Kymberley
I perfected 'BITCHYNESS'
- Joined
- Apr 15, 2000
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After buying my first computer just two years ago, I have learned to navigate quite well in cyberspace. I have had more fun logging onto sites and checking out various places around the world of cyberspace than I ever would have had sitting in my living room watching TV.
I am quite sure that there is a great many of people here reading and posting stories that have also spent a little time in chat rooms. Chatting with people from all around the globe can be so exciting. Acting out fantasies that you would never dare attempt in the real world is also quite interesting.
What I will probably never understand though is the degree that some people take cyber space relationships too. I know first hand how you can allow your fingers to act out and even begin to fantasize about one particular chatter or two. You know the scenario. You log on hopping to see his/her nick and get all tingly just like you did in grade school seeing that one someone special you hope with notice you got a new outfit.
Too bad some people seem to forget that cyber loves are similar to grade school crushes. Those don't usually last long once you get to know more about them or take down all the walls that keep the real you from being seen by them. When they finally meet and see each other’s true selves, the love is sometimes changed.
What seemed like eternity in the cyber world can be more like hell on earth in the real world. The person typing all those sweet nothings to you somehow doesn't do for you in person what they did online or maybe you don't do for them what you had pretended all along they did. Either way, the affair ends and the hatred begins.
In the real world, true friends tend to stay out of the broken relationships as they rise and fall. But in cyberspace, chatters take sides and defend their victim through a faceless barrage of nasty vicious private messages to other chatters that dared speak to the evil villain that who so selfishly decided to break off what would never have been a happy relationship. These villains are shunned by all their "cyber friends". The victims are "held, hugged, and pitied".
Do these attackers not realize they should just do the right thing? Stay out of love lives that never belonged to them in the first place. Why should they feel justified in defending the victim when they only tend to hear that one side of the argument? After all, the first to log on and cry on the shoulders of the entire room, generally is the same one sitting back laughing at the pain and humiliation the other one is forced to endure just because they chose to end the affair.
Then to make all of this even more unfair and unrealistic, we have the room moderators that are the self-proclaimed broken heart police. Those are the same moderators who are chosen or hired to enforce site rules not choose sides in lover’s quarrels. I am still amazed at the saga still active and alive here at the Literotica chat room. And once again, the site monitor for the room has chosen sides based on his/her feelings for the victim and booted the evil villain from the room protecting all other adults foolish enough to log on to a computer looking for love in all the wrong places.
Don't we all warn our children about people on the internet. We try to protect them from people who are not quite what they pretend to be. So why don't we take that advice to heart before we log on.
We are all adults folks, or we would not be in this site or most of the other chat rooms on the net. So why must we act like babies and run for our hero when that bad person who did the most horrendous crime of telling us the truth that they made a huge mistake and can't spend the rest of eternity with you. Grow up and act like adults. Take responsibility for your own foolish part in cyber loves. You too probably typed something untrue that may have flattered yourself on screen than you would have ever got away with in the real world. Let go of these petty fights and enjoy what you logged on for. Chatting!!
Laurel on a personal note, I truly believe that if your moderators are allowed to make choices about who is allowed to chat on your site and who is not, they do so with set guidelines that are to be maintained for the good of ALL chatters. Not just used against ones they disagree with or used to get even for a cyber friend's broken heart.
Thanks for letting me bitch y'all!!!
Now back to why I ever logged into Lit. Sex and Stories!!!
Gotta luv that combo!
Kymberley
I am quite sure that there is a great many of people here reading and posting stories that have also spent a little time in chat rooms. Chatting with people from all around the globe can be so exciting. Acting out fantasies that you would never dare attempt in the real world is also quite interesting.
What I will probably never understand though is the degree that some people take cyber space relationships too. I know first hand how you can allow your fingers to act out and even begin to fantasize about one particular chatter or two. You know the scenario. You log on hopping to see his/her nick and get all tingly just like you did in grade school seeing that one someone special you hope with notice you got a new outfit.
Too bad some people seem to forget that cyber loves are similar to grade school crushes. Those don't usually last long once you get to know more about them or take down all the walls that keep the real you from being seen by them. When they finally meet and see each other’s true selves, the love is sometimes changed.
What seemed like eternity in the cyber world can be more like hell on earth in the real world. The person typing all those sweet nothings to you somehow doesn't do for you in person what they did online or maybe you don't do for them what you had pretended all along they did. Either way, the affair ends and the hatred begins.
In the real world, true friends tend to stay out of the broken relationships as they rise and fall. But in cyberspace, chatters take sides and defend their victim through a faceless barrage of nasty vicious private messages to other chatters that dared speak to the evil villain that who so selfishly decided to break off what would never have been a happy relationship. These villains are shunned by all their "cyber friends". The victims are "held, hugged, and pitied".
Do these attackers not realize they should just do the right thing? Stay out of love lives that never belonged to them in the first place. Why should they feel justified in defending the victim when they only tend to hear that one side of the argument? After all, the first to log on and cry on the shoulders of the entire room, generally is the same one sitting back laughing at the pain and humiliation the other one is forced to endure just because they chose to end the affair.
Then to make all of this even more unfair and unrealistic, we have the room moderators that are the self-proclaimed broken heart police. Those are the same moderators who are chosen or hired to enforce site rules not choose sides in lover’s quarrels. I am still amazed at the saga still active and alive here at the Literotica chat room. And once again, the site monitor for the room has chosen sides based on his/her feelings for the victim and booted the evil villain from the room protecting all other adults foolish enough to log on to a computer looking for love in all the wrong places.
Don't we all warn our children about people on the internet. We try to protect them from people who are not quite what they pretend to be. So why don't we take that advice to heart before we log on.
We are all adults folks, or we would not be in this site or most of the other chat rooms on the net. So why must we act like babies and run for our hero when that bad person who did the most horrendous crime of telling us the truth that they made a huge mistake and can't spend the rest of eternity with you. Grow up and act like adults. Take responsibility for your own foolish part in cyber loves. You too probably typed something untrue that may have flattered yourself on screen than you would have ever got away with in the real world. Let go of these petty fights and enjoy what you logged on for. Chatting!!
Laurel on a personal note, I truly believe that if your moderators are allowed to make choices about who is allowed to chat on your site and who is not, they do so with set guidelines that are to be maintained for the good of ALL chatters. Not just used against ones they disagree with or used to get even for a cyber friend's broken heart.
Thanks for letting me bitch y'all!!!
Now back to why I ever logged into Lit. Sex and Stories!!!
Gotta luv that combo!
Kymberley
