Cheaters? Does the Computer count?

[onthedf]

Married, but unhappy? Would you like someone to think of while your going through the motions w/ your hubby? Cyber, Phone, photos, or whatever your fancy. Long distance, or short it doesn't matter. I am fed up with my sexlife. I can't make it physical but mentally I want to cum w/ you.....

 

[Indulgence]

Only if the computer is "turned on'. Humor, nothing more. Good luck in things.

 

[Nero-1]

that is something determined by your relationship...some women believe just having thoughts about doing something to someone other than your wife is cheating.

Others think that meeting someone and forming a relationship online is as bad as having a physical relationship with someone.

Some women don't care as long as everything is out in the open. Sneaking around behind her back makes it cheating.

I wouldn't mind if my SO had an online relationship as long as she didn't hide it from me.

 

[bcplaygirl]

The think about online relationships that bugs me is that to me, it's more of a meeting of minds, getting to know eachothers true feelings and what really makes other people tick which sometimes can be much more intimate even that physically meeting and getting it on in person.

I think people all have their own definition of what they consider cheating but I think I have an almost surefire way to figure out whether you really are or not. To me if you're doing ANYTHING you can not share or choose to keep hidden from your SO, you're cheating....

but again, that's just my two cents

 

[RoyalPalm]

I don't think of it as cheating. Fantasy is fine in any relationship, especially if you don't get what you need in yours, sexually. I don't

 

[bcplaygirl]

I have to agree with you too Palm. I am pretty upfront with my hubby about what I do while he's away though. He might not always get all the dirty details but he has the gist of what's going on, otherwise he'd be hurt, just as I would be if he were hiding anything from me.

 

[RoyalPalm]

i don't tell her what i do here, and i realize that is what many consider to be cheating, but i'm ok with pms and phone, because i will never act on anything physically.

 

[bcplaygirl]

I don't really tell him what I do here, however he knows I've been coming to Lit for years and understands what the site is all about.

 

[RoyalPalm]

she thinks i look at the pics lol like a big playboy mag haha

 

[bcplaygirl]

haha he thinks I read stories and comment on them here

 

[RoyalPalm]

thats too funny. wanna pm me?

 

[bcplaygirl]

hehe

no

 

[bcplaygirl]

but we can chat plenty on the board

 

[vr2020]

but we can chat plenty on the board

Damn BC, the new AV is very nice!

 

[bcplaygirl]

thanks vr, thought I'd change it up and keep things interesting.

Got a few more up my sleeve too so stay tuned

 

[vr2020]

thanks vr, thought I'd change it up and keep things interesting.

Got a few more up my sleeve too so stay tuned

Mmmmm mmmmm mmmm, I can't wait

 

[Eilan]

What constitutes cheating will vary from couple to couple. That's why, as I said in another thread, it's important to discuss this early in the relationship.

IMO, if someone considers chatting, cybering, erotic emails/pic exchanges cheating, then it's cheating. Some people don't have an issue with this, but others do, and people who are online doing things that they know their partner would disapprove of or be hurt by are cheating.

My hubby and I don't have a problem with cybering, camming, etc, even though we don't do it and aren't interested in doing it. We don't hide where we've been online. Hell, my hubby's a Lit member, too! Other couples, however, aren't as open about things like that, and that's their prerogative.

I think it's been mentioned in this thread already (bcplaygirl, maybe?), but sometimes emotional affairs are more devastating than physical ones.

 

[datalife]

the only way is if you play with your HARD DRIVE to long, then maybe.