Coming Out

[april-wine]

Ok, so about 4 months ago I came out to my immediate family, the usual they weren't surprised....They were actually very supportive....Now the extended family hasn't a clue, I am sure they think I am destined to be a spinster....lol but alas I don't particularily like cats....

So I attended ANOTHER cousins wedding just recently, if I have to hear my grandfather remind me I ain't getting any younger I think I'll puke....Really I just feel they really don't need to know yet, besides my OWN personal revenge will be inviting them to my lesbian wedding....lol

So I am sure you've all been through it, how do you do it?

the jokes, the questions, all that stuff I just don't wanna share yet....By the way, the jokes don't bother me, some of them are kinda funny....

 

[thickspear]

ok, maybe i'm just a cockeyed optomist..smile...

but if your close family knows and you go to a cousins wedding...the extended family most certainly know too...it was Voltaire who said...wait a minute for a second...perhaps it was Krusty The Clown...anyway...

someone said all families are the same...which makes me feel better and worse at the same time..

but what do you care anyway ? i suspicion the jokes and hints are their semi-lame way of telling you they know and it's ok...whether they really think it's ok is another issue..but since
Cheney and Newty have lesbians in their close family and they have'nt committed chain saw murders (yet)...your family will be ok too..

but if you want to attend the next big family function with a man i volunteer to go... the important thing is we'll have a lot of fun scandalizing the whole thing and get to eat for free

ts

 

[april-wine]

Thanks for the offer TS I'll keep that in mind....lol

They most certainly do NOT know, they may suspect....My immediate family and myself live in another city from the majority of the extended family....Besides, I know fully well that if some of them knew they would be VERY silent with me....It's the whole going to hell thing....lol....I come from a very catholic family....

I don't really care if they know, I just don't feel the need to explain, that's all....So I just don't share what they really don't need to know for now....Besides coming out to the parents was difficult enough for 1 year....lol Maybe next year I'll tackle the grandparents....

 

[Angel]

I've never told anyone in my family I am bisexual because I've never had a reason to. (no girlfriends) and whatever I do strictly sexually isn't really any of their business.


I discuss it here, because it's relevant to the topic. I discuss it with people I am potentially entering into a relationship with, because I think it's something they ought to know. My friends know because I oogle the girls as much as I oogle the guys. I look at it like this - I don't have to explain to people that I like men. Why do I need to explain I like girls too? People figure it out anyway

If I were ever enter into a relationship with a female, I'd introduce her the way I intro my boyfriends. Fuck em if they don't like it. I can't imagine my mother caring too much, and she's the only one I really care about's reaction anyway.

 

[killallhippies]

my sexuality is on a need to know basis. i have friends who don't know simply because they've never asked and i've never felt the need to tell them. besides, i rarely seek sex with anyone. it's not like i'm out there looking for a good time. if i'm interested i'll tell you.

 

[april-wine]

I never felt the need to share either, until last year when I became seriously involved....I think I'll shock em all in fell swoop, may as well get wedding presents, I've given many over the years....lol


thanks for the posts Angel, and KAH, I thought I was virtually alone in here....

 

[Angel]

I never felt the need to share either, until last year when I became seriously involved....I think I'll shock em all in fell swoop, may as well get wedding presents, I've given many over the years....lol


thanks for the posts Angel, and KAH, I thought I was virtually alone in here....

No problem

 

[Queersetti]

Thanks for the offer TS I'll keep that in mind....lol

They most certainly do NOT know, they may suspect....My immediate family and myself live in another city from the majority of the extended family....Besides, I know fully well that if some of them knew they would be VERY silent with me....It's the whole going to hell thing....lol....I come from a very catholic family....

I don't really care if they know, I just don't feel the need to explain, that's all....So I just don't share what they really don't need to know for now....Besides coming out to the parents was difficult enough for 1 year....lol Maybe next year I'll tackle the grandparents....

Well, there is knowing, and there is KNOWING. It may be that members of your extended family does know of your sexual orientation, but just hold that knowledge at arm's length of recognition, in a sort of plausible deniability.

 

[april-wine]

Well, there is knowing, and there is KNOWING. It may be that members of your extended family does know of your sexual orientation, but just hold that knowledge at arm's length of recognition, in a sort of plausible deniability.

Yes, some of em need arms length recognition. heh....Thanks Q

 

[Ladydyke69]

I am pretty out to everyone (co-workers & family). Coming out is personal and you need to do what’s comfortable for you. Not everyone needs to know your business so tell those that matter the most to you and _uck the rest.l