Cindy Gallop, MILF, talks about rehabilitating young men...

[Stella_Omega]

who have learned about sex via internet porn;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc

I think some of us -- both men and women-- will have suggestions for her website.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Shouldn't wonder. Personally I learned at the university, retarded ursine that I am.

 

[bronzeage]

It's probably a good idea. When a person learned about sex from internet porn, it shows in their writing.

I assume it shows in their performance as well.

 

[sr71plt]

Shouldn't wonder. Personally I learned at the university, retarded ursine that I am.

Got you beat. I had to move to Thailand in my twenties to make the discovery.

 

[voluptuary_manque]

Well, actually I was taken out and taught.

 

[Liar]

Yannow, I'd say Internet porn, with it's cornucopia of easily available fuckin' of the amateur variety, is way more realistic than the old, all commercially manufactured "pornstar" porn. It's not as if kids didn't get a skewed perception of sex from porn before the Internet.

 

[JamesSD]

Meh.

To me the trouble seems to more be a result of young men not being willing to ask before doing, and young women being unwilling to talk about sex with their partners. Ejaculating on a woman's face without permission is just rude. Negotiating doesn't have to be unsexy:

"I'm going to come... where do you want it?"

"Anywhere you want."

"On your face?"

"Come on my face!" or "How about you cum on my tits/in my mouth" if the woman didn't actually mean "anywhere".

While I found her entertaining, I'm actually curious for the "he said" side of the younger men she sleeps with. I imagine most are shy, quiet, bookish guys who are happy just to get laid. But that's just me guessing.

She has a certain point that what makes for good visual porn doesn't necessarily make for good real life sex. Anyone who has made their own sex tape knows that most sexual positions aren't that visually interesting and most sex acts are fairly repetitive and dull if you're not actually the one doing them. It's actually a serious challenge to make good, interesting, and yet realistic porn. I've seen videos that featured real couples making love that went for a more documentary feel, and while they can be fun to watch, they're less likely to inspire feelings of raw lust as commercial stuff can. Then again I have seen some great amateur stuff, so maybe I'm talking out of my ass?

 

[al1ce5]

Porn is porn. It's performance meant to arouse.
It is not real sex.
Unfortunately, the female porn star, much like the Fashion Model, has become an unattainable gold standard for male attraction, or so we've been led to believe.

Therefore, you do have women (not all young, either - there are older women with vestiges of the effects of this phenomenon as well) who believe that in order to be sexy/desirable (like the women guys fap to in the videos), they must emulate them, including having huge breasts, immaculately waxed pussies and bodies, be blonde and thin, and be willing to engage in activities that in no way reflect their own needs, desires, or preferences.

it's sad, really.