Over the years, on the sadly rare occasions when I have been able to have memory lane conversations with former sex partners, I’ve been told in different ways things like “I can’t believe you remember that.” It is often stories of a sexual nature that they told me and which I just stored in my memory banks and which they seemingly forgot they told me.
This is my mother.How Much RAM Is In Your Rod?
And by that I mean, how’s your memory?
Have you ever been in that situation with your wife, girlfriend or just female friend, where you said or did something to piss her off and she goes back three years to that time you were at the beach and you said something that hurt her feelings and she’s been harboring this rage all that time, even though she didn’t say anything at that moment, she remembers every single detail of what a monster you were, the weather, the setting, who wore what and now it’s finally time to address it and your only response is “We were at the beach?”
I think different people have different capacities for memory but I don't really think it's gendered. In my personal experience, the men in my life have had infinitely better memories than me.
I think this is the stereotypical idea of people. Most men I know are far more catty and petty and messy than they get credit for! And WAY more likely to hold a grudge. Maybe this is just me and the people I know. I may not be a forgive and forget type of gal but I am definitely a FORGET type of girl. I have too much to think about to replay things like that for long - this is also a total reaction to having a mother who held on to everything.
Of course, I make an effort to hold on to the good stuff. I think rewriting the past to make a break up feel better in the moment does a disservice to yourself, your partner, and the people you were when you were together.
Lit is a constant confrontation of bad decisions lol
Hmm I think things that stick to my memory stick pretty vividly. I wonder is the associated with imagination? I have a pretty vivid and action imagination so those things could play off each other. It's funny - I can remember vivid details about conversations or pictures someone sent but I forgot to get the tomatoes for spaghetti tonight.
i dont know manLists!
Hmm... I really don't think I forget anything like that. I remember dates, names and logistics. I might forget things like clothes sizes or favorite cupcakes? But that's what lists are for.
I was told by a wise person that in order to remember something, you have to link it with something you already know.
It depends. I can carry a grudge but I won't let it control my life. If I love someone I can fight and get over it pretty quickly. If you are an acquaintance, I assess the situation and I will store the information and use it to guard myself around them in the future. I'm not going to waste time and energy fighting with them. It's important to walk away.
Bits and pieces... (lol) I can remember the good parts, and the bad parts fade with time... just like their names. I'm terrible at remembering names.
Not that I can remember...
It depends on how strongly I felt at the time. Again, emotions play a big role.
I usually remember important dates by adding them to my calendar. Smart phones are the best! If they are passionate about something, I tend to get passionate about it too(except sports) and that helps me remember.
I can't remember...
This may be the best advice I’ve ever heard!
It’s either horrifying or orgasmic. Can’t quite tell. But it’s almost Halloween so both?
Shitty. Very very shitty. I don’t know if it’s natural, car crash, or all the dope I smoked in my mid 20’s.
Yes. I remember running into some high school friends about 15 years after leaving town and they were talking about shit that happened when we were kids and I was like “wtf”.Have you ever been in that situation with your wife, girlfriend or just female friend, where you said or did something to piss her off and she goes back three years to that time you were at the beach and you said something that hurt her feelings and she’s been harboring this rage all that time, even though she didn’t say anything at that moment, she remembers every single detail of what a monster you were, the weather, the setting, who wore what and now it’s finally time to address it and your only response is “We were at the beach?”
No. I think people remember what’s important to them and since that varies from person to person the memories are different and or absent. There was some interesting research a while ago about crime witnesses. The general idea is that human memory is shitty and highly malleable.
I think the “winner” of a guy fight is more likely to let it go because they won. The “loser” is more likely to remember because they need to build their self back up. But who knows, I’m an Econ guy, not a sociologist.
I remember some very vivid sexual moments. Those are nice. Emotions? What are those? I’m genX: I raised to repress the shit out of those.
No. But I am aware that my perceptions and memories of situations can be and often are very different from others. We all color are memories in ways that are beneficial to our Id/ego. It’s self preservation. Stepping outside that self preservation and recognizing that sometimes we’re the villain is healthy.
Depends on the level of emotion. High levels of emotion will most definitely distort memories. From a complete black out to minor details given extreme significance. But at the same time low emotional significance will not make the memory strong, so we’re basically walking around with a distorted image of the world filled with extreme events that are mostly fiction.
iPhone lists. I used to keep a notebook pre-phone.
No fycking clue.
This is how AIApisto is created, put that chip in a robot, add a big swinging dildo and BOOM!
Wouldn’t you like to know, weather boy?
No, no, there’s no way men have the same capacity. I’m sorry but “where are my pants” should not be a daily mystery when you live in your own home
It all just feels a bit silly, doesn’t it?
I remember the peaks, good and bad, definitely.
Sometimes I get flashes of memories, moments of weakness and heightened arousal where I maybe went further than I let myself in clearer-headed moments
My memory is based on irony and uselessness
Oh it’s this easy little method of completely internalizing them. Yea, so like, what they like? I like. What they do? I want to watch
. What they need? I’ll provide it. I’ll remember them the way I remember myself, frustratingly, toxicly, lovingly.Birthdays
I love looking at a woman’s voodoo doll collection. It’s a fascinating insight into what to avoid doing.Wouldn’t you like to know, weather boy?
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No, no, there’s no way men have the same capacity. I’m sorry but “where are my pants” should not be a daily mystery when you live in your own home
Yetttt ask about sports trivia from before he was born and he’ll know. So maybe it’s a matter of priorities
It all just feels a bit silly, doesn’t it?
Like, men are incapable of handling complex, deep connections within their own gender and women are high strung lunatics who carry around minature voodoo dolls of scorned lovers.
This sounds super healthy…Oh it’s this easy little method of completely internalizing them. Yea, so like, what they like? I like. What they do? I want to watch
Dudette, just suck his dick. All will be forgiven.
See above. It can be two weeks after his birthday and if you suck him dry and then whisper in his ear “Happy Birthday” he’ll be totes satisfied.Birthdays
Welllll I never claimed to have a fat ass through healthy, diligent diet and workout efforts, it’s like 100% McDonald’s and ego at this point. It is safe to assume all other aspects of me physically or internally are equally lousyThis sounds super healthy…
This brings up a great question - what do you do when dick sucking becomes inadequate? When it becomes less of a thrill and more of a take it or leave it sorta situation.
choice as far as he's concerned. I really never see that changing. 
And as long as he's into it, I'll be into it.
What’s your go to, Big Macs or Quarter Pounders?Welllll I never claimed to have a fat ass through healthy, diligent diet and workout efforts, it’s like 100% McDonald’s and ego at this point. It is safe to assume all other aspects of me physically or internally are equally lousy
Is this question for the sucker or the suckee?
In the words of the great George Carlin, “Here’s something no one has ever said: ‘Quit blowing me or I’m calling the cops!’”
Inadequate for you or for him?Welllll I never claimed to have a fat ass through healthy, diligent diet and workout efforts, it’s like 100% McDonald’s and ego at this point. It is safe to assume all other aspects of me physically or internally are equally lousy
This brings up a great question - what do you do when dick sucking becomes inadequate? When it becomes less of a thrill and more of a take it or leave it sorta situation.
What’s the pivot?
Is it rimming?
I would forgive her anything if she dropped to her knees, please do something bad
You always find the most interesting things on the internet.
No; luckily, I have a group of friends that discuss their issues like adults LOLAnd by that I mean, how’s your memory?
Have you ever been in that situation with your wife, girlfriend or just female friend, where you said or did something to piss her off and she goes back three years to that time you were at the beach and you said something that hurt her feelings and she’s been harboring this rage all that time, even though she didn’t say anything at that moment, she remembers every single detail of what a monster you were, the weather, the setting, who wore what and now it’s finally time to address it and your only response is “We were at the beach?”
It's not a gendered thing. Some people have memories like a vault; some have memories like a sieve.
Again, it's not a gendered thing. There are plenty of men that harbor grudges.
Memorable moments, absolutely. The specific emotion tied to that memory may have subdued, but I still remember what happened.
Nope.
Depends on the prompt/question being asked about said memory. If someone asks a specific question, I can generally give very specific details.
Not partnered, so not currently a concern of mine. When I was partnered, I never had trouble remembering the things they liked, because I liked/loved them, and what they liked was important to me.
Nothing; remembering the big (and small) things my previous partners liked wasn't a huge undertaking for me. Those facts were always kinda tucked in the back of my head, and when an opportunity presented itself to surprise them with something they mentioned they enjoyed, I generally did it for them.
Not to mention entire cultures and nations.
This. Is. Hysterical.
I would love to read this article.
Always keep them in the same place and you will never lose them.Unfortunately that doesn't help with my keys. I mislay those things a dozen times a day.
Well aren't you fancy.Always keep them in the same place and you will never lose them.
I’ve spent zero seconds of my life looking for my keys.
I actually do remember that.Well aren't you fancy.
My reading glasses are worse.
And my phone.
I swear those things have legs.
(Also, you probably don't remember, but we've had this conversation before.
