Child Support and the Law

[bored1]

In California and I suspect some other states if a man is claimed to be the father on a birth certificate he is obligated to pay support. DNA testing has proven, that many of these men, who the women have claimed to father their children are not the father. Yet they still have to pay support. This is wrong. Why should a man have to pay for a child that is not biologically his?Legislation has been introduced to remedy the situation, but child advocates are going to fight any change, with the argument that its punishing the child. Seems to me its the man who is being punished.

 

[hatara]

In NJ if the couple is married the husband is assumed to be the father legally. If they are not married in order for the mother to name the father he must sign the birth certificate at the hospital.

No signature, no name. Then the mother would have to take him to court to prove paternity. That seemed like a fair and just method to me. Letting a woman or in many cases a young girl just put down whoever they want is not right.

 

[Summery]

Here in Oregon, you can put your child's name down as anything you want on the birth certificate (example of giving the child the fathers last name) But, you can't put just anyone down as the father on the birth certificate. Well, you can, but the person has to agree to it first.
I had to prove paternity. Then I got my court order of child support. And, mind you this all took place in California as that is where my sons father lives.
I've learned a lot over the last few years, and I tell you there's a lot of injustice on both sides of this subject!

 

[bored1]

The case in California is about a man who is paying 1500.00 a month for a child that is not his! DNA testing has proven the child is not his. He is married with children of his own. The state says he owes 100000.00 in back support! I agree that there is injustice on both sides,But if DNA is conclusive enough to free people from jail then the same standard should be applied in these cases.

 

[Summery]

And, I agree with you the total injustice of that case! Yes, the same standard should be applied with DNA in these cases. It only pisses me off worse that we go after someone for support that isn't entitled to pay. Yet, in my situation, the state of California isn't doing a damn thing about my ex being almost $10,000 behind in child support and he has been proven to be the father of our child.

 

[JazzManJim]

Sweetness, did you look into some of the options I had mentioned a while back? One or two of them can work the occasional miracle.

 

[bored1]

And, I agree with you the total injustice of that case! Yes, the same standard should be applied with DNA in these cases. It only pisses me off worse that we go after someone for support that isn't entitled to pay. Yet, in my situation, the state of California isn't doing a damn thing about my ex being almost $10,000 behind in child support and he has been proven to be the father of our child.

I know quite a few women in your situation, I agree its not right. I pay my support regularly as my kids are my responsibility. I dont understand men who do not pay.

 

[Summery]

Sweetness, did you look into some of the options I had mentioned a while back? One or two of them can work the occasional miracle.

Well, yes and no. I am actually dealing directly with the DA now in California, and for the first time in a year, it looks promising. If this route doesn't work, then I am going to the next stage. I'm not one to sit back and just except this injustice. Everybody involved will know my name when I am done!

Bored1: I respect any parent that takes responsibility for their children.
Speaking of which, I know what a wonderful dad you are Jim.

 

[JazzManJim]

Well, yes and no. I am actually dealing directly with the DA now in California, and for the first time in a year, it looks promising. If this route doesn't work, then I am going to the next stage. I'm not one to sit back and just except this injustice. Everybody involved will know my name when I am done!

Bored1: I respect any parent that takes responsibility for their children.
Speaking of which, I know what a wonderful dad you are Jim.

Well, the point is that yuo're talking to the people who get things done, as opposed to the functionaries who have to ask permission to get things done. You're dealing with the people in charge. You're where the action happens.

Let me know if there's anything at all I can do. I"m willing to lend any assistance I possibly can.

And thank you, very much. That means a lot to me.