Coming Out of The Closet

[Dre]

I am bisexual and just recently came out to a few friends. Ones that I trust. I have been this way all of my life, and just couldn't take keeping it a secret any more. I did something stupid and was walking with one of my friends in the park tonight about it, it was very dark and I didn't see some people from my former school (I graduated Sunday) sitting on a bench by the fountain. I am terrified they heard. I don't want the whole town to find out. I live in a small minded red neck town. They judge anyone who's different, and a lot of the time, those who are get their asses beat. Also, I didn't plan on my dad finding out until I was away at college, because he thinks bisexuals are perverts. Any advice? I'm about to have a nervous break down here... *L*

 

[red_rose]

I went to high school in a "redneck town".

I had two gay friends... one spoke up and was rejected by society in general (not his friends)...

The other kept it a secret (aside from myself) and wound up on antidepressants to help him cope with the pain.


My advice?

Get out of the small town when you can... The people who are truly your friends and family will understand you and love you for the person you are while you are still there.

*shrug*

Hope that did more good than harm.

 

[Shaq]

I am bisexual and just recently came out to a few friends. Ones that I trust. I have been this way all of my life, and just couldn't take keeping it a secret any more. I did something stupid and was walking with one of my friends in the park tonight about it, it was very dark and I didn't see some people from my former school (I graduated Sunday) sitting on a bench by the fountain. I am terrified they heard. I don't want the whole town to find out. I live in a small minded red neck town. They judge anyone who's different, and a lot of the time, those who are get their asses beat. Also, I didn't plan on my dad finding out until I was away at college, because he thinks bisexuals are perverts. Any advice? I'm about to have a nervous break down here... *L*

Get ready for hell...hope it doesn't happen and that the people in your town aren't idiots but you need to prepare yourself mentally for the worse. Figure out who you can depend on and who you can't. Get ready for when you are wrong on both counts. Most importantly believe in yourself and what you are doing by coming out....

 

[nasty]

I had the same situation happen to me. Although, I just confessed to my Mom,(who I KNEW would be cool about it.) In your situation, I would HOPE for the best, but, from what you said, I'd look for some hardship. I HOPE it isn't the latter.

 

[Siren]

Whatever might happen do this for yourself

 

[Dre]

Yeah, I don't think it'll be as bad as it used to be. All the girls that used to beat people up moved away... There's been lots of lesbians lately at our school, and that's what kinda gave me the guts, out of the 7 we had at the beginning of the year, there is only one 1 left. The rest skipped town.

 

[HotXBunz]

Coming out is a brave thing to do. Continue to be brave.

 

[Kitte]

Come out come out wherever you are!

It isnt easy to come out...but in the end you will be better for it...and there are plenty of us out there...you have a place to turn when RL gets ugly

 

[nasty]

For the straight people of your town, just say, "I get the best of both worlds." Being bi is good. Opens up your options.

 

[Dre]

*L* All of you have been really helpful!! I never thought of the whole best of both worlds thing, I guess I do got it good! Now I know why I like this place so much, everyone's so open. There's stuff I've seen on here I've never even heard of! I like having my eyes opened, I just wish everyone else did too.

 

[Bindii]

Dre no matter what other people may say or think believe in yourself.