Chat Question for Ladies

[chattinguy01]

OK Ladies, I have a question. I know that there have always been 10 guys for every 1 lady that wants to chat, but now it seems like that ratio is 100 to 1.

Are ladies just not into chat anymore? Yahoo chat rooms are a joke, and even coming in here doesn't seem to get much response.

I travel a lot and just like to chat when stuck in the hotel room. I enjoy text chat, mic or even webcam. I prefer the lady have a mic or webcam just so I can first verify that I really am talking to a woman. Is that too much to ask?

Am I simply looking in the wrong place, or is good old fashion erotic chat dead.

please post a reply....or if you dare ....respond to chattinguy on yahoo messenger (not that my box will fill up...lol)

Guys chime in although i expect your experience is the same?

 

[Camilleon]

You know, I tried chat a few years ago, and even now, I'd love to find a good chat at times. But after I've answered the question, "What are you wearing?" a thousand times, it becomes unbearable.

So, for me, the answer is, No. I'm not into chat anymore.

Camilleon

 

[Camilleon]

And I have to add...

So many of you guys get so disgusting right from the first 5 sentences.

That's not erotic or appealing in any way.

Camilleon

 

[ImpishSeraph]

And I have to add...

So many of you guys get so disgusting right from the first 5 sentences.

That's not erotic or appealing in any way.

Camilleon

I must agree with you here.

 

[theguywhoisgq]

personally I like to get to know what the person likes and have some fun with them.

I dont like to post in the first im about I want to get all nasty right away.

 

[Valediction1]

Hardly surprising. Between the guys who come on too strong too fast, the ones that expect every conversation to end in an x rated cam session, the ones who spend so much time searching for the most outrageous stuff they can find and think *slides a stick of butter in your ass as he prepares to ram all 9 inches into you* will get a woman begging for them, and the ones who turn 8 shades of stalkerish after a woman flirts with them, I'm surprised any women show up at all. There is a great line from the show 'Rules of Engagement' where a woman tells her fiance "I'm a woman, sexually speaking, I can get anything I want from you any time I want" Fact of the matter is, if a woman wants a naughty chat, odds are she already knows a half dozen or more guys she could call/IM/cam with any time she's in the mood. They don't need to hang out in yahoo chat, or here, or the like. Add to this the idea that if a woman DOES decide to post here, yahoo!, or anywhere else, she is almost certain to get about 47 guys responding in a few minutes, almost all of which fall into the categories mentioned in the second sentence, in spite of their repeated insistence that they're different, they really want to get to know her as a person first. (read: 'green is your favorite color? wow, I have a green tattoo, here's a picture of my cock')

 

[chattinguy01]

great replies so far....thanks for the responses. good to see a little feedback going on.

 

[TitilateMe]

Hardly surprising. Between the guys who come on too strong too fast, the ones that expect every conversation to end in an x rated cam session, the ones who spend so much time searching for the most outrageous stuff they can find and think *slides a stick of butter in your ass as he prepares to ram all 9 inches into you* will get a woman begging for them, and the ones who turn 8 shades of stalkerish after a woman flirts with them, I'm surprised any women show up at all. There is a great line from the show 'Rules of Engagement' where a woman tells her fiance "I'm a woman, sexually speaking, I can get anything I want from you any time I want" Fact of the matter is, if a woman wants a naughty chat, odds are she already knows a half dozen or more guys she could call/IM/cam with any time she's in the mood. They don't need to hang out in yahoo chat, or here, or the like. Add to this the idea that if a woman DOES decide to post here, yahoo!, or anywhere else, she is almost certain to get about 47 guys responding in a few minutes, almost all of which fall into the categories mentioned in the second sentence, in spite of their repeated insistence that they're different, they really want to get to know her as a person first. (read: 'green is your favorite color? wow, I have a green tattoo, here's a picture of my cock')

Wow, I couldn't have said it better. I can't think of any woman who wants to be the online equivalent of a blow-up doll, but that's what many men expect.

 

[lorla1029]

Reminds me of the old joke:
A man asks a woman if she has penis envy......she replies, "No, why should I?....with what I have, I could have one of those anytime I wanted....."
True, but women beware. The special ones are hard to find. I love a good chat, but have to agree with the above posters....the stupid questions/comments get old.....

 

[StraightlacedM]

Another thing to take into consideration is the difference between how men and woman see sex. Men figure because they have a sudden sexual urge and would like to chat, that woman are similarly inclined. I will not repeat what has already been said much better by the posters above, but they are correct. Women are in more of a position to get what they want, where guys are the wanters, and our track record of treating the objects of our desire as well... objects... does not speak well for us. The odds are NOT in our favor.

In addition to that, woman and men, when they're looking for chat, are looking for two different things. Many men are looking for a fling that might turn into a relationship, they're excited by speaking to and imagining being with a woman they've never met. Many women are looking for a relationship in which a fling may or may not be involved, they're excited by intimacy with someone they've shared secrets with, personal details of their life, who is a shoulder to cry on. In other words, chatting online requires you to put in much of the same time and emotion and effort with a woman as pursuing real life relationships does, and you don't even get the benefit of actually physically feeling them in most cases, unless they're in your area, or you're going to do things Sleepless-In-Seattle-style.

Lesson: Don't assume that women share sudden urges for sexual gratification the same way we do. Do not assume that they don't already have good friends/partners they can already contact for that sort of thing on the off-chance that they do just feel an urge for raw sexual gratification. Do not assume that every lady who goes into a sexually themed chat wants to cyber with you, and you might, MIGHT be able to have a fun session with one of the exceptions to the rules above. Or you might be talking to a desperate dude pretending to be a lady. The internet can be funky like that.