choosing clothing/underwear

every_mothers_lover

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i am interested in finding out how/what type of clothing/underwear do you allow your sub/slave or your master/dom allows you to wear.

as well as advice/info on the subject
 
my Master doesnt pick my clothes or underwear except for two general occasions: picking him up at the airport and when I fly to him. Then I have the rule of no underwear, a skirt, preferrably one that falls above the knees and thigh high stockings.

If he did, I would follow his commands, he just chooses not to micromanage that part of my day
 
At home I'm allowed to wear short skirts and no panties. Going out I'm allowed to wear short skirts and no panties. However, now that it's cold I do get permission to wear jeans when going out and with those I wear cute panties that he bought me.

I also wear panties to the gym and most of the time when I attend classes. Unless I'm feeling naughty. ;)
 
A doesnt order me to wear one style over the other but i know he prefers panties to thongs. becuase of this i try to wear panties around him.

for a several month period i took a picture of every outfit i wore that day and sent it to him at the end of the day. becuase of that he knows pretty much everything in my wardrobe and can pick out my clothes if he wants to, but has yet to do so.
 
(Realizes she actually has no panties on right this minute, lol)

I have been told to go buy a specific pair (I was going to be used at a club by my PYL at the time)

But I pick my own clothes...

I do plan my panties and bras to match and sometimes even go all out for a "playdate"

If I am feeling particularly like a pornstar then I will wear the stockings, corset, panties, and spiked heels...

but all of this is to make him give me that look of approval, because it shows I was planning, it shows forethought...

I use the planning and execution as a way of seeking approval,
 
I patently despise that sort of micromanagement. Drives me to distraction. She is not to wear panties, barring 'that' time of the month, and, I have veto over anything she wears. When we go to a given event, we will discuss clothing, but no more than any couple is likely to.

Eeeeevry once in a while I will give her some clothing command out of pure whimsy. 'Wear something red tomorrow', that sort of thing. And if I need an outfit for a scene, I have no problems ordering that.

Daily outfits? Ugh.
 
Eeeeevry once in a while I will give her some clothing command out of pure whimsy. 'Wear something red tomorrow', that sort of thing. And if I need an outfit for a scene, I have no problems ordering that.

Daily outfits? Ugh.

A feels the same way. he can if he wants to, but very very rarely controls what i wear. if he decided that i was to wear a blue shirt and a pair of jeans tomorrow, i would of course, but id be shocked as its out of character for him.
 
i would adore it if Tender chose my outfits, because it would make me feel as if He was seeing me as the most beautiful i could be for Him. Maybe that's just how i look at it.
 
I wouldn't be able to have a relationship/submit to anyone who wanted to chose what I wear. I like dressing myself too much and (I know this sounds superficial) but how I look and dress is too much a part of who I am. An occasional thing would be fine, but everyday? I wouldn't be happy with that.
 
I love picking out the color panties my little girl wears everyday.

It's funny, too, she has picked out what panties to wear on her own a thousand times before me and now she hates doing it on her own.

I don't usually pick out her other clothes unless I have something dirty in mind for her that day. :devil:
 
my Master doesnt pick my clothes or underwear except for two general occasions: picking him up at the airport and when I fly to him. Then I have the rule of no underwear, a skirt, preferrably one that falls above the knees and thigh high stockings.

If he did, I would follow his commands, he just chooses not to micromanage that part of my day

I know I'm not supposed to quote myself ..but...

for a while now.. Master's been picking out my clothes (I sent him pictures of what I have) the night before and then I send him a picture of me at work.. sometimes he forgets... but I still always am expected to send the picture..
 
I wouldn't be able to have a relationship/submit to anyone who wanted to chose what I wear. I like dressing myself too much and (I know this sounds superficial) but how I look and dress is too much a part of who I am. An occasional thing would be fine, but everyday? I wouldn't be happy with that.

Yeah, that level of detail doesn't work for me either. It sounded cool in theory, but then in reality it's like, um, chain mail bra? Eek.
 
I've never had anyone micromanage my panties or clothing, but that doesn't mean I don't notice preferences as they emerge. I mean, I know what clothing pleases.

I've seldom been told not to wear panties, mostly because if they need to come off for some [kinky] reason, it's an easy command, and the command puts me in that head space quick. That, and there is sometimes the embarrassment of having to take them off in strange places.

Now I have lived with a standing order of "skirts/dresses only" [unless the activity I'm going to do can't be done in a skirt], but I can pick the skirt. But again, I learned what outfits were pleasing and which *weren't*. I didn't/don't need to be told--I pay attention. LOL

Sometimes there is a request for some outfit or color, but it has never been a regular thing. I'm not sure if I'd care if it were more micromanaged. I never thought about it one way or the other.

I do have a preference for matching panties & bras, and then matching in some way to my outfit. I could understand a Dom ordering me to be mis-matched, just to take me off balance. But that's not really "dressing me" that's messing with my head space. LOL :cattail:
 
Not much into clothing, the girlfriend would actually pick out a lot of my stuff, if she didn’t I would, well I would look like I do not, and uncoordinated mess.

I do recall telling her to wear skirts, but she was too embarrassed and got 1, that was before we got into any conscious D/s.
 
I've only been instructed how to dress twice. The first time was garter and stockings (and shaved for the first time.) The other was to answer the door wearing nothing at all.
 
I've never had anyone micromanage my panties or clothing, but that doesn't mean I don't notice preferences as they emerge. I mean, I know what clothing pleases.

There is some quiet, and important, hotness here.

The pinnacle of service, at least for me, is Anticipatory Service. If a submissive can divine my needs and fulfill them before I even express them, that is perfect service in my eyes.

In this case, Caitlynne talks about learning the preferences of her PYL and modifying her dress accordingly. Anticipatory Service, rawr.
 
Unless we are going somewhere special, I choose my own clothes. In bed I wear a nightshirt or one of His T shirts and no panties unless I am menstruating.

Having Him choose my clothing every day would very quickly turn into a pain for both Him and me - we're not into that much control and there are much more pressing concerns to worry about rather than whether I'm wearing undies or not! :rolleyes:
 
Daddy likes surprises, and really hates to micromanage. Plus, I'm much better at fashion than he is. ;) Sometimes he has me pick out something for him to wear when we're going out. LOL
 
This is an area in which he chooses not to exert much control. He has some very general preferences that I cater to but there is nothing terribly specific. That sort of micromanagement would annoy me to death.
 
Anticipatory Service

There is some quiet, and important, hotness here.

The pinnacle of service, at least for me, is Anticipatory Service. If a submissive can divine my needs and fulfill them before I even express them, that is perfect service in my eyes.

In this case, Caitlynne talks about learning the preferences of her PYL and modifying her dress accordingly. Anticipatory Service, rawr.


This would be my view on things. In every aspect of life to some degree. Try & figure out what it is you think the other person would like and make all their dreams come true. Don't micromanage me. If you can't handle me without trying to control every little thing about me then you're never going to handle me ever. And I am a handful. :catgrin:
 
I personally don't think it is micromanaging.

It is just the exercising of my power and control as the Dominant in the relationship.

Plus the added bonus of her thinking about me when she gets dressed first thing in the morning and throughout the day when she sees the undies I picked out for her.
 
We do not have any daily dress codes. When we do go out on the weekends I may sometimes make her dress in a skimpy little outfit like some kind of short top and miniskirt so its easy to make out with her.
If we are at home, I prefer for her to stay naked or at least topless.
 
The only rule my Master has for me is no panties and i never wear them now as far as the rest goes, i get to choose what i want to wear most of the time but on occasions Master will decide :)
 
Hmm. I didn't see any guys posting here. I am required to wear silk boxers all the time. On occassions when my Goddess is feeling playful or even as a punishment, I am required to wear panties. Other than that I dress as I please.

On the flip side, she knows that I love to see her in sexy panties. She used to wear plain old "granny" panties most of the time. As she discovered how much I love to see her in sexy panties, she told me to buy her some. I had to stick with the rules that they most be comfortable and no thongs. I buy all her panties now and she loves to wear them for me. She'll even wear a thong on occasions.
 
There is some quiet, and important, hotness here.

The pinnacle of service, at least for me, is Anticipatory Service. If a submissive can divine my needs and fulfill them before I even express them, that is perfect service in my eyes.

In this case, Caitlynne talks about learning the preferences of her PYL and modifying her dress accordingly. Anticipatory Service, rawr.

This is me too. Master actually prefers me simply dressed and without makeup most of the time. I've never been the kind of girl to wear skirts... ever, and he loves me for who I am. He has no desire to make me his personal barbie doll.

I wear what pleases. If we're going out for a nice meal or something i'll ut on a skirt or dress and heels and some makeup. If I did that everyday though, it would cease to make those times special and date-like.

If he wants me in a corset, stockings and suspenders, all he has to do is say so. He also enjoys setting me time limits for getting into complicated lingerie, so I'm all flustered and wild looking by the time I have it on.
 
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