convincing my conservative wife to try a BBC MFM

[naughtoldperv]

How to convince my conservative wife to try a BBC MFM?

How to convince my conservative wife to try a BBC MFM? [without endangering our marriage of 15 yrs]

I've been trying to urge my wife to fulfill my bucket list and do a MFM with a BBC and wondering what stepping stones would be the easiest as she is reluctant to make the big leap to what I currently call my favorite fantasy.
She is a shy conservative provincial Asian farm girl that I have relocated to the US and is still in a little cultural shock and I've tried showing her MFM BBC porn and she will get into it only when riding my cock in reverse cowboy position while watching, but otherwise is not as fascinated as I am by porn. Also, she has a stubborn streak and will back off completely, if I force the issue.

 

[Jake1945]

You might try a good sized black dildo with her. Does she like a bigger cock? You might invite a black friend to spend some time with you so that your wife can become friendly and familiar. I suspect that most women would be reluctant to just have sex with a stranger even beyond the danger. I also do not think most women are all that excited by porn as men are. I have watched some with my wife but shortly after getting started she would be more interested I me playing with her. The only movie that she seemed to enjoy was Debbie Does Dallas which had a little bit of a plot and she thought was funny.

 

[lovecraft68]

The answer is simple YOU DO NOT.

So tired of these threads, these guys who want their wife to take another guy(or woman) and the wife has no interest at all and somehow people think she will suddenly change her mind because of some porn board advice?

Leave your fantasies in your head or push and piss her off and put your relationship in jeopardy because you will make her feel like you only want her if she does this or better yet, nag at her until she does it, hates it and feels like a whore.

Either ends eventually in divorce.

This is not buying a puppy, people should not be coerced into it.

Last word of advice? grow up.

 

[naughtoldperv]

wow lovecraft, the holidays getting to you??
I can relate to some of your stern advise. I didn't mention that she does have a big black dildo and in the heat of the moment does admit that she would like to suck a BBC and we occasionally joke about it but 'the heat of the moment' always passes and jokes are laughed at and not taken too seriously..........but the seed of curiosity is there.
Rest assured that I won't coerce her into something that she could hold against me.
But I will dangle a 'black carrot' in the hopes that she may open up to it some day to spice up the relationship and satisfy her curiosity.
I know that it's treading on thin ice and will proceed with the utmost caution, therefore I seek advise from others who may have been in my shoes before.

 

[Jake1945]

From very limited experience, I think the key is for her to meet and get to now someone and see if the intimacy develops. That is how it worked for my wife. She met someone that she shared an interest in art with which led to friendship and eventually a sexual relationship.

 

[TheStarlet]

The answer is simple YOU DO NOT.

I have to agree with this. It seems like she is just not that interested in this one. My guess is she likes watching it at all because you do. She likes you a lot. Don't forget that part in your bucket list quest.

Even if she were into this, you have to see that a BBC MFM is a whole lot coming at her if she's still finding her sea legs. But conservative or not, that might just not be her deal, right?

Maybe she'd like to tie you to the bedposts as a start. I wonder if that would take so much convincing.

 

[klippert]

Don't be selfish and make it about you... Try to make it about the both of you...and her pleasure. If she says NO....Then Drop it, and let it go. She's a Million miles from home. Don't make her feel trapped... Mail order brides scare easy... Just kidding, unless she's actually a mail order bride.
Side Note:
I'm getting an education on this...My buddy at work was in the Army, then Civilian Contractor...Meet and Married a Tia lady. Took her out of the Village and moved her to the states...Been her for near-on 10 yrs..and she's still getting use to the fast pace of "These Once United States"

 

[FGB]

The answer is simple YOU DO NOT.

So tired of these threads, these guys who want their wife to take another guy(or woman) and the wife has no interest at all and somehow people think she will suddenly change her mind because of some porn board advice?

Leave your fantasies in your head or push and piss her off and put your relationship in jeopardy because you will make her feel like you only want her if she does this or better yet, nag at her until she does it, hates it and feels like a whore.

Either ends eventually in divorce.

This is not buying a puppy, people should not be coerced into it.

Last word of advice? grow up.

I pretty much have to agree with lovecraft68, the only thing you might do and it comes with the danger of you ending up without her, is to slowly over some years help her develop her sexuality...if it's there it's there.

Let her know that her sexual satisfaction, including fantasies, is high on you list of things that need to be taken care of.

If she takes off with someone else...that's life.

 

[bibethhotwet]

From the females perspective. Never force your wife to do anything you do not want her to do. Same goes the opposite as well. My husband and I have been involved in swinging activities for a number of years but everything we have done has consent NEVER by coercion or force. Believe me, we have seen disasters first hand when one member of the marriage tries to force the other to do something they do not want to do including leading to divorce. If she is turned off to the idea DON"T push it. I have seen women "cave in" and give their husbands something they want only to feel emotionally damaged and bruised. Sorry gentlemen but that isn't right. If your own desires are pushing her in a direction she does not want to go you are going to have some serious, serious problems. Sometimes things are best left in our own mind of fantasy and not pursued in actuality. If you truly love your wife you won't push her. If you find yourself constantly pushing for your own gratification might be time to have an honest chat with yourself if you truly love her or is she there for your own selfish gratification. If it's the later, you don't have a relationship built on love and trust and that is going to crumble sooner or later.

 

[screwher]

Despite my numerous posts I'll agree that the idea of forcing, badgering, etc your wife into sex with another man is a definite no - no. I would love for my wife to have lovers but if she's not into it she's not going to enjoy it. And I want her to enjoy it,