Charlie the Cat.

[English Lady]

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This is Beth with Charlie.

Charlie turned up in our garden about 2 months ago now and after sneaking in once and me, soft as I am, feeding him. He hung around!*L*

I discovered Charlie's body this morning. I am not sure exactly how he died but it seemed his neck was bent to a funny angle. Ithought he was sleeping at first but then I touched him and he was freezing cold.

I thought it was weird last night when i didn't hear him meowling at the window to be let in for the night. I did miss him but he comes and goes as he pleases.

Now I just seem unable to stop crying over him. I catch myself looking out of the kitchen window to see if he's there, like an automatic thing without me even thinking.

Doesn't help that I feel totally daft for being so cut up about a cat that's barely been in my life 5 minutes.

I guess I just wanted to get it out, so that is the reason for this post.

Charlie was a loving, snuggly, playful cat who made me smile and laugh everyday.

I guess this is his tribute


(I'm rambling I know -emotional EL!)

 

[carsonshepherd]

Aw, I'm so sorry, what a shock for you to find him like that. Animals touch us so deeply, so quickly.

 

[Guest]

El, you tell a sad story too, but still beautiful. Cry, cry, cry, and then go on.

Perdita

 

[English Lady]

Carson -you're so right. thank you.

And thank you too Perdita I will cry -there seems little else I can do and the tears bloody well won't stop falling *L* but the crying will stop sometime i'm sure

 

[Guest]

im sorry, sweetie

 

[logophile]

I'm so sorry EL. It's rough to lose a loved one, and your kitty was certainly well loved by you and yours. Just because he's only been in your life for 2 months doesn't mean that he wasn't everything a familiar should be to us. They are warm and they speak to our souls.

Cry as much as you need to. Here's a great big hug from me to you. Oh, and you better have a cup of hot chocolate to go with that hug. Do you prefer whipped cream or marshmallow?

 

[English Lady]

logophile....cream please.

And thank you for the hug

 

[rgraham666]

So sorry for your loss, EL.

 

[carsonshepherd]

We lost our beagle from cancer a bit over a year ago and we still get teary-eyed over him. EL, feel happy you gave Charlie food and a home he didn't have, making his last few months happy. You may want to consider a new cat for the kids (and for you) They don't replace the old one, but the fun and joy they bring can start new good memories.

 

[English Lady]

thanks rgraham

carson...well yes I do think i helped make his life happier this past few months I might think about another cat, but we'll see what happens.

 

[BlackShanglan]

Good for you, EL. There's no real love without sorrow at parting. It's painful, but I'm learning to embrace grief as a sort of last friend; it's the measure of the joy you felt, and the dediation you made. It sounds to me like Charlie was well loved.

Shanglan

 

[R. Richard]

A touching tribute to an animal who bacame part of your life. Don't think of the bad, the loss, instead think of the good that the cat did in the short time he was with you. Do get a new cat. The new cat will never fully replace the old cat, but you will have a new store of good memories.

 

[Evil Alpaca]

Heart and condolences go out to you. I've been a cat person all my life . . . I've got an adorable calico curled up on the bed next to my while I write, and my grey cat is probably off eating something.

I agree with RR that a new cat doesn't replace an old cat . . . every cat I've had has been a new delight unto itself, and hopefully you'll find just the right one to fit into your life when the time is right.

*Hugs*

 

[English Lady]

Black Shanglan - I like your view on it *smiles* It's the whole better to have loved and lost thing

RRichard...well we're not in the best position to have a cat, we only had charlie because he adopted us *L* but we'll see!

 

[LadyJeanne]

That brought a tear to my eyes, EL. I'm so very, very sorry, dearest.

Your beautiful tribute reminds me how kitties are little angels who, with their snuggles and purrs and petting and play, show us that love is all around, every day. Charlie touched your lives wth love, and you touched his - the sweetest gift.

My kitty and I are thinking of you and sending snuggles and purrs your way.

 

[English Lady]

thanks Lady J and your kitty - much appreiciated

 

[carsonshepherd]

I've always found with rare exceptions, my animals come to me. Sometimes the time is not right for them, but the ones most inconvenient have become the most loved!

 

[Lisa Denton]

When you find yourself crying try to remember that for two months this lucky cat had found happiness and love. Your pain at his loss should be somewhat eased by knowing he had, at least for a while, a friendly and loving HOME.

 

[English Lady]

Thanks Alpaca...I just saw your message *S* Actually I am a rarity,a dog and cat person I do love the snootiness cats have though *L*


Carsonshepherd -I think if we get a new friend-he or she will find us *smiles*

Lisa -thank you-you made me cry again*L*

 

[Guest]

*HUGS* EL.

I know how upsetting and, quite frankly, devastating, it can be to lose a cat. We've lost two in the last two years, both to cars.

Let it all out, cry for him as much as you need to. It is awful to have such beautiful animals wrenched from us under such circumstances, so don't feel daft for feeling so cut up.

Much love,

Katie-Lou

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Big hugs love

 

[English Lady]

*hugs* Thanks Lou I am feeling less and less daft for being so weepy!


You lot are amazing. Thanks to you all for your good wishes and such -it really has helped me lots!

 

[LadyJeanne]

*hugs* Thanks Lou I am feeling less and less daft for being so weepy!


You lot are amazing. Thanks to you all for your good wishes and such -it really has helped me lots!

Ooo, good. Then here's some more of the 'and such'

 

[Bridget69]

I'm sorry about your loss. I've lost pets before and it really is like losing a friend or a member of the family.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Last saturday we had to have Katy, our cat of 19 years, put to sleep. I was there when they did it and I cried like a baby.

She was pretty sick there towards the end, and I know it was the right thing to do, but still... The house isn't the same knowing she's gone, and it's strange coming down in the morning and not having her bitching about her breakfast.

There's a Jewish tradition of burning a yahrzeit candle for the departed. It's more a custom than it is a religious ritual, and it can be done any time you feel like it. It's a sign of loss and remembrance, and I think of it as kind of a sign to the spirits that you remember them too. I burned one for Katy, but we still miss her.

I grieve with you, darling. Sometimes it seems like the price of love is grief, but it's always worth it, isn't it?

---dr.M.