Couples Going to Sex Clubs

[Sexplorer2011]

I was talking with my gf this week about sexual fantasies. We are only together since recently, although we know each other since a couple of years.

And here is one fantasy that she told me. That what do I think if we would in the future make a trip to another country (maybe to Holland to Amsterdam), together and go to a sex club. And there each of us could have fun with others. When we leave Amsterdam, everything what we did in Amsterdam, stays in Amsterdam.

To be honest, I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand, it's exciting and kinky, on the other hand seing your gf getting fucked by someone else or knowing about it at least, hm, I'm not sure how one would react.

What are your thoughts or experiences about this?

 

[MikeyRam]

Me and the wife are actually taking about going to one on our next vacation. The way I thought that she'd actually go for it is that our first time we would only watch other couples and be watched while we have fun. That's it. After that we'd gauge to see where we'd both would be comfortable with doing the next time and take it from there.

 

[HoldYouDown]

My ex and I went to one in a foreign country. We only watched though. It wasn't my cup of tea nor was it hers. Actually I found it kind of gross, and there is no way I'd let a woman of mine get fukked by another guy. But that's just me. She would have to be nothing more than a personal cvm dumpster for me to do that. I did get a couple of hand-taps (approaches) from women while there but declined. I could maybe - maybe - have sex with everyone watching, but something about the place just turned me off...too many strangers having sex in one enclosed place I suppose. I think if these things happened outdoors in nice weather they'd be better.

 

[iansearchof]

I think this is a great fantasy, absolutely wonderful as fantasy, and great to talk about as foreplay or during or maybe to get things going. Given what I assume to be your youth and the lack of time together as a couple, it likely would be better left as fantasy for a good while at least. Besides, Amsterdam is expensive! Maybe go a few hundred miles and see...

I've often talked about watching/being watched with women during some stage of sex. You can do all sorts of things with that...effects on observers, what might they do....hmmmm?

When I was in Amsterdam, I asked about their live sex shows which I wanted to see (the spouse wouldn't). The man I asked said that often the male couldn't perform so they invited audience members and that I should go with the understanding that I might be "pressed into 'service.' " That isn't even a fantasy for me---there's no fucking (so to speak) way I could perform except to lick her a bit! I did get to a show in Denmark, but no guys made it (they didn't invite audience members) so it was just women which I'd seen. This as theatre is not particularly arousing as opposed to women actually enjoying each other...

This is far beyond your interest, sorry.

However, a sex club might be interesting, and you don't have to participate. You can just watch those willing/desiring to be watched.

 

[iansearchof]

Some years ago I somehow came into possession of a newsletter from a local swing club. It was astounding in many respects. It actually resembled the church bulletins of my youth: covered dish suppers; who was ill or injured among the flock; things occuring among the children; visits from other groups or potential convocations with...; reports on past parties; upcoming functions (including charitable events)....ad naus. The facilities seemed pretty inviting. (Sadly no single males were allowed but all single females were welcome.) Perhaps if you looked into clubs in or near your area you both could evaluate your interest/lack.

Apropos of little the letter also asked for written fantasies to be kept in a book at the bar for guests to enjoy as they drank (why??!!!). It being a cold, dank spring or fall day and I being particularly horny, I wrote two and sent them. Never heard whether I made the book, tho... Guess not being a member, I wasn't included in the invitation.

 

[ADIDAS00]

On one hand I think it's super kinky and erotic and it turns me I alot. On the other hand, it might not be so sexy in real life.....so I'm torn. Not sure if I'd ever try in real life but it does make for great fantasy!

 

[littlecordelera]

Why go all the way to Amsterdam? There are some great swing clubs right here in the USA.

 

[erogenouszones]

There are clubs in nearly every major city in the US and smaller groups of swingers in most smaller towns. Your next door neighbor is probably a member.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I don't know about European Clubs, but most US clubs are couples oriented. By that I mean the couples are expected to play together with other couples. Some clubs even have policies in place that require couples to go to play rooms together. The idea is to prevent lone wolf husbands from cruising the play areas and getting in the way of couples, while their wives sit at the bar and wait for the husband to return.

We have been to private parties where the couples split up as soon as they got in the door and did their own thing until it was time to go home. They basically acted like singles. If that is the atmosphere you're looking for, you should check out private house parties in your area.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

I don't know. I'd probably be up for that if my gf and i were all about having fun but not really a big long term deal. Not sure i'd risk a relationship that could be a life long one at a sex club. But that's just me. I've never done it so i don't know how i'd react.

 

[CuriousThroat2]

It sounds like it could be fun-- even if only from a people watching POV. I don't think it'd ever be in the cards for me and my wife though, even if she wanted to. She's a teacher. All it takes is one stray photo landing on the screen of one over-sensitve parent who wants to be a whiny little so-and-so, and BOOM, career gone.

Sometimes I hate people. =)

 

[iansearchof]

It sounds like it could be fun-- even if only from a people watching POV. I don't think it'd ever be in the cards for me and my wife though, even if she wanted to. She's a teacher. All it takes is one stray photo landing on the screen of one over-sensitve parent who wants to be a whiny little so-and-so, and BOOM, career gone.

Sometimes I hate people. =)

Maybe she could wear a mask...something like the "masked avenger" (is that a real character?), then nobody would take her picture for fear of...And I for one having a particular fondness for teachers would love to see your wife naked with such a mask!

 

[ADIDAS00]

I like the mask idea....I often fantasize of an "eyes wide shut" type scenario. Loved that movie!!!

 

[Mr. Briggs]

I like the mask idea....I often fantasize of an "eyes wide shut" type scenario. Loved that movie!!!

the mask idea is great especially for sucking cock

 

[iansearchof]

I like the mask idea....I often fantasize of an "eyes wide shut" type scenario. Loved that movie!!!

Hell, you and I may be the only ones! Another tho without masks but that Mrs. Cruise was supposed to have done and nobody else liked that I loved (both the book and the movie) was In The Cut.

 

[CuriousThroat2]

Maybe she could wear a mask...something like the "masked avenger" (is that a real character?), then nobody would take her picture for fear of...And I for one having a particular fondness for teachers would love to see your wife naked with such a mask!

Hmm, that's actually a good, practical idea. Thanks.