Consideration and Caring

[TigerClaw]

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[A Desert Rose]

Did it ever occur to you that it might be your approach with women?

 

[Aeroil]

no I never talk to anyone in RL when I have a problem, sometimes I'll talk to some online friends I have but that's rare

 

[TigerClaw]

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[A Desert Rose]

oooooooooooooooo. lol. nuff said...... DS, ouch!

I was being kind that day you took it wrong. I can not believe you are angry over that.

So you think my comment was about me? I guess you remember better than I do.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[A Desert Rose]

lol, no I think it is in regards to how you think I interact. It cant be a good view.

Yes, you are correct.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[WriterDom]

I need glasses. I thought the title was Consideration and Caning.

 

[MissTaken]

Hmmmm

I never had that with an SO until now.

I can't say whether it was the men I had fallen in with, but can say my own approach in relationships might have had a lot to do with why I got so little support and understanding.

Nix that.
It was my expectations that were skewed.

I got what I expected.
Nothing.

Babbling....I should go to bed now.

*hugs* Tiger and ADR

 

[MissTaken]

I need glasses. I thought the title was Consideration and Caning.

So sorry, but I have to add a brief hijack here....

Last night, was yahoo iming with a good friend who told me her Master had been canning her tits.

All I could imagine was a pressure cooker with a boob in it!





End hijack.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[A Desert Rose]

Lol, Hon, I was being considerate and didnt want you to misunderstand. I didnt want to hurt you. You took it the wrong way. You closed down communications and would not speak to me until now. I understand your anger and I was willing to talk. You never replied except now in public.

You made assumptions, as you are now, that were/are totally off the mark.
And for the record, you didn't hurt me. You simply pissed me off.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[TigerClaw]

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[Despina]

Oh, the misunderstood power of, "I'm sorry."

 

[Despina]

I realized I have not had one woman in my life where she would not have a nasty response in that very same situation.

If I may:

My ex-husband was notorious for statements like these. On the few occasions that I actually badgered his 'issue/complaint/gripe' out of him, he was astounded that I didn't have a nasty response and was instead quite gracious in the handling of said issue. I know it's presumptuous in the same manner, but I think it's equally as harmful to anticipate another's reaction. Wouldn't that make you equally as closed-minded?

Do you turn to your SO for these times or do you turn to someone else. Dad, Mom, Sis, Bro, Friend?

I think life is about evolution. Live and learn, if you will. I used to turn to my Dad with my serious thoughts/questions. Later it was a best-friend. Past that it was my Mom. All those years I was married and rarely ever found the support I needed in my SO. Having moved past that and refused to settle on a partner that couldn't/wouldn't be there for me, I'm pleased to say that I now turn to my girl for anything that's bugging me. Absolutely anything. Even if she's the cause or a contributing factor. It can work, Tiger.

~D

 

[Netzach]

I definitely opt for my SO over my family.

And I believe, quite firmly, that I'm his first choice as well, though I usually have to ask him what's wrong a few times for him to crack open about it.

 

[TigerClaw]

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[TigerClaw]

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[TigerClaw]

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[Aeroil]

I definitely opt for my SO over my family.

And I believe, quite firmly, that I'm his first choice as well, though I usually have to ask him what's wrong a few times for him to crack open about it.

ah, he's a bit like me then, I'll talk if someone asks me, but other than that I'm very quiet. 'course there's some things I won't talk about at all anyway lol, I'm not about to tell my friend I'm a sub if he asks if anything is wrong lol. 'course he never would, it's extremely rare that anyone ever will, and then it's usually some wierd paranoid thing, like my parents asking me if I'm anorexic dunno where they got that one from.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I have usually been the one in my relationships to offer a caring response....sometimes it was appreciated, sometimes it was used against me. For my own issues it was usually a matter of keeping them within and dealing with them alone. Now I am in a relationship where the support and caring is mutual, where the trust surpasses any we have had before to a depth nothing need be locked away from the other. It is a welcome and reassuring change.

Catalina

 

[TigerClaw]

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[witcha]

Most of the time I don't turn to anyone at all..and if I do so than it really means that the problem is just too big for me to handle...And still my mind can not accept caring so my turning for help in most cases turns into an argument with the person,who wanted to help me..Even tho that's not what I really want..

Just my crazy 2 cents





witcha