Coming out to a friend.

[gnr8801]

Hey everyone, this might be my first post here (hooray!)
But anyway, I'd consider myself bicurious or even fully bisexual, but I've never been with another guy, and I'm trying to get a close friend of mine to consider experimenting with me, but I don't know how to approach him about it or anything like that, and I'm not sure of what his reaction would be. So if anyone can help me go about this, then it'll be greatly appreciated.

 

[DustyWolfe]

It could cause a problem if your friend isn't gay or bi or bi curious. I would find out before approaching him about experiencing. Now telling him, that's a different story.

 

[Cigan]

Just tell him you think your bi. It can be that straightforward and blunt. Lord knows I never attempted to be subtle about it when I told my friends. If he's really your friend he'll be cool with it. As far as trying to get him to experiment with you, I would say be subtle with that one, but if he says he's not interested I wouldn't push the subject too much. Let him know your interested, and if he ends up being interested as well then things will happen.

 

[gnr8801]

Thanks for the help... Bit of an update on the situation:
I did tell him that I am interested in guys as well as girls, and although taken quite aback, he was pretty cool with it. I haven't mentioned anything about being interested in him personally or if he'd be willing to try anything with me, but we might be together this weekend, and I'll try and take things from there.

 

[zhukov1943]

I don't know if that's a good idea, man.

Knowing a friend of mine is gay or bi - no big deal. That's their business, not mine.

Knowing he wants to get in my pants? BIG difference. Now it IS my business - and I'd never feel the same way about hanging around him again. Definitely awkward.

 

[RobHammer]

It can be the same with straight relationships too. When a past relationship ended, my ex's sister dropped by for a visit. I was in a randy mood and let her know not too discreetly that I was interested in her. Putting the make on her scared her off. She left in a hurry, and I never saw her again.