Computer Geeks Please help!

[SensualCealy]

Okay I need to do some investigating without getting caught. Ive been able to get into his history on explorer, but wonder where I can find deleted history. I know Ive seen him go on something that shows what sites were hit during the day, but I dont know how to do that without looking obvious. Also is there a way to see deleted emails specifically ones from accounts I dont have passwords too?

My objective is to see if he has answered any of the personals Ive seen him look up in his history.

This may seem really nasty but this is only to settle my mind and to make a major decision for me.

Thanks to anyone that can help,
Cealy

 

[eroticzone]

We're caught in a trap
I can't walk out
Because I love you too much baby

Why can't you see
What you're doing to me
When you don't believe a word I say?

We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds

So, if an old friend I know
Drops by to say hello
Would I still see suspicion in your eyes?

Here we go again
Asking where I've been
You can't see these tears are real
I'm crying

We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds
Oh let our love survive
Or dry the tears from your eyes
Let's don't let a good thing die

When honey, you know
I've never lied to you
Mmm yeah, yeah

 

[JeanetteLv2]

I'm assuming this all about a significant other or spouse. If that's the case hon and you already know he's looking at personal ads online, then isn't that enough without knowing if he's responded to them? If you suspect he may be catting around well then... let's just I feel a woman's instincts are usually always right.

As for your questions about viewing deleted history or emails... well in my experience would probably take a lot more expertize then can be dished out here. A least that's my guess as it's nothing some I know how to do. Of course unless the computer has been defragged, deleted files and such are still floating around as garbled flotsom and jetsam. Also depends on what software you folks have.... there are some really good shredder programs out that decrease the chance of anything being retrieved after deletion.

You're best bet, if you feel it's the only solution, is to probably get some of the child tracking software on the market that can take periodic snapshots of your computer screen.

 

[redfunguy]

there are a few ways to do what you are asking. Answer these questions and ill tell you the easiest one.

what operating system?
what browser?

 

[VSE]

Also how do the PCs connect to the internet, ie is his PC and your PC sharing the same connection and which machine has the actual connection to the internet?

If the two PCs share a network and we make an assumption that he is not using encrypted email, you could try installing a packet sniffer which is probably easier and less detectable than snooping around the PC (especially if a) he has half a clue how to use it and b) thinks you are getting suspicious and might be snooping around), especially when it comes to trying to recover things that you believe might have been deleted and dont have passwords for anyway.

The link on the packet sniffer basically describes what they do and how they work and should hence give you some ideas of what you may be able to do to see what he is up to without having to touch his PC (obviously if his PC and your PC are not connected then this is a non starter).

 

[quickfoot]

A packet sniffer is the least obvious way of tracking what information is going over the network provided that you don't use a switch and you know how to decode the information.

Most network analyzers/packet sniffers will not automatically decompress gzip'd web pages and more and more popular sites are using gzip compression because it reduces traffic to their server.

I would recommend going to download.com or tucows.com and searching for computer monitor, it will give you a great many hits with different kinds of computer monitoring software. Most this software will record everything typed on the PC including passwords and URL's and keep track of the Internet browsing history.

Be advised that not all of this software will hide itself very well and if you have it set to take screen shots don't have it do it very often because it will decrease computer performance.

There is a chance that your SO will find the software and without a doubt be pretty upset if he does. The ethical questions about spying on another person especially a partner are pretty intense.

It might be better to just confront him with your concerns now, if you find something with spyware you can't tell him what you know without revealing you were spying.

If there are significant issues about trust you might even reconsider your involvement with this person.

There are specific tools out there like adaware that will detect these spy programs in general.

 

[SensualCealy]

I did confront him and I got the usuall- I WAS JUST LOOKING!
Well a man that travels every few months for work and does a search for availible couples and women in the town he is headed to makes me think he is at least thinking of it.
We use the same computer with different users, we have our own passwords but I was smart enough to make sure I change mine frequently to keep my private stuff private. There isnt much in there that would cause a major uproar if he found it but some pretty explicit writings about some online friends.
I have told him I dont care if he looks at porn or even watches cams, thats his fantasy, just dont do it in person!!
The ads where what set me off this time, I was just trying to figure out how to get into deleted history and deleted emails and stuff like that so I could see if he had acted on these finds.

Ive never been a suspicious wife and have trusted him up to this point, now I dont know what to think.
Thanks for your help,
Oh we use Windows XP if that helps as for the rest Im not sure.
Cealy

 

[lorddragonwolf]

there are password crackers out there that can help you crack his passwords. if he is looking at the ads in towns he is going to then he is probably cheating.

 

[msboy8]

I wish you the best SensualCealy. I hope you can come to terms with whatever is happening.