collarme.com

[Betticus]

I see a lot of submissives on there with some pretty hardcore demands. The do not even begin to think of contacting me if type of thing.

What is up with that? Are there just so many perv psycho's on there hitting on women that they have to do that to protect themselves? Also, wouldn't it only be the more normal, honest people that don't respond to that?

So by being extremely bitchy in your initial profile aren't you just setting yourself up for abuse?

 

[Betticus]

Okay, also the ones that say they are already owned by someone. Those are only a little annoying but the ones that have no real description, just some kind of amazingly long excerpt from a book of erotica describing her crying out for some master or something along the lines of that.

What is that? Trust me, she is the only one that is getting any meaning out of it.

I'm half tempted to make a hot female alt just to see how bad the harassment is on there.

Anyone wanna help?

 

[Guest]

 

[Betticus]

That is fine but a lot of them are not stated politely. They are outright confrontational.

 

[canadiancutie]

I see a lot of submissives on there with some pretty hardcore demands. The do not even begin to think of contacting me if type of thing.

What is up with that? Are there just so many perv psycho's on there hitting on women that they have to do that to protect themselves? Also, wouldn't it only be the more normal, honest people that don't respond to that?

So by being extremely bitchy in your initial profile aren't you just setting yourself up for abuse?

Haha my entire profile is pretty much telling people I'm not looking and for some reason I still get messages. So yeah, I could see doing that as being necessary. There are lots of "perv psychos" on there. (Hahahaha some "domme" that sent me a message on there tried to hypnotize me via YIM and got mad when I didn't take it seriously. I think it was the funniest conversation I've ever had. Ever. I played along for a bit because, yeah, it was really really hilarious, but after a while I just couldn't anymore, it was too brutal.)

 

[TaintedB]

That is fine but a lot of them are not stated politely. They are outright confrontational.

They aren't getting psychos necessarily but they're getting rude stupid mean men who are pissy to begin with and make dumb assuptions about them. That's why the profiles sound all stressy. They usually don't start out that way, you're looking at the fourth or fifth version of many of them.

 

[Betticus]

Okay, check this out.

When you are on ebay the buyers and sellers have ratings and feedback. The longer you are there with good feedback, the more credibility you attain.

We need something like this with bdsm boards and services. A psycho meter kind of thing. And when someone is nuts they can start a new alias and have newbie all over them until they have some real history.

The feedback would have to be like ebay's though, with no control of what people say about you. Or there can be a little quiz fill out section with stuff like honesty, integrity, pervness, etc....

I like that idea.

 

[canadiancutie]

Okay, check this out.

When you are on ebay the buyers and sellers have ratings and feedback. The longer you are there with good feedback, the more credibility you attain.

We need something like this with bdsm boards and services. A psycho meter kind of thing. And when someone is nuts they can start a new alias and have newbie all over them until they have some real history.

The feedback would have to be like ebay's though, with no control of what people say about you. Or there can be a little quiz fill out section with stuff like honesty, integrity, pervness, etc....

I like that idea.

Hahah I would have the worst rating ever, I'm such a jerk to people on there now. But my theory is, if they didn't see the not looking part, they can't read so they won't know I'm being a jerk to them.

 

[TaintedB]

Okay, check this out.

When you are on ebay the buyers and sellers have ratings and feedback. The longer you are there with good feedback, the more credibility you attain.

We need something like this with bdsm boards and services. A psycho meter kind of thing. And when someone is nuts they can start a new alias and have newbie all over them until they have some real history.

The feedback would have to be like ebay's though, with no control of what people say about you. Or there can be a little quiz fill out section with stuff like honesty, integrity, pervness, etc....

I like that idea.

On a personals board like that place, the voting system would be used strickly for vendettas. Sometimes a woman tells a man politely and nicely she is just not interestred in him or he has clearly not read her profile because he's completely different than what she is looking for and the guy gets enraged and starts screaming at her. Men have similar encounters. Someone that pissed will give you a zero popularlity vote, even if you were courteous and nice. And he might get his friends online to vote zero for you too. The whole thing would be one big lie.

On ebay people aren't motivated by being personally rejected by a buyer or seller, lol, nobody is trying to get into the seller's pants so the feedback tends to be honest. It just wouldn't be so on collarme. I see lots of awful little fights various people get into.

The quiz idea isn't bad though. What sorts of questions would you ask?

By the way, the men's profiles are often like that too, not the male subs so much but definitely the male doms: very defensive and angry sounding, often, or even full of unwanted advice on how every single submissive should act based on his alleged vast knowledge.

 

[Ms_Toy]

Betticus,

I know for myself, it's a lot different for females than males on collarme.

Heres an example. 2 months ago I posted a profile with only the very basic information, no picture and no discription of what I was looking for. With in 15 minutes of it being up, I started getting e-mails. Up to 15 to 20 per day.

I answered every one and after a week, removed it because I had found, or rather He found me, my current Master.

I got a lot of e-mails from all over the place but I was looking for someone close to home. Since I had been in an online and long distance relationship that didn't work out and needed to have someone close to accually "control" me. Something that can't be done from a long distance very well.

Just my 2 cents thrown into the mix.

 

[Betticus]

Very nice.

A question though, were a lot of the emails just odd?

 

[SueJ]

Okay, also the ones that say they are already owned by someone. Those are only a little annoying........

Some people sign up on collarme to hang out in the forums and just be there to chat about the lifestye. They are not looking for a special someone, but have to fill out the required information to get their user id. Isn't it better that they state upfront in their profile that they are already owned and not looking? Seems to me that saves everybody lots of effort and hassles.

 

[Ms_Toy]

Very nice.

A question though, were a lot of the emails just odd?

I had a few that were but most were very respectful and kind. Of course I try to treat people, be it on the net or in person, the same way I want to be treated.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Very nice.

A question though, were a lot of the emails just odd?

uh huh. i just opened a new account so i could see the pics on the other threads here. No info about me and im getting messages about how much they liked my profile...oh wait, maybe they like it blank?

i had and closed an account there a while back because i kept getting messages that said i was a fake or unsub and a phony etc. for no other reason then my profile....that i didnt even write. A wonderful intelligent well known Domme wrote it for me because i didnt know what to say.

 

[canadiancutie]

Very nice.

A question though, were a lot of the emails just odd?

Some guy got mad at me because I refused to refer to him as Sir or send him pictures of myself in stockings. and I've only been back on there for 3 days haha

 

[Lilith]

My profile there is one of the more blank ones. I'm just not seeking anything. I'm just hanging out, reading and enjoying the company. As a Domme I suppose I don't receive abusive or rude private messages, unlike what I fear my more submissive sisters endure at times. While I do get a fair amount of subs or switches who PM to introduce themselves, most have not been obnoxious or overly persistent.

 

[princess4u]

i don't think my profile is "bitchy" but i think it's pretty clear what i am
seeking - and yes there are quite a few real jack-ass dom wannabes on there
but to be honest i would have to say that maybe only about 1 out of 10
messages i received was really crude - and then just click on "delete" -
it's that simple

i have been registered on collarme for over a year and during that time
i met several prospective doms - one to whom i presently belong -
MasterRobert (that is not his collarme id)

i'm curious to know if you think my profile is bitchy or demanding -
during the year it's been posted, no one has ever told me that they
thought it was

 

[princess4u]

Some guy got mad at me because I refused to refer to him as Sir or send him pictures of myself in stockings. and I've only been back on there for 3 days haha

and he most likely will not be the last to make such a demand

 

[Betticus]

i don't think my profile is "bitchy" but i think it's pretty clear what i am
seeking - and yes there are quite a few real jack-ass dom wannabes on there
but to be honest i would have to say that maybe only about 1 out of 10
messages i received was really crude - and then just click on "delete" -
it's that simple

i have been registered on collarme for over a year and during that time
i met several prospective doms - one to whom i presently belong -
MasterRobert (that is not his collarme id)

i'm curious to know if you think my profile is bitchy or demanding -
during the year it's been posted, no one has ever told me that they
thought it was - my id is princess4sir

That was one of the nicest profiles that I have read. Maybe I should get you to rewrite mine for me.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I see a lot of submissives on there with some pretty hardcore demands. The do not even begin to think of contacting me if type of thing.

What is up with that? Are there just so many perv psycho's on there hitting on women that they have to do that to protect themselves? Also, wouldn't it only be the more normal, honest people that don't respond to that?

So by being extremely bitchy in your initial profile aren't you just setting yourself up for abuse?

I wrote my profile with the express purpose of finding like minded individuals...therefore giving a list of thou shalts and shalt nots avoids idiotic despots with no integrity and even less intelligence.

 

[Vixandra]

Collarme.com has its share of idiots too.
*sighs*

 

[graceanne]

I have a collarme and an alt.com profile. I got them cause i have friends who have accounts there, and they wanted my opinion on their profiles. I keep it so that next time i have a friend get an account I won't have to get a new profile. My profile specifically states that's why I have a profile and that I'm not looking. I still get about 5 comments, winks, etc. a week. And a lot of them are things like "When you want to find your real master, pm me." and "PM me, slut.". I just ignore those assholes. If they're that stupid, they aren't worth my time or attention.

 

[h_i_s]

Some people sign up on collarme to hang out in the forums and just be there to chat about the lifestye. They are not looking for a special someone, but have to fill out the required information to get their user id. Isn't it better that they state upfront in their profile that they are already owned and not looking? Seems to me that saves everybody lots of effort and hassles.

That was me after i met my Master there ... and then decided to stick around just for the forum side of the site, (up until i decided not to participate in the collarme forum discussions and then deleted the profile and the entire account).

Prior to being owned/collared i received some very odd messages at collarme. Even after posting on my profile that i had been collared and claimed by my Master ... i still received daily requests to serve others, cyber .. strip on webcam .. do phonesex, etc ect. You name it.

The worse were from so called Doms who sent me messages just to try and convince me that i should dump my Master because THEY were who i needed. *snorts*

Over all it's a great site. There are some great people registered there and like any other there are also wackos, trolls, wannabes and losers there as well. Luckily though, members of collarme can select by sex, or whether a person is Dom, sub or switch or a couple as far as to which messages are automatically dumped into the bulk message folder. A great site .... and always open to improving how it may benefit the needs of it's members.

i understand how jaded some can become when writing profiles. i tend to let it roll of my back though as i realize it's the best way to deal with the negative aspects.

i always kept my profile on the positive side though, as it was a representation of who i am.

 

[h_i_s]

Isn't it better that they state upfront in their profile that they are already owned and not looking? Seems to me that saves everybody lots of effort and hassles.

1) Yes, it sure as hell IS.
2)It certainly DOES.

 

[DVS]

On a personals board like that place, the voting system would be used strickly for vendettas. Sometimes a woman tells a man politely and nicely she is just not interestred in him or he has clearly not read her profile because he's completely different than what she is looking for and the guy gets enraged and starts screaming at her. Men have similar encounters. Someone that pissed will give you a zero popularlity vote, even if you were courteous and nice. And he might get his friends online to vote zero for you too. The whole thing would be one big lie.

On ebay people aren't motivated by being personally rejected by a buyer or seller, lol, nobody is trying to get into the seller's pants so the feedback tends to be honest. It just wouldn't be so on collarme. I see lots of awful little fights various people get into.

The quiz idea isn't bad though. What sorts of questions would you ask?

By the way, the men's profiles are often like that too, not the male subs so much but definitely the male doms: very defensive and angry sounding, often, or even full of unwanted advice on how every single submissive should act based on his alleged vast knowledge.

I'm sorry, but I must disagree. I see what Betticus is talking about, and quite clearly. I've also experienced the no return message thing. At last count, it was well over 40 messages with no replys.

No, I'm not one of those weirdos, and no, I'm not a sphyco. I read profiles and answer the ones that I think I have a match with. Granted, after 30 no replies, I have gotten much less excited about the intital message that I send. After all, why spend too much time on something that probably won't even get read?

Sure, there are sicko men out there, and I'm sure women get tons of messages from them that they end up deleting, because they don't fit what they are looking for. Sure, I know I'm fighting to be heard above these sickos and I know it's quickly becoming a losing battle. Trust me, I've been at this before. I'm not new to this. But, I know it's only getting worse, if I can't get any replys from the messages I've sent.

No, I"m not going to let anyone critic my messages. I'm an adult male and I know how to talk to someone of the opposite sex. I've done it enough times. But, I've tried different tactics to get someone's attention, and nothing seems to work.

Yes, I did get a couple to reply, but that was on alt.com. I payed a pretty penny there and all I got was a few women who lied on their profile. One of them is also on collarme and I've kind of struck up a conversation with her. I wanted to understand what triggered her to reply.

She said she agreed with me that she was too quick to judge me, but she didn't offer to give me another chance. She also said she gave the most persistant men the most credibility. What she meant by that I guess, is someone who sent enough messages that caught her eye, she would eventually respond to them. I call that the princess attitude, folks. And, she's got it bad.

Another I met on alt gave me her Yahoo ID. Every so often she sends me a very short, rather cryptic message. they usually don't mean much on their own, and I wonder why she is even sending them. One time she wrote "long time no hear." I didn't understand this because we had been chatting on Yahoo, then she said she had a phone call. She then typed "BRB."

OK, as the time went by, I knew she wasn't coming back. So, why did she send me a message that said "long time no hear"? Just a sicko broad? Another message she sent said she had moved. I sent one back asking if she was going to tell me where she moved to. It's been about a month. I'm still waiting for her to reply. LOL, no, I"m not really waiting.

I'm not dumb. I am wondering though, if some of these women are just so domb or maybe so dense that they truly have no idea what they want and reject or ignore every one who sends them messages.

Back to the first woman...she seems to be communicating with me quite freely, now. Maybe she thinks we are friends. I did send a little short story to her. She quickly wrote back asking where I lived. LOL, I thought sure I had her attention, then.

But, we only chated on Yahoo for about two minutes before she disconnected. I had no time to ask her any questions and she only asked me a few. Nothing of any substance was said by either of us. Nothing any normal person could use to decide yes or no to anything, vanilla, kinky, or anything else.

She dropped me just like the other woman did, and gave me no reason why she did. Does that sound like something a sane and caring woman should do to someone she DIDN'T consider to be a sicko? Or did she consider me to be a sicko, then, and that's why she treated me so rudely? And, if I was such a sicko, why is sne communicating so freely with me, now? She has even given me her real name. Ah, but still no offers to reconsider my status. LOL.

And, if she did consider me to be a sicko, how did she know? How can someone tell these things in such a short and uneventful first meeting? If women are judging other men the same way I seem to be judged, this isn't working for others besides me.

Now, if I had a good picture to send, that might catch their eye. Then, I'd have to sometime down the road mention that I'm not that guy. But, maybe going for the physical lure first is one possible way to get a reply. But when the profile mentions certain "things" and I fit into those "things", I expect at least a quick message saying "thanks, but no thanks."

And, my profile is not hateful. I don't have women sending me messages asking me to piss on them or make them eat shit or something. In fact, I don't get anyone sending me initial messages, either.

Hey, folks. I know I'm not the problem. I know I've never had a problem communicating with sane, caring people who are looking for the same thing as I am. In fact, that usually makes it easier, if the person is looking for you, just as you are looking for them. Well, that's not working in this case.

So, I don't go for the need to make your profile sound so hateful. Sure, you might be getting lots of messages from sickos, but does the hateful profile even put a dent in them? I doubt it. I tend to agree with Betticus that some form of grading system would be helpful, but I also agree it would soon degrade into only a vendetta thing.

Just like some voters on Literotica, in the past. They had methods of voting a "1" for some stories to lower their status and vote a five for their story and get others to do the same. I haven't noticed it lately, but it was done quite often, about a year ago.

People will be people. They will do what they will, and at the expense of others, if need be. The princess girls waiting for their special prince can just go on and wait. By the time they figure out he ain't coming, how many also rans will have come and gone? No 100% match? How many 75% matches have been rudely ignored, because that 100% could be the very next message?

I know some women get gobs of sicko mail. Personally, I see that as their problem, and not mine. In the last paragraph I said people will be people. Well, up to now, all I've seen reply to me are what I see as wannabes. What are they wanting to be? People, maybe?


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