unusuallyconfused
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If you could change one thing from your past, would you do it? What would it be?
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just one thing???
I wouldn't have allowed certain things to come between me and my friends.
I wouldn't have allowed certain things to come between me and my friends.
Lightning
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Nothing...
I'm actually glad of my past. There are a lot of things that I'm not proud of, but without them, I wouldn't be the person that I am today, and I wouldn't have the opportunities that I'm now receiving. If anything, I'm glad for the experiences so that I can pass them on to someone else that could benefit.
Voila! Hence posting in here.
I'm actually glad of my past. There are a lot of things that I'm not proud of, but without them, I wouldn't be the person that I am today, and I wouldn't have the opportunities that I'm now receiving. If anything, I'm glad for the experiences so that I can pass them on to someone else that could benefit.
Voila! Hence posting in here.
My view is, we learn from our mistakes.
I assume we all have regrets somewhere along the line, but we all learn from them, and like Xander said those things are what make us what we are today.
I wouldn't change a thing, but given the chance I wouldn't use so many products that Damage our World, mainly because I look at my son now and realise he needs to live here, and I'm part of the population that has killed a part of our world ... that is my biggest regret.
I assume we all have regrets somewhere along the line, but we all learn from them, and like Xander said those things are what make us what we are today.
I wouldn't change a thing, but given the chance I wouldn't use so many products that Damage our World, mainly because I look at my son now and realise he needs to live here, and I'm part of the population that has killed a part of our world ... that is my biggest regret.
Chuckus
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I personally wouldn't change anything I have done. The one thing I would change if I could would be to end the hate that seems to be in this world. We do learn from our mistakes, or at least we strive to learn from them, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes. It is only when we have a repetitive nature about those mistakes that we should wish to change them.
In all seriousness, I think the only thing I would change about myself personally would have been to start listening better and with an open ear to what my parents tried to tell me at a young age.
In all seriousness, I think the only thing I would change about myself personally would have been to start listening better and with an open ear to what my parents tried to tell me at a young age.
I agree I wouldn't change anything significant in my life, but I would like to go back and hide that bottle of Bacardi's Rum 151 a little better, hid it under the mattress,,sheesh.. Missed my prom because of that, was grounded for 2 months.. 
Hello, All...
Most of you said you wouldn't change a thing due to the fact that we learn from our mistakes. That's so very true. Some of us are not as fast as others, though. ha! I was a slow learner. But, if I could change one thing it would be to have a much more assertive attitude as I was growing up. Most of my youth and early adult life was spent not feeling secure in people listening and accepting what I had to say. Now that I'm older and, hopefully, wiser, I've learned that you can't please everyone with your opinions. What you can do, though, is be yourself. Be the best "you" that you can be and live a very good and happy life.
That's my soapbox offering for this evening. Have a wonderfully happy weekend filled with all you enjoy.
WildHoney
Most of you said you wouldn't change a thing due to the fact that we learn from our mistakes. That's so very true. Some of us are not as fast as others, though. ha! I was a slow learner. But, if I could change one thing it would be to have a much more assertive attitude as I was growing up. Most of my youth and early adult life was spent not feeling secure in people listening and accepting what I had to say. Now that I'm older and, hopefully, wiser, I've learned that you can't please everyone with your opinions. What you can do, though, is be yourself. Be the best "you" that you can be and live a very good and happy life.
That's my soapbox offering for this evening. Have a wonderfully happy weekend filled with all you enjoy.
WildHoney
unusuallyconfused
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Re: I would never...
I would do a few things different but it would be cruel to state them. I'm just glad that somebody else would actually change something................I was starting to feel lonesome.
p_p_man said:
I would do a few things different but it would be cruel to state them. I'm just glad that somebody else would actually change something................I was starting to feel lonesome.
Willing and Unsure
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i would change that i was really depressed and suicidal for a couple of years... i look back now trying to figure out what i was thinking.. but i still have no clue, and it wasnt that long ago
ChaoticLil
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I'm not sure if this would count, but the only thing that I would change is being a better role model for my 22 yr old son. He's having alot of problems right now and I can't help but think it's partially my fault.
Other than that, I wouldn't change a thing. There are alot of things that I'm not exactly proud of, and a few that I regret, but ANY change that I would make would change who I am right now.
I finally like who and what I am.
Other than that, I wouldn't change a thing. There are alot of things that I'm not exactly proud of, and a few that I regret, but ANY change that I would make would change who I am right now.
I finally like who and what I am.
p_p_man
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Ouch...
Don't you dare talk like that in my presence!!
Parents are NEVER to blame for the way their children turn out...
Up to a certain age you look after them, then they start spreading their wings and then either leave or stick around.
On the way to that point they learn things.
You are there to learn from for a short while but there are other, stronger, influences around apart from yourself. Children are not unaware of what's going on around them. They develop with the help of all sorts of models.
If they go wrong or have problems it is entirely their own fault.
You can't hold their hands forever...
ChaoticLil said:
Don't you dare talk like that in my presence!!
Parents are NEVER to blame for the way their children turn out...
Up to a certain age you look after them, then they start spreading their wings and then either leave or stick around.
On the way to that point they learn things.
You are there to learn from for a short while but there are other, stronger, influences around apart from yourself. Children are not unaware of what's going on around them. They develop with the help of all sorts of models.
If they go wrong or have problems it is entirely their own fault.
You can't hold their hands forever...
ChaoticLil
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Re: Ouch...
I'm very aware of that, and my hubby and boyfriend feel the same as you (I know, I need to listen to them).
When I was younger (and stupid) I did alot of drugs and sometimes I think that made and adverse impression on him. He's on 5yrs probation for being stupid {1 1/2 lbs of pot in his girlfriend's truck. They stopped him because he had 2 different liscense plates (she had asked him to change them and he forgot)} The thing is, I was just as stupid as he was at his age; I just didn't get caught.
p_p_man said:
I'm very aware of that, and my hubby and boyfriend feel the same as you (I know, I need to listen to them).
When I was younger (and stupid) I did alot of drugs and sometimes I think that made and adverse impression on him. He's on 5yrs probation for being stupid {1 1/2 lbs of pot in his girlfriend's truck. They stopped him because he had 2 different liscense plates (she had asked him to change them and he forgot)} The thing is, I was just as stupid as he was at his age; I just didn't get caught.
p_p_man
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Re: Re: Ouch...
As I said. It's entirely his own fault.
I have a friend who is a single parent family. She was heavily into drugs and was an alcoholic as well. She also did casual prostitution when she needed some money.
I met her when her son was 7. She received welfare and she had an apartment provided to her by the local authority.
She could hold it together when she had to but when there was no reason she went straight into the pot and beer. For weeks I would never see her sober. The apartment was a mess. And I mean mess. Not just dirty plates but lumps of mouldy food all over the place.
Her son grew up with that background. When he was in his early teens he too went around with kids of his own age and he too did the pot bit. And once that I know of he got paraletycally drunk.
But the point of all this is that he's now 21, is manager of a wine bar, is as different from his mother as he could be (he still lives at home). And yet she was no role model if you want to put it that way and he was under exactly the same outside influences as his friends (some went bad, some went good).
The difference is he chose the way he wanted to go. Your son has exactly the same choice. You cannot be blamed at all...and you definitely shouldn't blame yourself.
Now go back to the thread and think of soething else you would change.
ps My friend is still an alcoholic and still does her drugs and casual prostitution so she didn't and hasn't changed a bit.
ChaoticLil said:
As I said. It's entirely his own fault.
I have a friend who is a single parent family. She was heavily into drugs and was an alcoholic as well. She also did casual prostitution when she needed some money.
I met her when her son was 7. She received welfare and she had an apartment provided to her by the local authority.
She could hold it together when she had to but when there was no reason she went straight into the pot and beer. For weeks I would never see her sober. The apartment was a mess. And I mean mess. Not just dirty plates but lumps of mouldy food all over the place.
Her son grew up with that background. When he was in his early teens he too went around with kids of his own age and he too did the pot bit. And once that I know of he got paraletycally drunk.
But the point of all this is that he's now 21, is manager of a wine bar, is as different from his mother as he could be (he still lives at home). And yet she was no role model if you want to put it that way and he was under exactly the same outside influences as his friends (some went bad, some went good).
The difference is he chose the way he wanted to go. Your son has exactly the same choice. You cannot be blamed at all...and you definitely shouldn't blame yourself.
Now go back to the thread and think of soething else you would change.
ps My friend is still an alcoholic and still does her drugs and casual prostitution so she didn't and hasn't changed a bit.
ChaoticLil
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Thank you...
I don't normally get this way, and you're right. My dad used to tell me about a school mate of his that he believed was one of the most responsible people that he has ever met and the boy's mother was a prostitute.
And like I had said earlier, there is nothing that I would change because that would change who/what I am now. It's taken me along time to like me.
p_p_man said:
I don't normally get this way, and you're right. My dad used to tell me about a school mate of his that he believed was one of the most responsible people that he has ever met and the boy's mother was a prostitute.
And like I had said earlier, there is nothing that I would change because that would change who/what I am now. It's taken me along time to like me.
