Cheating Experiences

[old501levis]

hi all. Working on a story. I'd like to talk to a married woman 30-60 who has cheated about the first time. I'm writing dialog about how she feels about it and want it to be realistic.

 

[loquere]

hi all. Working on a story. I'd like to talk to a married woman 30-60 who has cheated about the first time. I'm writing dialog about how she feels about it and want it to be realistic.

Try posting this inquiry in the authors forum.

 

[TexasNewbies]

Hello, yes, please feel free to reach out.

 

[LupusDei]

Try posting this inquiry in the authors forum.

Better yet in Fetish & Sexuality central.
If anything, you would like hear from hotwife couples there.

 

[wickedpen]

I guess there are as many stories as there are people and situations. I can't imagine there is that much in common other than the betrayal and guilt she may feel after. But if she was pushed to go as far as actually cheating, she may not care as much.

There is a big difference between a story about a stranger in a hotel bar on a business trip you will never see again and perhaps a woman with her brother in law who lives nearby with his wife and kids.

I find real life situations are hotter and easier to imagine people's reactions.

Good luck!

 

[old501levis]

I guess there are as many stories as there are people and situations. I can't imagine there is that much in common other than the betrayal and guilt she may feel after. But if she was pushed to go as far as actually cheating, she may not care as much.

There is a big difference between a story about a stranger in a hotel bar on a business trip you will never see again and perhaps a woman with her brother in law who lives nearby with his wife and kids.

I find real life situations are hotter and easier to imagine people's reactions.

Good luck!

Thanks! I agree about real life situations. This one is about two coworkers.

 

[wickedpen]

Are they both married?
Is it love or is it purely physical? Attraction or selfish need?

 

[BuckyDuckman]

hi all. Working on a story. I'd like to talk to a married woman 30-60 who has cheated about the first time. I'm writing dialog about how she feels about it and want it to be realistic.

Spoiler: Chances are, she didn't feel about it the same way you want her to feel about it.

 

[davion2308]

I can say

I'm on the other end, being the husband of a wife who doesn't care about sex. I have an ongoing affair with a woman who's married.

The dialogue between the two of us is very much what you'd expect from people first dating. We're in our late 30s, we've both been married for over 10 years, and we had an emotionally supportive relationship that progressed into a physical relationship. It wasn't predicated on sex at all, at first, but as the friendship and the emotional/social connection grew stronger it ended up being physical.

Short version: She felt unloved, unappreciated, and bossed around by her husband. I encouraged her, supported her with her career goals, and provided positive reinforcement with validation. That led to her having success. It became physical from there.

If you were to ask her, she'd say she was okay with it because she didn't have fulfillment from her husband and I was able to provide it for her. She doesn't feel bad because the way she felt she was treated and she was only satisfying her own needs when her husband didn't.

Making it realistic is tough, especially if you haven't been there. I'd recommend simply not making it purely physical. Most married women over 30 aren't just jumping some hot young muscular stud. They're having affairs because of the emotional element of their relationship. Make it about that and you'll have more success.

 

[wickedpen]

In a sexless marriage I imagine an affair as a purely physical experience and would not want an emotional connection, but I am a bit strange I guess. I also have never had an affair so my "pool boy" fantasy is far from what it sounds like you have with your coworker.

 

[Cfnmlover84]

Try posting this inquiry in the authors forum.

He's not likely to get any help there, They tend to not react well to questions like this.

 

[Enchantment_of_Nyx]

He's not likely to get any help there, They tend to not react well to questions like this.

I don't think anyone should let a few grouches deter them. I think most people on that forum are pretty nice. Just ignore the bossy ones. Doesn't every forum have some curmudgeons who think they have some sort of squatter's rights over the forum?

 

[Cfnmlover84]

I don't think anyone should let a few grouches deter them. I think most people on that forum are pretty nice. Just ignore the bossy ones. Doesn't every forum have some curmudgeons who think they have some sort of squatter's rights over the forum?

Yes most of the people there are nice but there's also a few who just hurl insults instead of offering any helpful advice.

And yes every forum has people like this. It's way worse on reddit.

 

[old501levis]

Are they both married?
Is it love or is it purely physical? Attraction or selfish need?

Thanks for the response! coworkers who have gotten to know each other a bit. end up on a business trip together.... things spiral into the physical with some emotions thrown in for good measure. Kind of like living out a fantasy with segues back into reality if that makes any sense at all.