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the captians wench
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when I was looking for a dom there, all I found was a lot of heart ache. Of course I was very new and fell for a lot of tricksters
when I was looking for a lil sis, I mostly found a lot of attitude, but there were some nice girls to chat with.
I've never really stayed for any great length of time, few months max, so not really enough time to judge I don't think. But I think it's just like any where else, you have to sort out the duds from the gems. Some times that takes longer than others.
when I was looking for a lil sis, I mostly found a lot of attitude, but there were some nice girls to chat with.
I've never really stayed for any great length of time, few months max, so not really enough time to judge I don't think. But I think it's just like any where else, you have to sort out the duds from the gems. Some times that takes longer than others.
BiBunny
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Honestly? Not really. Ditto for Bondage. I never even bothered with Alt, for those reasons. My CM and Bondage profiles are gone now. Lit is the only kinky site I bother with anymore, and only for the discussion, not to meet Prince(ss) Charming. I figure if the Universe wants me to meet someone, it'll let him/her fall into my lap at some point. 
Can you tell the Bunny is SO not looking? LOL.
Can you tell the Bunny is SO not looking? LOL.
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DeservingBitch
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Nope.
I've met two persons worth my time there. But given all the crap I had to go through to get to those people, I say it's not worth it.
The ratio of uber-Domly-wannabe-Doms and tie-me-up-and-do-me-slaves vs. genuinely interesting people is actually scary on CM.
I've met two persons worth my time there. But given all the crap I had to go through to get to those people, I say it's not worth it.
The ratio of uber-Domly-wannabe-Doms and tie-me-up-and-do-me-slaves vs. genuinely interesting people is actually scary on CM.
intothewoods
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Most people I know haven't had luck there. If you're a Domme, however, there are a ton of hawtie male subs.
Anyway, I met my current pseudo-bf, regular play partner there. He sent me a message, we chatted for a bit, met in real life, yada yada. I think that's pretty rare though. I met another guy who was already in the scene, but had been out of it for a while. He started coming out to my group's happy hours on occasion, and we've played kissy face a couple of times. I count him as a casual friend or aquaintance, and I met him through CM.
Other than that? Lots and lots of HNGs and assholes posing as Doms (see my speech on those old coots elsewhere).
Anyway, I met my current pseudo-bf, regular play partner there. He sent me a message, we chatted for a bit, met in real life, yada yada. I think that's pretty rare though. I met another guy who was already in the scene, but had been out of it for a while. He started coming out to my group's happy hours on occasion, and we've played kissy face a couple of times. I count him as a casual friend or aquaintance, and I met him through CM.
Other than that? Lots and lots of HNGs and assholes posing as Doms (see my speech on those old coots elsewhere).
h_i_s
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Yes.HornyBabe1965 said:
My Master [and Husband] and I found each other on collarme, met the next day in person....collared a week later.... married 10 months later. Happier than either of us ever dreamed of.......
And are currently busy living our 'happily ever after'.
Collarme was well worth my time.
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sinn0cent1 said:
OK - she wins!
amadaun
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Well, I met my Master there, so I guess I'd have to say it was worth it for me. But notably, he was the only person on CM who *I* messaged first... and for the one valuable interaction I got with him, in the few weeks I was actively checking the site, I probably got almost 50 messages from losers or nice but much older men who I wasn't interested in.
I've just started posting on the forums there, and *wow*, are they ever snarky. I can't count how many threads I've seen asking genuine questions which get met with nothing but calculated putdowns or "duh, stupid, it is however the Master says it is". Le sigh...
I've just started posting on the forums there, and *wow*, are they ever snarky. I can't count how many threads I've seen asking genuine questions which get met with nothing but calculated putdowns or "duh, stupid, it is however the Master says it is". Le sigh...
DVS
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OK, where should I start? I could write a book about my experiences on CM, but I doubt I would have any better luck selling that than I have selling myself. CM is a unique place where certain people can thrive and others just sem to stagnate.
I've had an account there for several years. I really don't know why, other than I'm hopeful something will come of it. Needless to say I have not had much good luck there. I also tried Alt, but I was just losing money there, because everything requires you to be a premium member. You can't even see profiles now, without signing up. It's totally a waste of my time.
Equally so, if I had to pay for the same things on CM, I'd be broke. Oh, I wouldn't have stayed as long as I have, if I had to pay. Actually, I think CM would have less of the assholes and idiot it does, if it was a pay site, but I'm not sure I would stick around, either.
If I would get a few messages, or if the ones I sent would get replys instead of ignored or just deleted without being read, or if the profiles weren't filled with a lot of "come ons" that ended up being just that, I probably would feel better about CM.
I know women get a lot of messages, and that's understandable. And, if they have a picture on their profile, you can probably multiply those messages times 10. I also know that at least half of those messages, if not more, are from idiots just looking for a quick lay or maybe just looking to pass the time by pissing somebody off.
I laugh at all of the profiles that have something like "NO MEN!!! WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT?" on their profile. That just tempts some men to send messages, ladies. Don't you know that? Either they think they are so damn special that they can change your mind, or they are a couple of 14 year olds catching a few giggles by acting like 14 year olds.
What 14 year old doesn't like to be contrary? Especially, if they can do it without being found out? (I use "14 year old" as a catch all for any teenage delinquent that has too much time on his hands that he finds it fun to mess with society's conventions).
A year or so back, I had a thread here where I asked Litsters to check out my CM profile to see if something was wrong with it. 99.9% of those who looked, said it was fine. One said she thought it was too long. I was at a loss as to why I was having such terrible luck. I started wondering if it was my age that was striking out, or my bald head, or my nose, or my ears or...well you get the idea.
I'm sure the fact that I enjoy electroplay doesn't pass well, with some people. I know they have visions of some madman with wires hooked up to batteries and electrofied alligator clips ready to zap a clit or pussy, or nipple until the helpless victim is jerking violently, stopping just short of producing smoke. I've seen the videos and I know about the phobias.
Little do they know that electroplay isn't all about pain, but can also be quite pleasureable, as most anybody who has experienced one at their Chiropractor could tell you. Add the experience and kinky mind that the Chiropractor doesn't have and you've got a multiple orgasm producing machine. OK, I do enjoy the pain aspect of it, too. At least I'm honest.
Over all, I've decided it's just not possible to produce a message that can stand out above the many messages that female submissives get every day. Of course, most of those messages aren't worth reading, but mine is mixed up in that group and if what I say doesn't thrill them in the first sentence to the point their clit throbs, I'm sure they just delete it and move on to the next one. That is, if they even read my message.
Sorry, I could go on and on here. I said I could write a book. I wasn't kidding. Suffice it to say I haven't met anybody on CM that ever got to the point of a face to face meeting. I got to the chat mode with a couple, but something I said made them drop the chat without even a "good bye, asshole".
One woman said she had a phone call, and asked me to wait. Stupid me kept the chat program open for almost 30 minutes, waiting. She never came back. One woman said I was a pompous asshole. I'll never forget that one. Something I said in my message sure got her pissed. Bitch.
OK, I'm really stopping now, before that book is finished. I think we could call this a first chapter. Collarme, Alt, and even Bondage have all been bad luck for me. Nuf said.
I've had an account there for several years. I really don't know why, other than I'm hopeful something will come of it. Needless to say I have not had much good luck there. I also tried Alt, but I was just losing money there, because everything requires you to be a premium member. You can't even see profiles now, without signing up. It's totally a waste of my time.
Equally so, if I had to pay for the same things on CM, I'd be broke. Oh, I wouldn't have stayed as long as I have, if I had to pay. Actually, I think CM would have less of the assholes and idiot it does, if it was a pay site, but I'm not sure I would stick around, either.
If I would get a few messages, or if the ones I sent would get replys instead of ignored or just deleted without being read, or if the profiles weren't filled with a lot of "come ons" that ended up being just that, I probably would feel better about CM.
I know women get a lot of messages, and that's understandable. And, if they have a picture on their profile, you can probably multiply those messages times 10. I also know that at least half of those messages, if not more, are from idiots just looking for a quick lay or maybe just looking to pass the time by pissing somebody off.
I laugh at all of the profiles that have something like "NO MEN!!! WHAT DO YOU NOT UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT?" on their profile. That just tempts some men to send messages, ladies. Don't you know that? Either they think they are so damn special that they can change your mind, or they are a couple of 14 year olds catching a few giggles by acting like 14 year olds.
What 14 year old doesn't like to be contrary? Especially, if they can do it without being found out? (I use "14 year old" as a catch all for any teenage delinquent that has too much time on his hands that he finds it fun to mess with society's conventions).
A year or so back, I had a thread here where I asked Litsters to check out my CM profile to see if something was wrong with it. 99.9% of those who looked, said it was fine. One said she thought it was too long. I was at a loss as to why I was having such terrible luck. I started wondering if it was my age that was striking out, or my bald head, or my nose, or my ears or...well you get the idea.
I'm sure the fact that I enjoy electroplay doesn't pass well, with some people. I know they have visions of some madman with wires hooked up to batteries and electrofied alligator clips ready to zap a clit or pussy, or nipple until the helpless victim is jerking violently, stopping just short of producing smoke. I've seen the videos and I know about the phobias.
Little do they know that electroplay isn't all about pain, but can also be quite pleasureable, as most anybody who has experienced one at their Chiropractor could tell you. Add the experience and kinky mind that the Chiropractor doesn't have and you've got a multiple orgasm producing machine. OK, I do enjoy the pain aspect of it, too. At least I'm honest.
Over all, I've decided it's just not possible to produce a message that can stand out above the many messages that female submissives get every day. Of course, most of those messages aren't worth reading, but mine is mixed up in that group and if what I say doesn't thrill them in the first sentence to the point their clit throbs, I'm sure they just delete it and move on to the next one. That is, if they even read my message.
Sorry, I could go on and on here. I said I could write a book. I wasn't kidding. Suffice it to say I haven't met anybody on CM that ever got to the point of a face to face meeting. I got to the chat mode with a couple, but something I said made them drop the chat without even a "good bye, asshole".
One woman said she had a phone call, and asked me to wait. Stupid me kept the chat program open for almost 30 minutes, waiting. She never came back. One woman said I was a pompous asshole. I'll never forget that one. Something I said in my message sure got her pissed. Bitch.
OK, I'm really stopping now, before that book is finished. I think we could call this a first chapter. Collarme, Alt, and even Bondage have all been bad luck for me. Nuf said.
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HornyBabe1965 said:
define 'worth my time'....
i enjoy collarme, and have made a lot of really good friends off of there.
dated a couple of people i found, talk to some every day, interact with some closely as very good friends.
i think it's fine, i just don't take any online dating services very seriously. and you have to wade through a lot of weeds to get to the quality ones.
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LittleJade
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No, not really.
Evil_Geoff
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Alt is useful for the Chat Rooms in your area, _IF_ you bother to develop a community. For example, in the Carolinas Chat room, I and a lot of other members that hang out are realtime in our interests and activities. We direct newbies to local educational groups in their areas, there is a dungeon in Greensboro, NC that hosts a monthly "Alt night" specifically for people from Alt to get introduced into the realtime community...
It takes time, it takes patience, it takes commitment, and it takes a willinginess to cross pollinate and share the pie. In the Carolinas it has paid off in my opinion.
You do not have to be a paid member of Alt to blog, read blogs, or chat. You don't have to be a paid member to have people look at your profile or to reply to emails, you do have to be a paid member to initiate email contact or look at full profiles. Free members sometimes get "teaser" permissions allowing you to browse profiles for a period of time, to "encouarge" you to buy a membership to see what you are missing the rest of the time.
Collarme doesn't really have a similar function so it's a hit or miss thing. I'm not actively looking so it's not an issue for me. I occassionaly post to a topic there, perv a profile now and then, sometimes invite people to join the realtime community if they indicate an interest in something besides "I'm horny and wanna kinky fuckbuddy." I've never gotten a real asshat from collarme... *shrugs*
Like anything else, it's mostly going to be a matter of what you expect vs how much effort you want to put into it. I expect little or nothing, I'm not willing to put a lot of work into it, so anything I do get is pretty much in the plus column.
It takes time, it takes patience, it takes commitment, and it takes a willinginess to cross pollinate and share the pie. In the Carolinas it has paid off in my opinion.
You do not have to be a paid member of Alt to blog, read blogs, or chat. You don't have to be a paid member to have people look at your profile or to reply to emails, you do have to be a paid member to initiate email contact or look at full profiles. Free members sometimes get "teaser" permissions allowing you to browse profiles for a period of time, to "encouarge" you to buy a membership to see what you are missing the rest of the time.
Collarme doesn't really have a similar function so it's a hit or miss thing. I'm not actively looking so it's not an issue for me. I occassionaly post to a topic there, perv a profile now and then, sometimes invite people to join the realtime community if they indicate an interest in something besides "I'm horny and wanna kinky fuckbuddy." I've never gotten a real asshat from collarme... *shrugs*
Like anything else, it's mostly going to be a matter of what you expect vs how much effort you want to put into it. I expect little or nothing, I'm not willing to put a lot of work into it, so anything I do get is pretty much in the plus column.
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I have a CollarMe profile, although I wouldn't really say I'm active on it. I've had much better luck on Lit, but that could be because this is what I put my energy into. I met Snooze here, and in fact, all of the people in the lifestyle that I talk to on a regular basis. Perhaps if I spent the time on CollarMe that I did here, things would be different. I think you can find good, sincere people no matter where you look.
NemoAlia
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So far, so good. I've met a few play partners, and one nearly year-long boyfriend on collarme.
Of course, I get bombarded with notes from people who don't fit my criteria, but that's par for the course. No surprises, no drama.
On a tangential topic: I'm considering writing a second profile that presents my "other side." You know, the not-so-wholesome, fucked-up-desperate submissive profile. I've been thinking about this a while, because I think it might attract the intensity that I'm looking for. But I haven't written it yet because I'm afraid it might be a "point of no return" beyond which I won't be able to walk the line of sanity any longer.
Do any of you maintain two or more profiles on cm?
Of course, I get bombarded with notes from people who don't fit my criteria, but that's par for the course. No surprises, no drama.
On a tangential topic: I'm considering writing a second profile that presents my "other side." You know, the not-so-wholesome, fucked-up-desperate submissive profile. I've been thinking about this a while, because I think it might attract the intensity that I'm looking for. But I haven't written it yet because I'm afraid it might be a "point of no return" beyond which I won't be able to walk the line of sanity any longer.
Do any of you maintain two or more profiles on cm?
buxxxom
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I've met some friends on both Lit and CollarMe. I like the profile section on CM because it does give some indication of interests, if the person fills it out. I lurk the forums, but don't post there. Those I've met have been "wash-outs." It just doesn't feel as "homey" as Lit. One plus is the chat feature there.
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nova4u
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On Lit, I used to do a lot of writing in the SRP board and post to various message boards... these days I don't have much time for that, and only come by now and then to keep in touch with old friends. My main focus for Lit now is for submitting poetry and other writings to the stories section.
I've been on CM for a few years now, and have made MANY friendships during that time. I've met several people in RL, and dated one person from there for a couple of years. The chatrooms are good too. I don't visit the forums there much, but every now and then I'll head over there to lurk. I REALLY like that the entire site is free, and the profiles allow you to list a wide variety of vanilla interests too... it helps in just finding people with common interests in general... and I think that's why I've made so many friends there.
I'm on Alt primarily for blogging. Like Evil_Geoff said, blogging and chatrooms, as well as interest groups are all free there. Through blogging I've made lots of friends there too, and met several of them... all in all it's been a good experience there, as long as you can put up with the site bugs they keep having whenever they try to add a new feature.
So to sum up.... yes, CollarMe has been VERY worth my time, as has each of the other sites I mentioned, but each for different things.
I've been on CM for a few years now, and have made MANY friendships during that time. I've met several people in RL, and dated one person from there for a couple of years. The chatrooms are good too. I don't visit the forums there much, but every now and then I'll head over there to lurk. I REALLY like that the entire site is free, and the profiles allow you to list a wide variety of vanilla interests too... it helps in just finding people with common interests in general... and I think that's why I've made so many friends there.
I'm on Alt primarily for blogging. Like Evil_Geoff said, blogging and chatrooms, as well as interest groups are all free there. Through blogging I've made lots of friends there too, and met several of them... all in all it's been a good experience there, as long as you can put up with the site bugs they keep having whenever they try to add a new feature.
So to sum up.... yes, CollarMe has been VERY worth my time, as has each of the other sites I mentioned, but each for different things.
