Changing The Rules

[Katieb_38]

Me and hubby have been meeting couples and singles for about 5 years so we are experienced on that front. We have a couple of rules or guidelines so to speak. We are same room swap only and we meet couples or singles together. The exception is I can meet bi women and he was the one who suggested that.
We have been meeting a couple for the last few months who are fairly local. The other day the wife of the couple called me and asked me a question. She wanted to know if me and hubby would like to swap again but this time be in separate houses. So my hubby spends the night with her and vice versa. I said I wasn't sure and would talk to hubby to see what he thought.

He was interested in the idea and said maybe we should try it and see what happens. While I'm interested I'm a little apprehensive as I'm used to us being all together. Although I do owe him I suppose as I introduced his sister to her bi side. He does know but doesn't talk about it.

 

[NC_OBX80]

I don't know that you "owe him" you have the ground rules that work for you as a couple and allow you to share in a adventurous open relationship that works for you together. Would this be a tipping point? Or the push you need to try something different? Do you think trying it once would lead to some jealousy you couldn't come back from?

 

[Katieb_38]

I don't know that you "owe him" you have the ground rules that work for you as a couple and allow you to share in a adventurous open relationship that works for you together. Would this be a tipping point? Or the push you need to try something different? Do you think trying it once would lead to some jealousy you couldn't come back from?

Thanks for the reply, I don't think jealously will come in to it, we will both have to agree to this anyway and maybe it is a chance to try something different. The other couple have also never done this so it's a new thing for all. That could be the part that concerns me. I think I would prefer they have experience of this kind of swap.

 

[NC_OBX80]

Thanks for the reply, I don't think jealously will come in to it, we will both have to agree to this anyway and maybe it is a chance to try something different. The other couple have also never done this so it's a new thing for all. That could be the part that concerns me. I think I would prefer they have experience of this kind of swap.

My pleasure, nice to see you btw.

If that's isn't a concern, and you are both equally excited it could be a wonderful experience! The lack of experience on both sides puts you on even ground, some of that nervous excitement could add to the fun, who knows might get to explore something new with someone new??

 

[bibethhotwet]

Hi Katie,

My husband and I have been long time swingers. Like you I have bi women I meet with alone occasionally but for the most part our sex is same room with other couples and bi females. We have gone alone with individuals of the opposite sex before but for us our preference is to be together or at least in the same home or hotel room or floor in close proximity. For me personally its not so much a feeling of jealousy but safety. I feel safer if he is close by though I do trust our long time male partners implicitly.

You say you feel you "owe" him. That is DANGEROUS ground to travel down in swinging. Sweetie, never give yourself over to something you don't want to do and aren't 100 percent ok with. I am sure your husband loves you and part of this is not drifting into the demands ones partner do something they do not want to or are hesitant about. We have seen the positive beneficial sides of swinging but we have seen the negative aspects as well. Keep it to what you are comfortable with and everything will be ok.

B

 

[Katieb_38]

Hi Katie,

My husband and I have been long time swingers. Like you I have bi women I meet with alone occasionally but for the most part our sex is same room with other couples and bi females. We have gone alone with individuals of the opposite sex before but for us our preference is to be together or at least in the same home or hotel room or floor in close proximity. For me personally its not so much a feeling of jealousy but safety. I feel safer if he is close by though I do trust our long time male partners implicitly.

You say you feel you "owe" him. That is DANGEROUS ground to travel down in swinging. Sweetie, never give yourself over to something you don't want to do and aren't 100 percent ok with. I am sure your husband loves you and part of this is not drifting into the demands ones partner do something they do not want to or are hesitant about. We have seen the positive beneficial sides of swinging but we have seen the negative aspects as well. Keep it to what you are comfortable with and everything will be ok.

B

Thanks for your advice, my hubby would never do anything if he felt I wasn't committed to it. We have talked about this over the last couple of days and we are meeting up with the couple tonight for a chat and see what we agree to. I have suggested that we get two rooms in a local hotel and do it that way. We have known this couple for a while and met them on a lot of occasions so it is not as though we are meeting strangers. We will talk tonight and see what comes from it.

 

[Nezhul]

I do think that you may need to take a few more days/weeks to process it.
Maybe writing down all your concerns on paper can help.

Generally, I think you need to figure out if you are genuinely against something, or is it just a tingle of too much novelty introduced all at once.

Maybe you should try same house / separate rooms at first? That seems like an okay step to me.

Edit: I also don't think you owe him anything. Messing out with family may be a screw-up - that's true. But two wrongs doesn't make a one right. If you feel you've made a mistake - then you can appologise. It doesn't mean you need to make up to him by possibly hurting yourself or your feelings.

 

[Katieb_38]

We are going to meet with this couple tonight and talk about it, as I mentioned before I would be happy with us getting 2 rooms at a hotel. That way we are close enough but still separate. The other couple have never done this either so not sure if that's good or bad. If I'm not fully sure about this then I wont do it and my hubby knows this and I know he wouldn't try to guide me into something I wasn't fully sure of.

 

[Katieb_38]

Good luck. Could be a lot of fun or could lead to trouble. Proceed with caution as has been suggested. I'm wondering what is prompting the desire to do this on the part of the other couple. Are one of them falling in love with one of you? Or are they just wanting to explore their sexuality from a different angle. Or are they just looking for the freedom to explore some things they don't feel comfortable doing with other's present? All things to try to figure out at your meeting tonight.

I have only spoke to the wife of the couple on the phone briefly. She told me that her and her hubby had talked about it and they have asked us as they have known for quite a while. We will go more in depth tonight and see what happens.
Thanks for everyone's advice I do appreciate it.

 

[Katieb_38]

Even though she asked, it maybe him who put her up to it. Try to determine if they are both enthusiastic about the idea or is one is and the other is being coaxed or pressured to take this to this new level.

Yeah certainly going to be thorough about it and make sure we all know what we want. I have spoken to a friend about it. She and her hubby have done separate rooms in a hotel. She said that we all have to know what we are about to do.

 

[Katieb_38]

Yes, there are lots of ways of approaching the separate room scenario that can keep things safe and comfortable for everyone. Adjoining rooms might be a bit distracting, especially if the walls are thin. Keep that in mind.

Yeah I think it would be same floor but rooms apart from one another.

 

[Katieb_38]

We all met together to discuss how we do this. It was good night and we all expressed our desires from doing this. We all decided to take some more time and discuss it with our partners. From what was said I feel more comfortable with it.

 

[Mqoi]

My ex and I did some swinging and over time we changed the rules to allow more and more. But always by mutual decision until she decided she could change them without talking to me about it first. That led up to what caused her to be my ex when she decided to move her boyfriend who I didn't know anything about into our home and bed on a permanent basis.

I'm still ok with swinging but not unilateral decisions that effect the home life.

 

[Katieb_38]

Glad to hear that. You're approaching it in the right manner. Let us know how it all turns out.

Yeah we all seem to want the same thing and it was a good chat. I spoke to hubby and he is happy with it. I spoke to the wife of the other couple this afternoon and everything is good on their side.

 

[elizabeth15]

I'm glad y'all talked it out and you feel better about it. Good luck, and have fun!

 

[Mrs_Cullen]

Have fun and try the experience. If it ends up not being for you two then you'll know from now on.

 

[Katieb_38]

We have arranged to meet up at a hotel on Saturday, we will have a few drinks then take it from there.

 

[dz2681]

Good luck and sounds like some fun times are ahead. Keep us posted please

 

[Katieb_38]

Saturday was a interesting and very nice night. We met the other couple Mike and Carol at the hotel and after checking in we went down and had a couple of drinks together. Me and Carol then went back to out rooms to get ready. When we were in the lift she admitted that she was nervous but also turned on at the thought of what we were going to do.

I went in to my room and got undressed just leaving on my black lacy panties and black stockings. Carol had told me that Mike liked things like that so it would be a surprise for him. I text my hubby to tell Mike I was ready for him. he replied that Carol was also ready so they were coming up to the rooms.

I waited for a couple of minutes before I heard the knock on the door, I answered it and Mike was stood there, I let him in and I let him look at me, I could tell by his face that he liked the stockings. We sat on the bed and started to kiss and I could feel how hard her was. Hi caressed my breasts and rubbed my nipples as we kissed. Mike then took of his shirt and I ran my fingers on his slightly hairy chest.

I lay back on the bed and Mike stripped off the rest of his clothes off and lay on the bed with me. We have had sex before when we have met as a couple so this wasn't new to either of us. I went down the bed and took his cock into my mouth and began to suck him. His cock is slightly smaller then my hubby's but is enjoyable to suck.

Mike suggested I spin around so we could 69, I moved around and soon felt his mouth and fingers on my wet pussy. It wasn't long before he was giving me my first orgasm of the night. I climbed off him and got on all fours. Mike got behind me and I felt his cock slide into me, he fucked me hard until I screamed and moaned my way to orgasm. Then I felt his cum fill my pussy we both led on the bed for a while to rest. When I got my breath back I played with his cock until he got hard then I got on top of him and slid on to his cock and rode him till I cum.

Mike didn't cum in my pussy this time instead I got off him and sucked him till he shot in my mouth and I swallowed it down. We rested for a bit and Mike text Carol to see if they were done. She text back saying that they were done and she suggested we go back to the bar for a drink. We both got dressed and a few minutes later hubby and Carol arrived we went down and had a couple more drinks.

Carol and Mike went back to the room while me and hubby had another drink before going back to our room. Once there Hubby told me what he got up to with Carol. I found myself getting turned on and we had sex with me bent over the desk just like he had done Carol.

 

[NC_OBX80]

Sounds like a fantastic night for everyone!!

Think you will do something similar again??

 

[Katieb_38]

Yeah I would do it again. I got turned being told by hubby what they had done.

 

[peterthelicker]

Good Show!

 

[Katieb_38]

I will try to write a story giving more detail

 

[NC_OBX80]

I will try to write a story giving more detail

This is a very good idea

 

[PapaRomantic]

Very hot story, Katie, and I'm glad you had a great time. Thanks for sharing with us.

But I couldn't help laughing when you said their names were Mike and Carol - I wondered if you were swapping with the Bradys!