Confused Student!

[bushbandiT]

Hello fellow pervs. I recently got married after 3 years of relations. My Fuck Buddy[Read Wife] likes to be dominated and i know a couple o things about dominating the mind and body of a woman. She even got us a set of cuffs to play with but her nature and culture growing up is not of the submissive kind. There is a time i had her on her back n her legs spread wide and my hands strongly holding her legs by the back of her knees. i like to look at a woman deep in her eyes while i let my dick show me what she is feeling.. She sed, 'You are literally killing me' i had to back up :-( The next time when i had forgotten about the last i had her hands behind her back and was about to take her to pound town when she sed i was hurting her??? I like a chic who can fucking take the dick who lets you do what you fucking want with her, she doesnt even touch you coz her hands are holdin on to something so she can take a good fucking. She looks at you with that look of you are really fucking me.
I want a submissive filthy slut out of this woman but am afraid she is very conservative i think but am patient i will keep teaching but...
You guys need to help me out

 

[FurryFury]

Sit down with her and talk. What is this to her? What it is to you? Where are the common areas? Build on that.

 

[KoPilot]

I mean, if you're hurting her in a unfun way, then you're hurting her. Not much you can do to get around that. Talk talk talk. And talk some more. Figure out positions that don't hurt. Oh and for Pete's sake, you're not going in there dry, are you?

 

[Netzach]

Ways to make it better:

You CANNOT forget about her hands behind her back, I don't care if you're about to blow a load sky high. Ever. Ever. Who the fuck is going to let go and relax enough to be super slut when they have to wonder if they're going to pop something out of joint? That is YOUR job.

Being tied up is a little distracting from being jackhammered with dick. Some people benefit from a little distraction because it relaxes them a little, but some people do not. You may be with someone who's better with her ass up in the air and her cheek on the pillow and her hands *maybe* tied together with something, but maybe there's nothing hot about restricting her range of motion a lot.

Also: it doesn't seem like a big deal at all when you're tying someone up and doing them, but I tried it the other way around once for fun and I hated it. The sex which is usually amazing with this partner was OK at best and I was sore everywhere BUT my junk afterward.

I asked if this is normal, and he said "oh yeah, but it's WORTH it!" so for him the sex is amazing when tied. If it's less than amazing for her she may not find the soreness and stiffness worth it.

 

[subwannabe]

I vote for troll.

 

[CutieMouse]

WAit... they were fuck buddies for 3 years, then he married her, knowing that her background would not invoke the style of submission he's wanting/ expecting... and it's just NOW (post marriage) dawning on him that there may be sexual incompatibilities, and real people don't bend like blow up dolls?

 

[Joshua65]

I vote for troll.

^^^^^ X2

 

[KoPilot]

I vote for troll.

Dudes tend to be trolls in general, so yes, probably. Still.

 

[NickiC]

I vote for troll.

Me too. It is way over the top.

 

[bushbandiT]

Thanks a mill for the feed back guys.... we talk alot so i guess i will throw it in there and see how she wants to do this or how we are goin to do this. We are goin to be fuck buddies for a long time so the earlier the better. Plus i dont want to hurt her in any way and she knows that i just want to make it better for her coz she likes being dominated....

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

There are other ways to dominate!

I adore very rough sex, but there are certain positions I simply can't handle due to old injuries.
We work around it.
Master knows which positions to avoid, and we have lots of fun trying lots of different things.
Sex in water is great, he can go as hard as he likes, and my body is supported.
There is good and bad pain, the bad pain of my old back injury can completely ruin a good pain scene for me.

I am presuming that you currently have her laid on her back, legs up on your shoulders?
Owww for anyone with knee, hip, back and also breathing issues.
Although it is a great position for you, unless she is super bendy and pain free, it's not the most pleasant for her, try one leg up and coming in from a different angle, or even the perennial favourite, doggy.

 

[bushbandiT]

There are other ways to dominate!

I adore very rough sex, but there are certain positions I simply can't handle due to old injuries.
We work around it.
Master knows which positions to avoid, and we have lots of fun trying lots of different things.
Sex in water is great, he can go as hard as he likes, and my body is supported.
There is good and bad pain, the bad pain of my old back injury can completely ruin a good pain scene for me.

I am presuming that you currently have her laid on her back, legs up on your shoulders?
Owww for anyone with knee, hip, back and also breathing issues.
Although it is a great position for you, unless she is super bendy and pain free, it's not the most pleasant for her, try one leg up and coming in from a different angle, or even the perennial favourite, doggy.

Spank You very much
I always let her do her thing for about 35mins than i take over. I like to take my time She likes to be on top and Frankly i like when she is too coz it gives me the front row seat to the movies. Love the look on her face when she is cumming. Hugest turn on of mine! We have no injuries so i guess its full throttle

 

[GrrlFriday]

You both have no injuries yet - but you don't want to cause any inadvertently, either. If you want to go full throttle, make sure she's in a position where she can take it without being distracted by wondering if her wrists will snap.

 

[Felix_Jones]

Hello fellow pervs. I recently got married after 3 years of relations. My Fuck Buddy[Read Wife] likes to be dominated and i know a couple o things about dominating the mind and body of a woman. She even got us a set of cuffs to play with but her nature and culture growing up is not of the submissive kind. There is a time i had her on her back n her legs spread wide and my hands strongly holding her legs by the back of her knees. i like to look at a woman deep in her eyes while i let my dick show me what she is feeling.. She sed, 'You are literally killing me' i had to back up :-( The next time when i had forgotten about the last i had her hands behind her back and was about to take her to pound town when she sed i was hurting her??? I like a chic who can fucking take the dick who lets you do what you fucking want with her, she doesnt even touch you coz her hands are holdin on to something so she can take a good fucking. She looks at you with that look of you are really fucking me.
I want a submissive filthy slut out of this woman but am afraid she is very conservative i think but am patient i will keep teaching but...
You guys need to help me out

Get a divorce. They are expensive because they are worth it.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Dominating someone doesn't mean you're having rough kinky sex. Dominating someone means you are enforcing your will and desires upon them. If your will and desires include kinky, rough sex, that's fine, but that's not the only game in town.

Being a Dominant means being the one in control/in charge of, the relationship. It is a cooperative effort requiring communication with, and the consent of, the one submitting to that control.

I think you would do well to quit watching or reading porn, and start reading books on D/s relationship dynamics, relationship communications, etc.