Children of Gay Parents?

[alexandraaah]

My dad is gay.

Anyone else out there?

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[SweetCherry]

My parents aren't gay, but I'm kind off curious, Draaah. At what age did you become aware of your dad's sexuality and how did it affect you?

 

[alexandraaah]

My parents aren't gay, but I'm kind off curious, Draaah. At what age did you become aware of your dad's sexuality and how did it affect you?

I found out when I was nineteen; my mother knew before they got married. I think I always knew something was up with their marriage, aside from a lot of issues that had nothing to do with my father's sexuality, y'know?

I was always snooping as a kid, always curious, but not in just an average way.

They had separated a couple times and when they finally did decide to get a divorce, my dad was still in the house and they got along a little too well. They finally decided to tell me that there was, "Something about the divorce we have to tell you."

I looked at my dad and asked, "Are you gay?"

He laughed a little and my mom said, "Bisexual, but...yes."

Anyhow, at that very moment, I shrugged my shoulders and went to Denny's or something, to smoke cigarettes and talk to a friend. But that was what I always did.

Over time (I'm 32), I actually processed the notion and realized a lot of things.

One of the more important lessons, was that my father's sexuality was only a piece of a very complicated puzzle of my family and its dynamics. Why my mother made the decision to marry him, why my father decided to marry my mother, etc.

Sexuality is alternately a huge part of one's life and a miniscule part of one's life. It doesn't define us, yet it shifts the definition of who we are.

Eh, there's more but it's not stuff I've thought about in a long time. My father's sexuality just doesn't affect me as it once did when I was younger and just learning of it.

The long of the long is that it, in my experience, was more about a big family secret than gay or straight. But that's just me. I have a couple acquaintances who grew up with their parents being out and they have a very different story to tell.

Well, my father was out, in many ways, just not to us. I think nowadays things might be quite different for my family.

 

[Queersetti]

I 'draaah.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[aly*]

my mom is into men and women, but it's a secret. a secret she doesn't hde very well.

 

[LustiRusti]

my mom is into men and women, but it's a secret. a secret she doesn't hde very well.

LOL I just had to say that I thought your comment was cute.


~Kenzie

 

[Gil_Favor]

Sexuality is alternately a huge part of one's life and a miniscule part of one's life. It doesn't define us, yet it shifts the definition of who we are.

Nice post..................