CFNM and Femdom

[FloridaSmoothie]

Was just reading some CFNM stories here on Lit. Some of the comments to one story stated it had to have femdom in it to be a real CFNM situation. I do not think that is true. What do you think?

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

Was just reading some CFNM stories here on Lit. Some of the comments to one story stated it had to have femdom in it to be a real CFNM situation. I do not think that is true. What do you think?

I think people are not interested in this thread or they don't know what I am talking about! Oops.

 

[Stella_Omega]

What is CFNM?

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

What is CFNM?

Ah, maybe that is the problem!

Clothed Female, Nude Male.

 

[LucyH]

I agree, Florida.

Eg. A guy gets out of the shower in a bit of a mood, finds his wife doing some random thing around the house that doesn't involve being undressed, they fool around a bit, and she gives him a blowjob without bothering to take anything off. The woman is really dressed, and the man really isn't.

It might not be the sort of story that appeals to the sort of people who use CFNM as an acronym, though.

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

I agree, Florida.

Eg. A guy gets out of the shower in a bit of a mood, finds his wife doing some random thing around the house that doesn't involve being undressed, they fool around a bit, and she gives him a blowjob without bothering to take anything off. The woman is really dressed, and the man really isn't.

It might not be the sort of story that appeals to the sort of people who use CFNM as an acronym, though.

It is a nice idea, but not sure if husband/wife relationships qualify! Really don't know. If so, I am CFNM almost every day!

 

[firenzi]

Was just reading some CFNM stories here on Lit. Some of the comments to one story stated it had to have femdom in it to be a real CFNM situation. I do not think that is true. What do you think?

Obviously there's dominance involved on some level by virtue of the naked party's nakedness. It doesn't have to be overt. But I think if someone is seeking out a CFNM story, then they are probably looking for at least a subtle flavour of femdom. I say this as a girl who loves doing CMNF scenes, though- maybe it's different the other way around, but I doubt it.

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

Obviously there's dominance involved on some level by virtue of the naked party's nakedness. It doesn't have to be overt. But I think if someone is seeking out a CFNM story, then they are probably looking for at least a subtle flavour of femdom. I say this as a girl who loves doing CMNF scenes, though- maybe it's different the other way around, but I doubt it.

For me, it is empowering to be naked with clothed females.

 

[Erosfan]

CFNM is a major turn on for me and it doesn't have to be about femdom.
It does require the male to give of himself almost completely, so maybe it is as much about submission as anything else.
It empowers the woman/women to be the aggressor/s and gives them the opportunity to make the male a sex object.
In a way, I guess it's like a reversal of roles.

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

Other than in some sexual situation, like a CFNM party, the female seeing the naked male may be somewhat uncomfortable. Thus, the naked male may be the one in power.

 

[escriterra]

Taking pleasure in seeing the naked male

Obviously there's dominance involved on some level by virtue of the naked party's nakedness. It doesn't have to be overt. But I think if someone is seeking out a CFNM story, then they are probably looking for at least a subtle flavour of femdom. I say this as a girl who loves doing CMNF scenes, though- maybe it's different the other way around, but I doubt it.

CFNM, as with any kind of erotica or real-life engagement, exists along a continuum. Some seekers look for a hard edge to the domination aspect, others are turned on by the sheer naughtiness of the situation (whether the "naughty" connotation is in the mind of the man or the women who enjoy looking at every inch of him).

However, a lady who savors the pure pleasure of seeing a man completely naked, who has moved past any embarrassment about her right to arousal at the sight of a good-looking, naked male and all the manly aspects of his nude body---his chest, the curve of his jawline, his eyes, his naked cock, his succulent butt, everything completely and totally exposed to her---is a woman who truly knows how to appreciate a CFNM encounter.

After all, he is on display for her. He is present specifically as an object of attention, an object meant for enjoyment, whether that pleasure is taken only visually or whether his nakedness is also on display as only the first step in his availability to her touch, her use of his body for her enjoyment.

The idea of that---of looking at a naked man without being embarrassed about it and knowing that his body is there for you to examine, to explore with your eyes and maybe even your fingers and your warm touch wherever your excitement leads you---can be powerfully erotic for the naked man as well as the clothed lady who is in complete control of the situation.

Is that control an aspect of dominance? Perhaps. Does it have to be? Maybe just a smidge. (Or not.)

But isn't it heavenly to see your naked toy presented for your pleasure?

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

CFNM, as with any kind of erotica or real-life engagement, exists along a continuum. Some seekers look for a hard edge to the domination aspect, others are turned on by the sheer naughtiness of the situation (whether the "naughty" connotation is in the mind of the man or the women who enjoy looking at every inch of him).

However, a lady who savors the pure pleasure of seeing a man completely naked, who has moved past any embarrassment about her right to arousal at the sight of a good-looking, naked male and all the manly aspects of his nude body---his chest, the curve of his jawline, his eyes, his naked cock, his succulent butt, everything completely and totally exposed to her---is a woman who truly knows how to appreciate a CFNM encounter.

After all, he is on display for her. He is present specifically as an object of attention, an object meant for enjoyment, whether that pleasure is taken only visually or whether his nakedness is also on display as only the first step in his availability to her touch, her use of his body for her enjoyment.

The idea of that---of looking at a naked man without being embarrassed about it and knowing that his body is there for you to examine, to explore with your eyes and maybe even your fingers and your warm touch wherever your excitement leads you---can be powerfully erotic for the naked man as well as the clothed lady who is in complete control of the situation.

Is that control an aspect of dominance? Perhaps. Does it have to be? Maybe just a smidge. (Or not.)

But isn't it heavenly to see your naked toy presented for your pleasure?

Interesting. I guess it all depends upon the people involved and the situation as to who feels empowered. Yes, like a lot of sexuality, it's the continuum.

 

[PaulBlart]

For me, there is an element of submission to being naked in the presence of my clothed wife, but I am hard-wired that way. She doesn't acknowledge feeling this power exchange dynamic, but she behaves in a much more dominant manner when I'm naked and she's clothed.

 

[DarkRefuge]

CFNM doesn't have to be associated with femdom. Although the reverse is mostly true. 'Mostly'...not always.

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

For me, there is an element of submission to being naked in the presence of my clothed wife, but I am hard-wired that way. She doesn't acknowledge feeling this power exchange dynamic, but she behaves in a much more dominant manner when I'm naked and she's clothed.

Even though my wife and I are often CFNM, until I started this thread and read the postings, I had never thought of us as CFNM. I always considered it as just me being comfortable and naked, with no relationship or sexual dynamics involved. I thought CFNM situations had to be with somebody other than my wife. Now I think I was wrong. Hummmmm.

 

[PaulBlart]

Before I met my wife, I had a few experiences with CFNM. I posed nude for art classes in college, on a dare I masturbated as two (rather intoxicated) female friends watched, and, of course, some d/s experiences. The psychological aspects in each situation for me were very similar (even though the art class was a non-sexual setting that had no d/s implications).

 

[heathrowinneo]

Even though my wife and I are often CFNM, until I started this thread and read the postings, I had never thought of us as CFNM. I always considered it as just me being comfortable and naked, with no relationship or sexual dynamics involved. I thought CFNM situations had to be with somebody other than my wife. Now I think I was wrong. Hummmmm.

fyi i have been involved in the cfnm world before it was called cfnm... been into it since i was 19, then by accident since i was working my way through college... now since i still enjoy being naked for a woman or women that want to play with a naked guy... sometimes there is bdsm, mild or otherwise. sometimes the gals just want a show... glad to see some people interested in cfnm...

 

[FloridaSmoothie]

A couple of times I had CFNM experiences at secluded beaches. In both cases I could tell the woman was comfortable with me being nude while she was not. It may have been the first time either had seen a person nude on a beach. In one case, there was interest on their part to try it in the future.

I enjoyed both experiences.

 

[sombrablanca]

Bit of a fantasy. both intentional, consensual, but accidental and erotic as well. Like a best friend walks in without knockin and there you are. Hell, thinkin about her. n somehow you go through her demanding you to continue and show all when you try to hide to her pantyhose ripped, thong shoved to the side and you're plunging into her gloriously hot, tight, wet pussy.

Or your wife tells you you can fuck her in a dept. store dressing room and breed her like a Bitch in heat if you want...bbbuuut... you have to take fer ferally. Completely naked, and if anyone catches on theyd better see nothing of her. So she wears a skirt and you just push her panties to the side.