Coming out advice?

[Ciceri]

I'm planning a visit to the city where my parents live this Labor Day weekend. They're 80 years old; I'm 45. We're not particularly close. I plan to come out to friends before the end of the year. For some reason I don't want my parents to be the last to be told (they probably already know). Any advice? Should I tell them? Or should I wait? I'm in the middle of a divorce. I'm seeing a gentleman who's encouraging me to tell everyone. I think he's right. My secrets have burned me before

 

[wetsawdust]

I came out at 50. Congrats on your journey! My situation is a little different in that I had already cut my father out of my life a few years prior for unrelated fuckery.....that, and the need to come out was the main reason for the divorce, but....ballpark.
I flew out and told my mom everything in person. We aren't particularly close, but it was important for her to hear my story with me face to face, instead of over a phone call or god forbid, a video call. I could have done either of those things and she would have been fine with it, but I needed to get the hell out of town for a bit anyway and regroup with family, plus, like your folks, she ain't getting any younger.
The advice I will give you is.... they probably already know. And if they don't, they probably won't be surprised when you tell them. All of that is fine. Your gut is already telling you to not let them be the last to know. Listen to your instincts, they are very powerful!

 

[Travler99921]

My parents were dead by the time I realized I was bi. The first person I came out to was my wife, and I did it before my first gay experience. She was remarkably accepting of me having occasional gay sex. However she did not want my bisexuality widely known. Therefore I had sex only with strangers. At her request I restricted my gay sexual activities to married men.

The most unexpected outcome of my coming out was that it brought us closer together. She said my being honest about my sexuality was more important than me having gay sexual desires.

 

[FeelingLikeMyself]

Coming out at 45.

It's been a slow process.

My sister. She's more queer than I am

My mom was told at a distance while arguing about politics last November. She's in town and coming over for pizza and board games with my girlfriend. It'll be the first time she's seen me dressed as myself in person.

My stepdad, I'm not sure if my mom told him. He's in the Administrations cult. I haven't said anything.

The rest of the family can find out on Halloween. I'm not close and they don't affect me.