Comparing Your Naughty Bits With Your Partner's Lovers'

[Erodicus]

Has your partner ever compared your naughty bits with those of another lover which were markedly different? How did theirs differ from yours? How did you feel about the differences?

 

[screwher]

My wife

Has your partner ever compared your naughty bits with those of another lover which were markedly different? How did theirs differ from yours? How did you feel about the differences?

Of the other men my wife has had sex with she's only shared info about two of their cocks. She only had one guy before me. Her first boyfriend and the first to fuck her. She said he fit the BBC stereotypes and had a much larger cock than me. But she said he couldn't please her as he was a selfish lover and treated her like crap. They didn't last long and we started dating right away. She had her first orgasm with me. Now I'd like her to try another BBC experience with a guy who'll do her right.

This summer we entered the hotwife lifestyle. She's currently having sex with a coworker. She told me that his cock is a little bit longer and a bit thicker. Which I'm glad for. If she's going to get fucked by other men then I want her to get the most out of her experiences.

 

[Erodicus]

One gf told me her previous bf had the biggest cock she'd had; but my next gf said her previous boyfriend's was smaller than mine. But neither of them thought size was the be-all and end-all when it came to satisfaction.

 

[Justfantasies]

My ex wife told me that when she was at college she slept with a guy with a cock that was over 10" and it made her cum numerous times, which was something I could never do

 

[Erodicus]

My ex wife told me that when she was at college she slept with a guy with a cock that was over 10" and it made her cum numerous times, which was something I could never do

Stiff competition, hmmm? One woman told me that the first one she ever tried was such an absolute monster it terrified her. Even tough he was gentle, she was never keen to have on that big again.

 

[Green_Knight]

I would never tell a partner anything, good or bad, about my other lovers. If a partner of mine expressed a preference for another lover, she'd be very welcome to go and find him and she'd be out of my bed and out of my life so fast she'd be giddy. If she's in my bed, I'd rather she was thinking about me, not about some other lover, past or present. And vice-versa.

If she wants some variety, I can understand that - I don't mind variety myself. If she's learned something with someone else and wants me to try it with her, then by all means suggest it but I don't need to know where the idea came from, even if I can probably make a good guess. But comparisons, good or bad, bigger or smaller, more or less skilled - no way.

 

[policywank]

Hubby is often curious about other guys. I have shared lots of details but try to avoid statements of preference.

Lately I have been curious about how my breasts compare to other women and what he likes about each. I think because I have been experimenting with other women so maybe we are just comparing notes

 

[Erodicus]

Hubby is often curious about other guys. I have shared lots of details but try to avoid statements of preference.

Lately I have been curious about how my breasts compare to other women and what he likes about each. I think because I have been experimenting with other women so maybe we are just comparing notes

Has he told you about his other partners' breasts? How did they compare to yours? What was your reaction - curiosity, envy, arousal .... ?

 

[live4thebj]

Has your partner ever compared your naughty bits with those of another lover which were markedly different? How did theirs differ from yours? How did you feel about the differences?

Yes and its different. My partners most had many partners like I did. I been told about guys with cocks smaller than a pinky and made up for it with oral. I felt bad for those guys.

 

[Klinkster]

I was never concerned about such things, but I remember my wife asked me about past girlfriends some time ago.
Turned out to be some fun foreplay, comparing 'parts'....for both of us!!!

 

[BongoGal]

I've always made it a point to not give straight answers when asked about things like numbers of partners or penis size. It is really no one's business but mine. Nothing good comes from those discussions.

I will admit that I will check out with a curious eye the bodies of a boyfriend's former partners. I'd never ask if he preferred her body parts to mine, though.

 

[live4thebj]

I was never concerned about such things, but I remember my wife asked me about past girlfriends some time ago.
Turned out to be some fun foreplay, comparing 'parts'....for both of us!!!

I made the mistake of being too honest. She wanted to experience the stuff I used to do and I did do it as she requested. Then I asked her did you like it and she said no. I was expecting her not to like it for she was not in that domination S&M stuff but she asked. I am just glad we are past that.

Everyone is different in many ways, and in the end for long term there has to be more than just the sex. For if my relationships were based on just sex alone I would have been taken off the market a long time ago.

 

[Erodicus]

From the replies already, it seems that if a person really wants to know, they will ask. If they don't, then best not to say anything. I'm not at all a jealous person, so I'm always curious to know and find it turns me on in a big way. (Unintended pun.) It must be tough if one partner wants to know everything and the other doesn't want to know anything.

 

[live4thebj]

From the replies already, it seems that if a person really wants to know, they will ask. If they don't, then best not to say anything. I'm not at all a jealous person, so I'm always curious to know and find it turns me on in a big way. (Unintended pun.) It must be tough if one partner wants to know everything and the other doesn't want to know anything.

I never got the being jealous of ones past. It's something they did before they even met you. The ones I find that get jealous feel like they should have waited for them. Well how would you know they would be there one day. I don't get it.

 

[Green_Knight]

I never got the being jealous of ones past. It's something they did before they even met you. The ones I find that get jealous feel like they should have waited for them. Well how would you know they would be there one day. I don't get it.

Who said anything about jealousy? Only you and the previous poster. The OP was talking about comparing the attributes of current and previous lovers, a completely different matter. As L P Hartley said in The Go-Between: "The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there".

Most people, unless they have a masochistic streak or enjoy being humiliated, will surely hope to come out well from any comparison. If they come out worse then the result could be devastating. The partner then has the choice of telling the truth with all its consequences - 'yes, darling, he had a much nicer cock than yours and he was much better in bed' or to lie 'no, sweetheart, your tiny breasts are much nicer than her big ones'. Can you really suggest that any good will come from either?

 

[justherhusband]

Well, I can tell you that I have asked, but she's never asked me. She says she honestly doesn't know or remember, so I have no choice but to accept that answer. It's not a big deal to me either way, but I'd be happy either way. If they were bigger than me and gave her a lot of orgasms, it would turn me on to hear about it. If they were smaller and/or didn't please her as well as I do it would probably give my ego a little boost.

She had only been with 2 guys before me and one of those was a very drunken one night stand, so it's easy to understand her fuzzy memory. But the other guy was her first, and they fucked a handful of times. Again she says she doesn't know how many times or if he was much different than me. Since I'm exactly 6" and average thickness, I just assume he was probably about the same. But secretly, I've hoped she's been misleading me because she's afraid of hurting my feelings if she told me he was packing a monster.

For what it's worth, I'd love for her to play with a few more guys now. Maybe then we could have a real "comparison" conversation!

 

[crashD]

i've received some compliments, which like any guy, i enjoyed...

 

[policywank]

Has he told you about his other partners' breasts? How did they compare to yours? What was your reaction - curiosity, envy, arousal .... ?

Yes. Some bigger some smaller. He says his preference is based upon shape and how they hang. Mine are pretty nice by any measure.

One woman we both know has slightly larger and fuller boobs that point slightly outwards with bigger areolas than mine - we both like them. Another woman is younger and defying gravity but they don't feel fake.

I find it mostly arousing. Envy is a funny thing - I wouldn't trade with any of them but if I could take the best of all of our features I suppose I would do that.

Hubby has been very accepting of my adventures in search of variety and I find it titillating and instructive to be on the other side.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Dollie

I'm not an expert. In fact as far as intercourse I'm a late bloomer. But we've spent a lifetime on nude beaches and nudist parks. I'd honestly say I've seen and had them all.
I prefer 6" to 8". Bigger is not better and littler can be fun.
By the way I am female. I share this site with my husband who is a male.

 

[Erodicus]

Yes. Some bigger some smaller. He says his preference is based upon shape and how they hang. Mine are pretty nice by any measure.

One woman we both know has slightly larger and fuller boobs that point slightly outwards with bigger areolas than mine - we both like them. Another woman is younger and defying gravity but they don't feel fake.

I find it mostly arousing. Envy is a funny thing - I wouldn't trade with any of them but if I could take the best of all of our features I suppose I would do that.

Hubby has been very accepting of my adventures in search of variety and I find it titillating and instructive to be on the other side.

I do have preferences, but, like you, they do not prevent me from enjoying a wide variety of features. In fact, it's the variety that is fascinating and arousing!

 

[carlsnake]

My wife never mentioned it until one night when I asked her about the biggest cock she had ever experienced. She told me that it belonged to the first guy to screw her. That led to further discussion, fueled by a number of drinks, in which I asked her about all the cocks that she had known. Of course, she never measured any of them, but she said I was in third place for length and second place for thickness. Her first lover was way ahead of the rest of us.

 

[KarlMartinK]

Has your partner ever compared your naughty bits with those of another lover which were markedly different? How did theirs differ from yours? How did you feel about the differences?

I had this girl I dated who would demonstrate to me how much different I was from other guys she'd been with. She'd do this with dildos or with just her hands. She'd say things like, "He was this much longer than you..." and hold her finger out about three inches past the end of my hard cock.

 

[justonetesticle]

My ex wife regularly compared my small penis and single, very small, testicle unfavourably with previous and current lovers during our marriage. It was a big turn on for her and me.

 

[Justfantasies]

I like hearing stories from lovers about guys with big cocks who have fucked them in the past. But it seems that a lot of the time these experiences were quite uncomfortable for them.

 

[crashD]

my lovers bits are wonderful. not large but perfection

and they hae brought much joy to both of us...

she tells me mine is quite nice also - as her wide eyed stare the first time told me...