I understand that the ratio of men to women on here is like 50:1, lol! And most men make asses of themselves and many get blocked. Literotica is very different than other sexual sites, focusing on the intellect rather than stimulus. The bulletin boards are a showplace for verbal expression, lol!! But even at 50:1, and with way over 10,000 members worldwide, there is still a huge number of females on here that enjoy an intelligent conversation or even an exciting conversation. Being behind a computer offers a degree of anonymity that favors conversation, no pressure, no fear, no worries, and for some no guilt. I have read so many threads started by men wanting to chat with a female. Now, yes, all they want to do is talk and get off, i understand that but surely it is just not that only? Please tell me girls, is that all they do? They offer nothing for you all? Is that why women are somewhat reluctant to chat because they have been blasted with one sided conversations and just when you all are starting to get into it, he thanks you, says he has cummed all over himself, and signs off? As a gentleman, i am having a hard time accepting that. Women on here are among the most intelligent in the world! And intelligence is sexy! Are men not living up to the standards on here??
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Just my experience
I understand that for a lot of men there is a need for the physical as they're either not getting the type of sex they like, its not frequent enough or they're not getting any at all.
But what I'm having to explain alot is that 'getting off' no longer fills my void and I enjoy ACTUAL conversation more, but even the nice men I've encountered only use chit chat as a way to get off later on because women have to be on the defensive so they work on bringing them down. I know what they're upto but sometimes I just allow myself to be used. And I'm not annoyed anymore im just numb to it.
The connections I have enjoyed from back a day have ended and I've been on and off lit for years, end of the day I do have urges too but I don't seek men out to fulfil them.
Guess I just want to be left alone. But some don't understand this or think they can do something different from the other men. There are some genuinely nice men here but I don't want to invest myself anymore, ultimately its not worth it to me.
I understand that for a lot of men there is a need for the physical as they're either not getting the type of sex they like, its not frequent enough or they're not getting any at all.
But what I'm having to explain alot is that 'getting off' no longer fills my void and I enjoy ACTUAL conversation more, but even the nice men I've encountered only use chit chat as a way to get off later on because women have to be on the defensive so they work on bringing them down. I know what they're upto but sometimes I just allow myself to be used. And I'm not annoyed anymore im just numb to it.
The connections I have enjoyed from back a day have ended and I've been on and off lit for years, end of the day I do have urges too but I don't seek men out to fulfil them.
Guess I just want to be left alone. But some don't understand this or think they can do something different from the other men. There are some genuinely nice men here but I don't want to invest myself anymore, ultimately its not worth it to me.
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I have no clue of the percentages or ratios here. I do know that most of the people I've chatted with here have been very nice. As for the guys... Some do what refer to as a drive by. They just want to get off and then they go I don't know where, never to be heard of again.
Some just want to chat. Chat may or may not involve sexual talk or flirting.
Sometimes thing progress further. We might chat more frequently, We might chat for longer periods of time or with more frequency. Sex may or may not be involved.
Some are actually looking for some kind of relationship. What that is specifically, I don't always know,
I can say though that I used to run a chat room. This was back before instant messaging. I think ICQ came out a few months after I opened the chat room. I( know a lot of cyber sex went on in there. Mostly via PMs but sometimes publicly.
Some just want to chat. Chat may or may not involve sexual talk or flirting.
Sometimes thing progress further. We might chat more frequently, We might chat for longer periods of time or with more frequency. Sex may or may not be involved.
Some are actually looking for some kind of relationship. What that is specifically, I don't always know,
I can say though that I used to run a chat room. This was back before instant messaging. I think ICQ came out a few months after I opened the chat room. I( know a lot of cyber sex went on in there. Mostly via PMs but sometimes publicly.
For me it's not that men aren't living up to the standard's it's finding someone who's wants/needs match your own.
When I first started coming to the forums I was bombarded by those men who just wanted you to cam and get off. They didn't want real conversation just mutual orgasms. If that's your want/need I see nothing wrong with that. Im not the girl you need to be talking to for that because it's not what I want.
I have had my fair share of experience's with the liars and manipulators. Those men who say what they think you want to hear or constantly push you toward what they want to accomplish their end game. The ones who will give you conversation until you start gradually talking about sex. After you cross over into talking about sex all other forms of conversation are done. He has you right where he wanted you all along.
The occasional "Far left field kink". Those people whose kinks are so far outside of your own that you sit back and wonder if this is seriously a thing. I have learned some crazy stuff since coming to Lit.
The "sad sobs". The ones that are convinced no one will want them or love them. The conversation is there but is either one sided or forced.
It's not always the women whose "standards" prevent a connection. The men do it too. I have had it happen on occasion where I'm not what they are looking for. I have been told No. I've been ghosted when I didn't even realize things were not mutually enjoyable because someone better came along. I've even been used a time or two.
Here just like in real life most people are stumbling around trying to find someone if not multiple someone's to fill a gap in their life.
When I first started coming to the forums I was bombarded by those men who just wanted you to cam and get off. They didn't want real conversation just mutual orgasms. If that's your want/need I see nothing wrong with that. Im not the girl you need to be talking to for that because it's not what I want.
I have had my fair share of experience's with the liars and manipulators. Those men who say what they think you want to hear or constantly push you toward what they want to accomplish their end game. The ones who will give you conversation until you start gradually talking about sex. After you cross over into talking about sex all other forms of conversation are done. He has you right where he wanted you all along.
The occasional "Far left field kink". Those people whose kinks are so far outside of your own that you sit back and wonder if this is seriously a thing. I have learned some crazy stuff since coming to Lit.
The "sad sobs". The ones that are convinced no one will want them or love them. The conversation is there but is either one sided or forced.
It's not always the women whose "standards" prevent a connection. The men do it too. I have had it happen on occasion where I'm not what they are looking for. I have been told No. I've been ghosted when I didn't even realize things were not mutually enjoyable because someone better came along. I've even been used a time or two.
Here just like in real life most people are stumbling around trying to find someone if not multiple someone's to fill a gap in their life.
