Confused to the Max

[Darkhorse145]

I'm even more confused now after spending a wonderful weekend with my G/F she is kind of in her own words " Confused"

I guess she has things she to needs help with and one of those is the fact that i dated her older sister two years ago for about a month. That is a big part of it the other is that she is afraid to be in love

I can tell she does this everytime I leave she starts to worry about it not working out because of things either of us might do i try to comfort her but usually I end up giving her time to think about it a day or to and she is alright

I would like to know how to help her with her problem all i want is for her is to be happy and if she isn't happy with me then she can go even if it kills me as long as she isn't happy I will be confused she is so much to me I just want to help her anyway i can.

 

[FrustratedTeenF]

Hold her, tell her she doesn't have to worry about how she feels, she should just feel it and feel comfortable talking to you about it, and being honest... saying she is confused doesn't sound like the whole truth.

Its good you give her time and understanding. Don't forget how you feel matters too though, and I hope she worries and thinks about how you are feeling as much as you are concerned for her.

Keeping reasuring her, some of us women tend to need that..!

x

 

[Annora]

After reading this, I feel you are sincere with wanting to help her.

I have an issue with, leaving her alone to think about it? After spending time with you and things get, hard to understand. I feel the going away allowing her a few days, to think. I would feel abandoned, perhaps she wonders to herself, 'How can you say you care, and then be gone a few days?' You know what, I am saying? Maybe if you didn't leave her alone, she could work it out without, doing so all alone?

The last thing I would want, would to spend time with a man..Then be left alone, I would wonder, did he really care, afterall?

 

[woody54]

The last thing I would want, would to spend time with a man..Then be left alone, I would wonder, did he really care, afterall?

Oh, I would care a lot. Once I got my face between those breasts, wild horses wouldn't pull me away.

I think you would get the meesage!!!

 

[Annora]

Yes CB, this CG is seeing, just how much you would stay, by my side. Along side me, over me, under me, and thisclose to my heart beat...

Yes, I see you...

 

[Darkhorse145]

I thank you all for the input just so youknow I am in the military so i can only see her every month or so for a few days I have tried everything but i don't feel like it is helping any please help me

 

[Stiffy Says...]

hmmm...

...ok, so maybe I was extreme, but when I was in the military, I forbade myself to let my heart or anyone elses melt.


Damn, that 3 years sucked!!!

put forth the honest effort, maybe send her surprises, like flowers and letters, so she knows yo ucare...hide little notes, etc....

she needs to accept that you are genuine, and remember - you can't make her feel that way, just give her every reason to believe yo uand see what happens...