Collars

[rexhame317]

Ihave been reading a lot obout the lifestyle, and keep hearing about collars. is this used in every Dom/sub relationship?

Sorry if this is in the wrong spot, but need to know...thanks

 

[JMohegan]

Ihave been reading a lot obout the lifestyle, and keep hearing about collars. is this used in every Dom/sub relationship?

Nope.

 

[DogInTheSnow]

I'm a big switch. And no, it is not in every relation ship. For some it is an integral part of the D/s relationship. For others it is like any other toy in the box.

For my girlfriend and I, when I bring it out she knows I'm in a Dom mood. I know she's in a Dom mood when she gets out the handcuffs.

She has one because she finds it sexy to wear one. I don't have one because it does nothing for me. Like everything else in a D/s relationship it all comes down to one thing: communication!

 

[Stella_Omega]

I think they are sexy to see and also to wear. In my community almost everyone assumes that a collar means something-- not to me it doesn't, but I don't wear them much because of that.

 

[subwannabe]

every relationship is different

 

[Kojote]

I think they are sexy to see and also to wear. In my community almost everyone assumes that a collar means something-- not to me it doesn't, but I don't wear them much because of that.

How can that be that I'm totally with you in this.
Again...
Feels like stalking your mind somehow...

At least I'm not into wearing them, because I don't like things around my throat.

 

[Miss_Jenni]

my Dom got me a collar which i can wear all day at work without any knowing that i'm owned by him

 

[Stella_Omega]

my Dom got me a collar which i can wear all day at work without any knowing that i'm owned by him

You're going to be a news item in the Guardian any day now.

 

[Beck31]

Sorry I am a little late in answering. I wear a collar for my Mistress only in the privacy of her house. Outside of that I usually wear dogtags (Military style) with a little info but not a lot since I don't want to attract undo attention. A collar means something different to different people. B/c I am still considered a puppy I am required to have proof of ownership. Hope that helps.

 

[NaughtyRedSiren]

My Dom and I both love the collar... and I agree it very much has to do with communication and personal preference. We have talked about a collar I could wear all the time, such as a pendant ..a symbol that he owns me.

 

[bambikiller]

[. B/c I am still considered a puppy I am required to have proof of ownership. Hope that helps.[/QUOTE]

I loved to have a puppy.
That turns me on.

I have had many a wemon wear collars for me mostly in the privacy of our own places and occasionaly in an opperate pubic place like a bar during bondage night.

It is a sign of ownership.
But mostlty it is used during play time, they are my sex slave and I own their ass for the night.
I'd say half of the wemon I've dated I bought a collar for and persented it to them while the other half we have gone out and picked one out together.
Ever relationship is different and of course I've gone out with wemon I've never collared.

 

[loneranger8921]

What does it look like. I am looking for one for my Sub but have not found any i can use in the vanilla world.

 

[nippleslut]

I have a Covert collar from Ring of Steel. I wear this daily it never comes off as it is a locking collar. I have a charm that is attached to it. I have never had anyone say anything other then nice necklace.

 

[Beck31]

Thats neat. Mine is leather with a buckle. A covert one would be nice but my Mistress will not give me a new one unless it gets worn out. She and I have worked it out that I wear it in the house but once I go out or if someone visits and doesn't know about my lifestyle I have permission to remove it. Like if my niece visits. There are some things an 8 year old should not see or hear.

 

[dirtymary]

No, i don't believe this happens in every Dom/sub relationship but it does hold great meaning with many.

Personally i see collaring as being a sign of complete ownership and a constant reminder to the sub that they belong to their Dom. It can also be a reminder (if the Dom is like mine and lives far away) during play or as assistance to the Dom (some have rings on them to connect ropes/chains/leads to).

 

[Beck31]

Well said DirtyMary. Bravo.

 

[curiousslave94]

Well a collar I am not sure, but with my Master its a simple bracelet that acts as a collar because I can't wear one. But it just symbolizes who I belong to, its a good reminder of who I am. Also the bracelet is the soda tab one so it looks like a cuff but its a normal bracelet.

 

[Beck31]

Why can't you wear a collar? Just curious. But yes a bracelet also works as a symbol of whom you belong to.

 

[curiousslave94]

Because it difficult to find one that will work for both play and normal wear, so the bracelet is a good substitute, and he likes the bracelet better.

 

[Beck31]

Because it difficult to find one that will work for both play and normal wear, so the bracelet is a good substitute, and he likes the bracelet better.

I see. Nothing wrong with that.

 

[curiousslave94]

I see. Nothing wrong with that.

There isn't anything wrong with it, and especially when someone compliments you on the bracelet, the feeling is amazing.

 

[Beck31]

collar

There isn't anything wrong with it, and especially when someone compliments you on the bracelet, the feeling is amazing.

Indeed.