cymbidia
unrepentant pervert
- Joined
- Mar 8, 2001
- Posts
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With regard to online/long-distance relationships, i never said or intimated or suggested or implied or stated or declared or whispered or hinted that i feel that online relationships are pretend and/or stupid and/or without value. I have always been careful to accord long distance and/or online relationships, especially those that are BDSM in nature, my respect. As it turns out, and not that it's any of your business but just to prove my point about my feelings toward them, i'm in a long-distance relationship. In a couple weeks, for the first time, i'll go visit him in his home in Colorado from my home in the San Francisco Bay area.
Online and/or long distance relationships are not the same as most online chat room mentality relationships. The latter are often a species of sexual fantasy play, at best, and are very commonly emotionally injurious to those who come to believe in the fantasy.
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I was deliberately unkind to dream because she represents everything i despise about chat room mentality BDSMer's and their brand of "BDSM Lite".
I apologize to her for the original dig.
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I have to ask people i don't even know to stop using my nick in posts as if i'm hoisting some kind of a battle flag. I'm not. My feelings on chat room type BDSM relationships and the fantasy players who carry it into places it does not fit are my own. Leave me out of any of your unkind posts. I can make my own, should i choose to do that.
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An untidy little drama has occupied center stage for long enough. That kind of fighting and caterwauling is not what this forum is about - and we've never been about such nastiness of attitude before, either.
Stop posting to the trouble threads, please.
Ignore them and they will sink into oblivion.
Post to them and they stay on top - and no one wants that, right?
What we do in this forum, what we've always done, is discuss issues that relate to BDSM in the real world. Some of us have not taken our information to a skin-to-skin relationship yet but feel they will in time. Some of us may never go into a daily-life relationship, and there are many and varied reasons for that decision, too. Still, all who have a sincere interest in a real time BDSM relationship have been welcome in this place since the time of the first post on the Mother Thread - a post i made.
Let me restate this point: All are welcome here even if they simply want to ask us questions knowing they'll never be a lifestyler. Anyone who want to fit in here among us will find the short journey is easy and pleasant, for the most part. It's considerably more difficult if, instead, you expect us to fit you.
So it has been.
So it will continue to be, regardless of any petty bumps in the harmony along the way.
Online and/or long distance relationships are not the same as most online chat room mentality relationships. The latter are often a species of sexual fantasy play, at best, and are very commonly emotionally injurious to those who come to believe in the fantasy.
~~~~~~~~~~~~
I was deliberately unkind to dream because she represents everything i despise about chat room mentality BDSMer's and their brand of "BDSM Lite".
I apologize to her for the original dig.
~~~~~~~~~~~~
I have to ask people i don't even know to stop using my nick in posts as if i'm hoisting some kind of a battle flag. I'm not. My feelings on chat room type BDSM relationships and the fantasy players who carry it into places it does not fit are my own. Leave me out of any of your unkind posts. I can make my own, should i choose to do that.
~~~~~~~~~~~~
An untidy little drama has occupied center stage for long enough. That kind of fighting and caterwauling is not what this forum is about - and we've never been about such nastiness of attitude before, either.
Stop posting to the trouble threads, please.
Ignore them and they will sink into oblivion.
Post to them and they stay on top - and no one wants that, right?
What we do in this forum, what we've always done, is discuss issues that relate to BDSM in the real world. Some of us have not taken our information to a skin-to-skin relationship yet but feel they will in time. Some of us may never go into a daily-life relationship, and there are many and varied reasons for that decision, too. Still, all who have a sincere interest in a real time BDSM relationship have been welcome in this place since the time of the first post on the Mother Thread - a post i made.
Let me restate this point: All are welcome here even if they simply want to ask us questions knowing they'll never be a lifestyler. Anyone who want to fit in here among us will find the short journey is easy and pleasant, for the most part. It's considerably more difficult if, instead, you expect us to fit you.
So it has been.
So it will continue to be, regardless of any petty bumps in the harmony along the way.
