Cheating on your other half

[bluntforcemama]

Cheating... I wonder how many people cheat successfully? Any comments? I think this goes on more than I think it does... what are the telltale signs?

 

[Xander]

I think you're right Myst

However I cant tell you what signs to look for. Since I never knows before the woman tells herslef, and fucks me over.

Seems to have happend a lot......Getting slightly tired of it.

 

[Mistress]

I have always thought of cheating as actually sleeping or kissing the other person..... that I have never...err..nm
Dating one guy, me and his best friend slept in the bed next to his in the hotel, best friend was a old boyfriend..ok..so I did that one time!

But people have different ideas of cheating..do you consider words typed as cheating, or hearing the voice on the phone as cheating? Just curious to what everyone thinks.

 

[bluntforcemama]

So Mistress, you never felt guilty? I wonder how people can cope with the guilt.

 

[Xander]

My two cents

So Mistress, you never felt guilty? I wonder how people can cope with the guilt.

They turn numb

 

[Mistress]

Yeah I did feel guilty, but umm the night before I was playing around with both of them! lol
The guy I was dating knew I still loved his best friend, I dont know if he ever found out.
But yeah I feel guilty about things I do all the time, my problem is, I can't control my emotions and end up doing things anyways!
When I was younger, I could never say no, even if I was screaming it in my mind. That got me into alot of trouble, and got me into alot of things that left mental scars as well as physical. I'm not that bad any more, but, some times things just happen....

 

[*bratcat*]

mm...Xanderbrat?

 

[Xander]

LOL@Bratcat...yeah yeah yeah baby. All words, no action.

However personal defination of cheating.
Well to me cheating is: Sleeping with other people other than your S.O.
Meeting behind S.O.'s back, and keeping spouse in the dark about it.
All that cloak and dagger stuff. Personally I hate it. I'm not saying that I am clean as driven snow. Because I am not. I have done so myself, and hated my guts for it.

Result, was a break in a relationship, which, at the time was the best thing that had happend to me.

Since then, well. I have always been the one being cheated on. And never once since then, I swear on my own blood, have I cheated on anyone.

 

[brazenblaze]

I would have to agree with *bratcat*....it all depends on how you define cheating. For me and mine...it is lying and sneaking.

I don't consider any thing cheating that has been shared with my husband.
He knows about my time online and condones it....so no cheating.

If I were to kiss someone...if I told him and talked about it...no cheating.

If I found someone else that I was interested in sexually...we would talk about it...come to an understanding...and again no cheating.

It is when you sneak around behind someone's back, tell them lies about your feelings or actions and completely disregard the trust they have placed in you ....well that IS cheating. IMHO.

I agree that cheating is something that is becoming more and more prevelant in our society. I have MANY friends whose SO have NO idea what they do online and would be seriously hurt by it. THAT IS CHEATING.

 

[willywanker]

Have you ever moved you line in the sand?

I agree that cheating gets defined many different way. But have you, on your own, ever changed that standard?

I will admit I have. I have never physically cheated on my wife. But I have enjoyed on-line and phone line relationships that became hurdles to be overcome in our relationship. She never found out but I did find myself investing time in those relationships that could have been invested in ours.

Did I cheat? yeah, probably. Would I do it again? Yeah, probably. Will I ever cross the new line I drew in the sand when I crossed the last two? I'm not sure.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Some of us are sociopaths and aren't burdened by little things like guilt and conscience. Cheating becomes an academic issue, not an emotional one. Will I get caught? Is it worth getting caught? There is no how will anyone feel about the whole bit, unless it's actively sought out and considered.

 

[kid cash]

i dont cheat.

i love my girlfreind to much to do that to her.

[Edited by kid cash on 03-17-2001 at 02:33 PM]

 

[Xander]

In other words

Dont do anything you're not willing to pay the price for.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

What about people who masurbate???

Is it cheating if yo are normally right handed and you use your left hand, for a change???

blue

 

[crystalhunting]

That isnt something I would do...its not right and frankly I dont care for the consequences of that action,but I'm an open minded guy..so if my lover/partner feels a need to do it...and is willing to discuss it with me honestly..I am allways willing to compromise.

 

[Teaser]

Hmm...cheating is how YOU define it.

And your partner should be aware of what you consider cheating..be it flirting, or out and out sleeping with a another, cybering with another, phone sex with another.

It's when you both don't understand what your expectations from your relationship is.

Just my humble opinion.