Celexa and the "money shot."

[HottieMama]

Ok everyone...

Help me out here. Someone I care about a whole lot just had his Celexa dose upped. As he put it, he now feels like "a porn star without the money shot." Anyone have any tips, tricks, ideas to make the "money shot" happen even with the nasty pills? If you have been on it or another antidepressant, what worked for you?

Thanks...

 

[HottieMama]

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[intothewoods]

I thought Celexa was like Viagra? No?

Isn't there another antidepressant with no sexual side effects. They have a commercial out - they say it like fourteen times during the commercial.

 

[BiBunny]

I thought Celexa was like Viagra? No?

Isn't there another antidepressant with no sexual side effects. They have a commercial out - they say it like fourteen times during the commercial.

A lot of people can keep it up with Celexa, but they can't ejaculate. Which has to suck.

Is it Wellbutrin you're thinking of? I'm not sure, but that one's what's sticking in my mind at the moment, for some reason. Some of the newer SNRIs might also fall into the "fewer sexual side effects" category.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Ok everyone...

Help me out here. Someone I care about a whole lot just had his Celexa dose upped. As he put it, he now feels like "a porn star without the money shot." Anyone have any tips, tricks, ideas to make the "money shot" happen even with the nasty pills? If you have been on it or another antidepressant, what worked for you?

Thanks...

When I was only taking Celexa it would hamper me from achieving the money shot about half the time. In those cases I'd stay hard for hours. That was at 20mg. Now I'm taking 40 mg and I really don't see any difference between the two dosages.

Lamcital is one anti-depressant that doesn't have any sexual side affects.

 

[Etoile]

This is my area of expertise! There is no AD that acts like Viagra. Wellbutrin is said to have the least sexual side effects, and I can confirm this...however I'm now also on Celexa, so still no joy. I haven't had an easy orgasm in at least 8 years. Many AD's kill the libido, but for those that don't, they almost always kill the orgasm.

Basically what we've learned is to just keep trying different things until something works. If nothing works, give up but DON'T be frustrated. It's really hard, took me a long time (years) before I wouldn't cry when this happened. Eventually I got around to saying "you know, this just isn't going to happen" and we stop.

I want to say more but I'm falling asleep so I'll leave it at that for now.

 

[Homburg]

Basically what we've learned is to just keep trying different things until something works. If nothing works, give up but DON'T be frustrated. It's really hard, took me a long time (years) before I wouldn't cry when this happened. Eventually I got around to saying "you know, this just isn't going to happen" and we stop.

This is my life and I've got no AD's in my system. It's just how I work. In my case, it is probably a minor version of the erectile dysfunction, Retarded Ejaculation. I'm just flat not going to come every time. viv is used to it, and understands. It's not always that easy. My former second submissive was really wound up over it, and had issues when I didn't come.

I don't know if it would help someone on AD's, but check out Shanks' thread on erectile dysfunction. There's some great info in there. I think it is called "Mine doesn't always work".

The biggest piece of advice I can offer is to relax, learn to enjoy sex and not be orgasm focused. Then work on figuring out what works. Frustration will stop orgasm as surely as AD or RE will.

 

[the captians wench]

I was on celexa for a while. my then husband thought that it would cool me down some...not a chance, it didn't effect me sexually at all, or if it did, it wasn't enough for us to notice.......that doesn't help does it.

Anyway, Hommy's right about Shankie's thread. Personally sex has never been about getting some one off for me, it's a nice finisher, but not the goal. ( says ms multi-orgasm-on-comand. )

 

[TeachMeSir]

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[carverII]

I've run the gammit on AD's and have had a multitude of side effects. Zoloft seemed to be the worst in killing the sex drive altogether. Prozac wasn't as bad, but erections were hard to achieve most of the time. Cymbalta worked really well for me, but it really was a crapshoot on what would happen at times. I could be aroused, become erect, but could not guarantee the duration or ending. I'm back on Wellbutrin and like the last time, arousal is possibel, erections are possible, but the money shot is not really that great for me.

I've tried Viagra and the other really popular ED med, but niether seemed to really work that great. I might get an erection, but there wasn't much in it for me. Both meds left me frustrated and worse off than I was before.

And then there was the magic advice someone gave me.

Men do not have to have an erection to orgasm. They can be stimulated well enough without one and still cum. I tired that and sure enough! It took so much worry out of the whole thing that I am know starting to regain some of the desire that I once had.

 

[HottieMama]

Thanks everyone! He doesn't have the issue of getting an erection...the issue is not being able to orgasm. Unfortunately this is the only AD that is even remotely working for him so his Dr is hesitant to change it...

Etoile...I would love more input if you would be so kind.

*Off to check Shank's thread*

 

[Chris_Xavier]

It took months and months for the docs to get my meds right.. so I understand HM.

 

[Mazuri]

I am currently on Celexa, so I can sympathize. When I went to 20mg a day, sex was the furthest thing from my mind and an orgasm damn near impossible. The doc tried lowering the dosage to just 10mg per day and, while it helped with libido, my moods took a downward turn for the worse. Now, I'm on 10mg Celexa 1/day and 150mg Wellbutrin 2xday and it's working beautifully. Orgasm is still a bit of work to achieve but not impossible and libido has returned with a vengeance!

Another option instead of Celexa is to look into Lexapro. It's a newer version of Celexa so shouldn't give your friend fits in switching over and it's said to have very few side affects. If things don't settle for me soon (been on the current mix only a month), I may ask about moving to Lexapro to see if that helps.

 

[Etoile]

Thanks for the reminder, HM!

There is something to be said for trying different meds, because everyone reacts differently. In this particular realm, you sometimes have to decide which is more important: not being depressed, or having easy, reliable orgasms. For me it's been the former.

If that's the choice you make, it doesn't mean you can't ever have orgasms. You have to integrate two things into your sex life.

First, you don't always have to have an orgasm. This is harder to get used to than you think, and it's something both partners need to realize. Sometimes it's just not going to happen, and that's okay. You have to stop before the non-orgasmic partner reaches the point of anger, because otherwise the other partner feels like you're angry at them when really you're just angry at your body for not cooperating.

Second, you have to accept that it's okay to do whatever you need to in order to have an orgasm. Usually my wife can't make me come by rubbing my clit. It's fun, and I usually get close, but it doesn't end up working. So she fists me while I rub my own clit. Sometimes that works, but not always. If I'm just not feeling it, we give up at that point and maybe try again later. If I'm really desperate though, she washes up while I get out the Hitachi, and then she cuddles me while I use it. That usually works! So you can see, sometimes you have to try different things. It took a while for my wife not to feel like she'd failed when she couldn't do it herself...that's the big challenge for the other partner. But when you're on these meds, you gotta do what you gotta do, and it's nobody's fault if you can't.

Hope that helps!

 

[intothewoods]

This is my area of expertise! There is no AD that acts like Viagra. ...

Cialis! I think I was confusing Cialis with Celexa....Anyhoo.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Cialis! I think I was confusing Cialis with Celexa....Anyhoo.

Uh duh!