changes in sexual responsiveness

[overthebow]

I'm wondering if other people have changes in sexual responsiveness. There was a time when I could have sex all night and cum like crazy. Okay, I'm nearly 50, but that isn't happening for me any more. I can always get hard, but I don't orgasm as much. I like sex more now than when I was younger. I really like the sensations, as opposed to trying to deliver the male, but I'm not cumming as much as I used to. I can cum if I masturbate. I like to play with my anus when I masturbate and think about sex with men, but when I am with my FWB, I like being in her pussy. Head doesn't cut it, I want to be in the skin.

Do you think that masturbation has changed your pattern of sexual responsiveness, and is it a change you welcomed?

 

[emap]

I don't play with myself as much as I used to, I live with the most wonderful man, who happens to be a horndog But I have noticed, sometimes I want a woman, and I usually find a nice lesbian story or four well when he comes home he's horny, and I just LOVE sex with him, but on those lesbian days I find it a bit difficult to get ready for him, so while I think a persons masturbation habits have a saying in their sex life, it's not a very big one, I think the reason your not shooting as often is partly because of your age, old fogy and partly because your thinking of men and playing with your backside, Eeeewwww Not my thing, but not my bedroom either

Anyway, to give you a little of that old pep back, I would say try having a threesome with your FWB, I'm lost on that one, with a guy and let him have his way with you, or you can try getting a strap on for her, or a dildo for her to use on you during. I also think you should sit her down and tell her all about your fantasies if you haven't already, I bet she has one or two she hasn't told you about yet Oh almost forgot one, seems to be all the rage lately, but you could try talking to your doctor and taking a pill of some sort, not viagra you get it up still, but there are several around that are supposed to enhance your feeling. Most are vitamin supplements, but I say talk to your doctor first, less embarrassing

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

I've noticed I can't get off using my fingers on my clit anymore. ~sigh~

 

[overthebow]

I also think you should sit her down and tell her all about your fantasies if you haven't already, I bet she has one or two she hasn't told you about yet

Oh, we did that already. We were engaged in play and I was playing with her anus with my fingertips and asked her if she liked to be penetrated. She said okay so I lubed one up and in it went. Afterwards, we were lollling about naked and she asked how I would like it if she did that to me. I was afraid of jumping right in there and saying that she should (I have done that before and it squelched further talk on the subject) so we both danced around the subject. She said that she had a previous lover who wanted to be taken with a strapon, but that he chickened out at the last minute. I said that she could do me whenever she wanted. She said that she got off on the power aspects of it. We haven't gotten back to it. She has kids, I have kids, we get so few nights together. When we do have nights together, we try to bond more than blaze new sexual paths.

 

[emap]

Well that's good, and I understand about the kids and not wanting to open new paths really, but since she enjoys doing it, why not see about setting up a day just you and her and bring one along Or next time she comes over to wherever you two go to be alone, have one sitting on the bed

Pagan I'm not real sure what to say to that one, but I've found that I get off easier if I carress myself, pinch my nipples, really just do it like there is someone else making love to my body, a toy helps to