can't find fault in our relationship because this is what you do."

Or the ex's husband might say something about me and send my guy into a fit... though this really shouldn't be much of a worry right now especially because the ex and hubby have dialup they can't view anything!

 

[Dana Gallagher]

I think I fit your profile. I am in a monogamous relationship with my husband, and I post here with his knowladge and agreement (note I don't say consent). He's my photographer.

For us it's a shared thing. He likes taking pictures of me and I like posing. Posting them is part of the thrill. I've never done anything here he doesn't know about nor would I. He posts occasionally but more often he looks over my shoulder and we do it together.

He's said a few times he'd be OK with opening things up, but I wouldn't. He's offered for something to happen with just me only being the receipiant but again, if I'm not willing to share him, it isn't fair for him to have to share me. He may not see it that way but I do and there isn't really anything rational about love, sex and jelousy anyway

So we post photos and I flirt occasionally. It spices up our sex life.

You didn't say consent, so he says "Okay", but he doesn't like it?

That's basically what my boyfriend said to me. He said that for the most part if I did my picture taking thing again, he couldn't tell me to not do it because I am a grown woman and can make my own choices, but he would not like it at all.

Yeah, I agree with you totally on the open relationship thingy.

That's what I'm looking for just that extra spice... taking pictures are fine together, but unless you have someone else on the other side of the internet saying "yummy" taking the pictures is kind of pointless.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

We post on here together. For us, its testing out a fantasy we have. If we like it a lot here, maybe we can try it in RL at some point (this is all in the first post of our thread).
I, the guy, do most of the actual writing, with my wife's approval, because she is at a computer all day and doesn't usually want to be on one when she's at home. I also modify what comes out of the camera to suit both our tastes.
Haven't had any rude or over the line remarks from people looking at us. Meaning, we haven't been asked to cyber or for RL sex. I think we both could lean towards the jealous type a bit, but (lame sounding line coming up) our trust in each other overrides that.
It's an ego boost to both of us when someone pays us a compliment. A nice turn on. It gets us thinking about each other in a fun way.

Sorry if that's all incoherent. And, hope it helps.

Curiosity got the better of me. I had to take a look. You guys are hot!

I totally understand the voyeristic, exhibition side of things... I have that in away, not the crazy peeping tom thing that could be rapist... but the curious neighbor who has a crush but doesn't saying anything because he's too shy... and there's a window and the view is just too good to look away. He is pulled as if by impluse.

Or the thought of getting it on with my boyfriend in a crazy bar or dance club... people know yet they don't know.

I think I and my boyfriend need to work on the trust part a bit. We've only been together for almost two months... I haven't even introduced him to my kids yet (and won't until we've been out for six months or longer). It's hard to trust totally and completely when we don't see each other very often. Perhaps it is something we can conquor later on in our relationship.

Perhaps I need to ask him, what if I had a tasteful thread that was more of boudoir pictures rather than all out there graphic... this is boudoir pictures

http://www.intimatephotography.com/


Maybe he wouldn't mind a thread full of those types of pictures...

 

[Dana Gallagher]

it is really very simple if you both love eachother, both want the same thing for the other, and are very open minded and creative people. Just because my husband make think another is pretty, is not an offense to me. I know that ultimately he will be with me. I do not get jealous, rather, it is an enhancement to our already colorful love life!

Anza

We've only been dating not quite two months now, so we are very near love... but it is not something that has been spoken, it has been felt, just not spoken....

we are open minded and fairly creative... I don't mind if my guy thinks another is pretty and I know he doesn't mind if I think another guy is good looking....

My guy knows that I have videos of a couple of different guys saved on my computer. these are videos of their masturabtory act... he doesn't care if I have these... it's just the act of me sending out one of my own that he'd have a problem with!

I think what bugs him is the thought of another seeing my pictures and getting off with them...

though I did inform him that an ex-boyfriend does have pictures of me... unless he tore them up when we broke up then he should still have them...

 

[jason_jenn]

From what I read, I understand where you are coming from... I was actually feeling much the same as your ex is now... I think you might be right... This is not something to do in a fresh relationship our when one or the other is unsure/untrusting.

When you guys are ready, it will be a great experience... For now, just enjoy each other... Things will fall into place for you both as long as you respect each other's boundaries...

I understand the wanting to do it more when he says 'no', however this is exactly where respect for his aprehensions is all important.

 

[Mezmerize_uk]

My OH and I post pics, and so far neither of us has experienced any jealousy over comments we receive etc. We just have the one account, so any messages we receive we both see. We don't give our personal email address out so the only way to communicate to us is through here. We have had offers for cybersex but thats not what we are here for, we are happy together and basically post pics for the thrill of it. It has boosted my confidence as I was always self concious but reading comments from others has made me change the way I see myself. The OH enjoys taking pics and finds it a compliment that other people find his GF attractive and he knows that he's the only one that can "have me".

In a strange way I feel its strengthened our relationship, we just see it as a fun thing to share together.

From the very first post on our thread we pointed out we were a couple, and we have people on our thread that chat to both of us. If you make it clear from the start what you are here for, what you want and dont want people to say etc then that will probably stop most people coming forward and asking for sex or whatever else. For anyone that disregards it just ignore them, we have had a few offers to meet up etc and if they seem nice enough we'll explain we aren't here for that and they're normally ok about it and dont bother us. If someone is quite pushy we just ignore them. So far thats worked out fine for us.

If your BF is still unsure then maybe suggest starting out slow, with some pics either of you both, or with you in lingerie so you're not putting yourself out there so to speak as much ( I know you've posted before, but maybe starting out this way will be easier for him ). Hopefully he'll see it the way my BF does, that other people find you attractive, but you're secure enough in your relationship to know that nothing further would come of it.

G

 

[Dana Gallagher]

Thanks a bunch. We are now four months strong nearly. But it's still a fresh relationship. He has said that taking pictures of me would be fun, though not the thought of posting them. But usually that's the thrill for me, once I take the pictures I can't wait to put them up and see everyones reaction.

I guess we should go slowly. We can take and share the pictures. And see where it goes from there. Eventually when he can get on the internet more then I'll show him more of literotica and maybe he'll be more willing to post a thread.

I also think my reasoning for wanting the thread is self esteem issues. Posting a pic thread makes my head and ego grow. He's a looker, he firmly believes in look but don't touch even when we are out together. Now I can look at other guys until the day is blue, but it won't effect him the same way his looking effects me... but I know with a thread it's a different story... though that's the reason I don't want to jump into a thread, because I could be doing it for all the wrong reasons.

I'm not after making him jealous, I'm really not.

I do respect what he says and he didn't really say no. He said I'm a grown up and he can't tell me no, he just says he wouldn't like it.

To start things off, since we are in a sort of long distance relationship. He lives a hour away and we can only see each other every other weekend. I might just start by taking sexy pictures of myself and NOT making a thread nor sharing them with anyone else, but just send them to him and only him... bit by bit.

From what I read, I understand where you are coming from... I was actually feeling much the same as your ex is now... I think you might be right... This is not something to do in a fresh relationship our when one or the other is unsure/untrusting.

When you guys are ready, it will be a great experience... For now, just enjoy each other... Things will fall into place for you both as long as you respect each other's boundaries...

I understand the wanting to do it more when he says 'no', however this is exactly where respect for his aprehensions is all important.

 

[Dana Gallagher]

"Hopefully he'll see it the way my BF does, that other people find you attractive, but you're secure enough in your relationship to know that nothing further would come of it. "

I love the way you put that... that's it exactly!

Yes starting out slow would be the key. And yes I can totally get behind the one account. He doesn't have so much a problem with me posting boobies. He says boobies are boobies, they are everywhere and then some... he still likes to look at boobies, but wouldn't have as much problem with me posting them. Though on the though of the pussy. He says that when in a relationship basically the pussy is his. He doesn't feel any other man should have that right to see my pussy other than him. As such any other woman should see his cock other than me. He even went so far as to take off a picture of his cock he posted up way back when on some nearly dead group.

Though I really think that the first time he had some woman telling him his cock was yummy he'd be all kinds of happy.

Perhaps the next time we are together I'll bring my camera! I may just have my own private collection for a time.

Ya all are so great! Thanks so much!

My OH and I post pics, and so far neither of us has experienced any jealousy over comments we receive etc. We just have the one account, so any messages we receive we both see. We don't give our personal email address out so the only way to communicate to us is through here. We have had offers for cybersex but thats not what we are here for, we are happy together and basically post pics for the thrill of it. It has boosted my confidence as I was always self concious but reading comments from others has made me change the way I see myself. The OH enjoys taking pics and finds it a compliment that other people find his GF attractive and he knows that he's the only one that can "have me".

In a strange way I feel its strengthened our relationship, we just see it as a fun thing to share together.

From the very first post on our thread we pointed out we were a couple, and we have people on our thread that chat to both of us. If you make it clear from the start what you are here for, what you want and dont want people to say etc then that will probably stop most people coming forward and asking for sex or whatever else. For anyone that disregards it just ignore them, we have had a few offers to meet up etc and if they seem nice enough we'll explain we aren't here for that and they're normally ok about it and dont bother us. If someone is quite pushy we just ignore them. So far thats worked out fine for us.

If your BF is still unsure then maybe suggest starting out slow, with some pics either of you both, or with you in lingerie so you're not putting yourself out there so to speak as much ( I know you've posted before, but maybe starting out this way will be easier for him ). Hopefully he'll see it the way my BF does, that other people find you attractive, but you're secure enough in your relationship to know that nothing further would come of it.

G

 

[cal69]

My OH and I post pics, and so far neither of us has experienced any jealousy over comments we receive etc. We just have the one account, so any messages we receive we both see. We don't give our personal email address out so the only way to communicate to us is through here. We have had offers for cybersex but thats not what we are here for, we are happy together and basically post pics for the thrill of it. It has boosted my confidence as I was always self concious but reading comments from others has made me change the way I see myself. The OH enjoys taking pics and finds it a compliment that other people find his GF attractive and he knows that he's the only one that can "have me".

In a strange way I feel its strengthened our relationship, we just see it as a fun thing to share together.

From the very first post on our thread we pointed out we were a couple, and we have people on our thread that chat to both of us. If you make it clear from the start what you are here for, what you want and dont want people to say etc then that will probably stop most people coming forward and asking for sex or whatever else. For anyone that disregards it just ignore them, we have had a few offers to meet up etc and if they seem nice enough we'll explain we aren't here for that and they're normally ok about it and dont bother us. If someone is quite pushy we just ignore them. So far thats worked out fine for us.

Totally agree with your comments, and your remarks have saved me a lot of typing as we are 100% the same as you & your OH.
It's a good way to spice up your sex life but not to be taken seriously.
The only part that cheeses me of is the persistance of some people to private my wife with cock shots...if you've got something to say do it on the thread, after all i get to see the message anyway because we are here to share.

 

[Sensually64]

New to LIT

Steve and I have been married for almost five years now. For the last three we have posted on a few sites like this one. We are totally monogamous, don't cam, swing or cyber sex. I just started posting here and make it very clear up front that I won't respond to messages, PM's, or chat for anything other than friendship. Platonic friendship. If someone doesn't take the time to read what I say I simply ask them not to post to me or contact me again. I do it nicely and I have never had a problem concerning that.
Steve and I have a great fun taking the pictures and sharing them with other's who understand we do this for fun and that Steve is proud of me and likes to share me in photography. If tonight, he decided, that he didn't want to do this anymore or if I decided I didn't............it would end their without blinking an eye. We do nothing in our relationship that isn't less than 100% consentual to both of us. We took our marriage vows very seriously and our love for one another can't be damaged by anything said to us or about us.
I wish you success in your relationship dear. Communication is the absolute fundamental support for any relationship though.
Wishing you the very best,
Judy and Steve